Post # 1
Hi, all! My husband and I just bought a house, and we are planning to invite our closest friends and family over for a little housewarming party. I’m just wondering – do the same etiquette rules apply to housewarming invitations as to wedding ones? I know on a wedding invitation you’d never include a “no gifts” line (or any mention of gifts/registries, for that matter). But what about in this case? We just don’t want people to feel compelled to spend money and bring us a gift. The point of the gathering is to get everyone together to celebrate our new home; not to fill it with presents. That said, I’d never show up at someone else’s house empty-handed, even if I just brought a bottle of wine our bouquet of flowers with me. So if someone else sent me an invitation with a “no gifts” request, I’d probably ignore it and feel half guily that I was going against their wishes. But I’d feel even MORE guilty not bringing anything! Clearly I’m overthinking this. So what’s everyone else’s take??
Post # 3
I would never expect gifts. I would just leave gifts out of the invites completely and say something along the lines of “come celebrate our new home with us for dinner etc”.
Post # 4
@LoveMikey: No invitation ever should have ‘No gifts” written on it.
A bottle of wine or a plant is a hostess gift given when you are invited to people’s homes. This is not a large item just something small, as a token of appreciation for your hosting.
As host make sure that you are not depending on this to “fuel” your party, and properly host your guests in whatever manner you choose.
Post # 5
@nickels: @andielovesj: Fair enough! I appreciate the feedback. I’d rather not include a gift line at all, but my husband brought it up yesterday, so I figured I’d ask. We both know our guests well enough that we’re sure certain family members will want to bring something regardless, but we don’t want our guests to feel compelled. The point of the party is just to hang out and have fun and “warm” our new house, NOT to get gifts. But if it’s better to just leave it off completely, I’m 100% fine with that!
Post # 6
You’re overthinking it. I think most people will give you a bottle of wine or a small houseplant or something.
If you’re really worried about the gifts aspect, don’t call it a housewarming – just have a party.