Post # 1
So, I am just wondering what other people do over the holidays when you (and your FI) and your siblings (and their SOs) have more than one family to visit? Fi’s family lives nowhere near my family, as is the situation with my siblings. So we have coordinated it so that one year we do the holidays with my family (all of us kids get together with the ‘rents) and the following year, we all scatter and do the holidays with our future-in-laws (and mom and dad enjoy the holidays with cousins, etc….or do things that us kids just don’t want to think about :)….but at least my parents have a healthy marriage!)
FI’s mom does not want an empty house during the holidays. So, she has orchestrated (dictated) that FI’s bro must be home this year (when Fiance and I are at my parent’s house) and next year…when Fiance and I are at his house, the bro will be with his SO…… I honestly think this is a terrible idea because it means that FI’s family will never all be together for the holidays….at least one brother will be missing if we alternate years going to his house….but this is the first year where one of FI’s bro’s won’t be home…so we shall see how it goes….
What do you guys think? How do you split up the holidays?
Post # 3
My brother and I live just 2 hours from our parents (we live in the same town). My brother’s in laws live in the same town that he and I live in. My DH’s dad lives about 3 hours away, and my DH’s mom lives about 9 hours away.
So, my brother and his wife always come up to my parents’ house on Christmas in the afternoon. They do Christmas eve with her family and Christmas morning themselves at home. We do my DH’s dad’s side the weekend before Christmas every year. We alternate Christmas with my family and my MIL’s. So basically my parents get to see my brother every year (for half a day) and us every other year (but for a 3-4 day visit). My Father-In-Law sees us every year but the week before Christmas, and my Mother-In-Law sees us every other year for a few days. My DH’s sister is single so she goes to my MIL’s house for christmas every year (she also comes the weekend before Christmas to see my FIL)
Post # 4
My siblings are all younger and not in this situation (though I am dreading the day that ALL of us have to balance this) but so far it’s worked pretty well with Future Brother-In-Law. FBIL and his Girlfriend try to be at FI’s family’s house the same time we are. Then Fiance and I leave for my family and they go to FBIL’s GF’s. Hopefully one day my bros & sis will do the same so we can all see eachother at the same time. If not 🙁
This is made a lot easier this year since we’ve moved back closer. We live within 30 mins of my parents and 30 mins (in the opposite direction) of his. We did it on purpose. Who knows where our siblings will all scatter to one day, but we’re both the oldest.
Post # 5
My brother is in the Army and across the country, so we see him very little during the holidays. When he is in town, I make it my mission to spend them with him. When he doesn’t come to town then my family is hit or miss as is DHs family. We got lucky with Thanksgiving. Alot of my family came into town and DHs family didn’t have a get together, so his mom came to our house then we all went to my dads. Somehow it all usually just works out.
Post # 6
My husband’s family lives in Georgia and my family lives up near us so we go to Georgia for Thanksgiving with his parents and 3 sisters and their families while my mom and brothers have Thanksgiving together up here.
Since my husband’s family is Jewish we spend Christmas Eve and Christmas with my mom and my brothers at my mom’s house and the second half of Christmas day at my dad’s house.
Post # 7
It is different every year. Pretty much a free-for-all at this point. I live near my Dad now and spend Thanksgiving at his sister’s house and Christmas Eve at his brother’s house with that side of my family. My sisters were just out at my mother’s for Thanksgiving. Last year for Thanksgiving I went to see some old childhood friends. This year I will see them on Christmas day. One year my sister had us to her house (my other sister and I) for Thanks. Yeah. It is pretty much different every year. One year I went to my mother’s for Christmas and no one else came. I wish my family got along, but I am done hoping!