NWR: I am frustrated and would like…either advice or commiseration!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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161 posts
Blushing bee

@peachacid:  I had a friend like this. I was constantly the one calling and texting her and she only ever replied when she had nothing better to do and no one else to hang out with. We were supposed to be best friends but after 10 years of this friendship I saw how one sided it was. I sent her a text one day and she never replied, and that was the end of our friendship.  I decided to not let her use me for anything anymore and put an end to it on my part. I  really have no advice, just similar experience. It really sucks going through stuff like this. 

Post # 4
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2114 posts
Buzzing bee

@peachacid:  ah that sucks. Is she just bad with answering back or is she terrible friend all around? (excluding the time you spend together which appears to be good).

I can be bad about responding sometimes. and my BFF can be the same way. We are usually pretty good but sometimes I am busy when i get a text or call and forget to reply back.

I was pretty upset when i found out through someone else that my BFF was pregnant. I was so mad she didn’t tell me. I didn’t say anything and just waited, turned out she wanted to tell me in a special way when we saw eachother and actually gave the news as part of a xmas gift. I was really touched and never told her i knew before hand (or that i was mad). Maybe she wants to tell you in person?

not an excuse for not replying at all though!

Post # 5
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3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@peachacid:  did you call her? I have a friend like this too. We are still friends though, I just got used to it

Post # 6
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5199 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Boo!  That sucks!  I am someone who is known for not answering my phone, but I did call/text my best friends within a couple days of getting engaged to let them know.  Some people should find out first hand.

Post # 7
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2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@peachacid:  I’ve been the friend like this. I am notorious for not keeping in contact with people. I genuinely care about the people who I am not updating about life, I swear. It’s a skill I am working on.

On the flip side, I’ve had friends that genuinely lost interest in my life and our friendship, and I took it as a sign that the friendship had run its course once phone calls dwindled to a handful of times a year. Even I can do better than that.

Post # 10
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3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@peachacid:  yea ugh I hear you. I’ve given up on some friends. It sucks. 

Post # 11
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@peachacid:  Well if she’s still on the cruise she might not have reception. Every cruise I’ve ever been on my cell was completely useless until I got back into the States. 

But otherwise, she might not be calling because you know her ugly past with her FI. I know when I was dating douches I shouldn’t have, I didn’t share any news with my BFF because I knew she wouldn’t be happy for me. She was right, obviously, and I wouldn’t have felt the need to shut her out if I didn’t know my relationship was shitty. Sucked for her and me too! 

I hope she’s just without cell reception and enjoying her cruise. Hopefully she’ll share with you as soon as she’s back. 

Post # 12
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1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  if she is on a cruise it’s probably hard for her to get phone service and I personally like to stay disconnected on vacations.

Post # 13
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193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@peachacid:  When I got engaged we were on vacation and I waited until we were back to tell my parents in person, then called my friends after that.  I usually ignore my phone on vacation, and I know a lot of people who turn their’s off.  I know it’s annoying, but I would wait it out. 

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