Post # 1
Today is my birthday. Since my sister was going out of town for work this week, my family wanted to get together and take me and FI out to dinner. We went out last night on the eastside of the city. FI’s mom lives on the westside, so I figured she didn’t want to drive all the way to the eastside by herself for dinner (she’s cancelled on lunch/dinner plans before). FMIL called me to tell me happy birthday and said that she felt bad for missing my dinner last night. 🙁 Argh! Now I feel really bad.
1) I honestly thought she wouldn’t want to drive that far.
2) I thought that FI would arrange bday dinner for all 3 of us (me, FI, and FMIL).
What do I do now? Do I tell FI about the call? Or just leave it alone?
Post # 3
Leave it alone. I’ve had this situation many times, but mostly over little things. My mom and I went to try on accessories with my dress when she came for a visit, and my fmil got mad that we didnt invite her and didnt call her when we went for drinks after. She told me fi and not me. But I didnt say anything.
You can remember or have to include everyone in everything. I think it would have been different if it was your fi’s bday. But there is no shame in wanting to spend time with only your family.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t leave it alone. Tell you FI about it, and make plans with her to have dinner another night (the 3 of you), and just simply tell her your sorry and just explain. I’m sure she’ll understand. 🙂
Post # 5
I would make plans to hang out with her and FH a different time. And next time, invite her! Don’t assume she wouldn’t want to come over just because its a long drive.
Post # 6
I think you should apologize, and tell her it was not intentional. Just be sure to invite her out in the future whether you think she’ll go or not 🙂
Post # 7
@Ashley_B: Sometimes I do want to just relax and spend time with my family. I know FMIL is my future family, but its still work to make sure she’s comfortable and having a good time around my family. We’re still getting used to the whole idea of joining families.
@amberdk: @SaucyMcgee: I’ve apologized on the phone multiple times. Next time, I’ll know to invite and not rely on FI to say something.
Post # 8
@coffeegal85: It takes effort forsure! But I guess my example was bad cause I only see my mom ever few months…