Post # 1
I just need to vent a little….
My Korean neighbour’s British boyfriend decided to move in during the spring. All was nice and quiet beside me for a year and a half before that. Well…as soon as he moves in, they start fighting ALL the time. Now, when other neighbours have the occasional fight, it’s in Korean, so I can turn off my ears. Not so with this guy and his loud booming voice screaming obscenities I can understand. They had A LOT of problems over the summer (she works in a bar…he’s jealous…she sees him talkin to girls in her bar…she’s jealous)….and I got to hear all of them because they were completely incapable of fighting inside!!! They could only fight outside my window….or on our shared staircase….or by going repeatedly inside and outside of our shared gate (lots of gate slamming there). At one point he told her ‘from now on you will do exactly as I tell you…’ and then kicked in her glass door. The landlord had to clean up his blood which was spattered all over the staircase. A week later, after he returned again, she ran screaming from the house and he called after her that he was going to lock her out of her house forever. Nice guy hun?
Well THEN they got back together….spent most of September telling each other how much they loved each other (under my open window again)…until….they had another fight again. During the fight…she left…and they decided to have a fight on the phone. It was 130am….and the boyfriend decided to SIT ON THE DARK STREET outside my bedroom window and scream at her. It was so loud I could even hear HER screaming back on the cell phone through two panes of glass! I got up and told him to have their phone fight inside, and he was extremely rude to me and told me …well you can imagine.
Since then, they have gotten back together again…but their house has now turned into party zone. It is after 11 pm here…and FI has just gone to bed because he needs to be up at 6am. They’ve just decided that 11pm is a great time to start playing very loud music with the bass turned up, so my walls are literally moving. Their English speaking friends also love to hang out outside my window on occasion, so I get to hear their conversations too.
I can’t really do anything…the police won’t do anything because they consider domestic problems/abuse a personal problem…my landlord is completely ineffectual…and the guy has already proved himself to be violent so I’m not about to provoke him. I’ll probably be moving in 3 or 4 months anyway, and they aren’t loud ALL the time…just a few times a week….but I just needed to vent and get it out.
Anyone else with not so lovely neighbours???
Post # 3
Oh man, how awful. I’m sorry. 🙁 That really does sound terrible and that guy has some serious issues. I’m glad you get to move soon. I’ve had some pretty horrible neighbors myself. Luckily, right now at least, they’re all wonderful.
Post # 4
Oh man, I feel your pain – so sorry to hear about your neighbors, and that domestic abuse is considered a “personal problem” by the police!
I have some not so lovely neighbors (but at least they are not abusive and violent, like yours!):
Our next door neighbor (2-3 unit house that’s been converted into apartments), collects a band of young adults who more flop than rent from her. They smoke a bunch of different substances, all the time. The landlord is more interested in cultivating a commune than in renting property – she has told us as much. Our “fave” tenant of hers we’ve named Captain Underpants – as he sits on his deck (which looks straight into our dining room), in his tighty-whities and nothing else, and sings at the top of his lungs and plays guitar. Sometimes they will be quiet at night, but then they will sometimes party 7 days a week, for weeks at a time, with the parties going from 10pm-4am.
The kicker was that one night this past summer, FH and I woke up because we had our windows open, and our smoke alarm goes off at 2am. We are like WTH – look out the window, and their deck/house is ON FIRE. Like, fully engulfed, with flames shooting up the side of their house to the second story. We call 911, and I run out in my jammies and start banging on their door to wake them up. Finally one of them comes to the door, I say “your house is on fire, we’ve called 911” – without a word, he slams the door in my face.
We’ve never gotten so much as a thank-you from them for saving their lives, and the first day their deck was replaced (it had to be demolished) they had a huge party, and were throwing cigarette butts off their upper deck – which is what started the first fire.
Post # 5
That sucks! Even if they won’t come over a domestic fight (ugh! What is wrong with some police forces!?) can you call in a noise complaint? I mean really, if they’re screaming about anything, be it a fight or just for the heck of it, then the police should be able to come and write them a citation or something…
Post # 6
ugh! My worst neighbor isn’t nearly that bad – the guy downstairs must smoke like a chimney, ’cause I can feel the lung cancer developing every time I set foot in our bathroom (open piping… ), and someone upstairs is learning to play the piano. Both totally bearable though!
I’m sorry they’re so … obnoxious!
Post # 7
That’s terrible! Good you get to get out of their soon though. I know the bad neighbor thing, I have had a few in the past. Hopefully, at your new place you will live next to some very kindly quiet elderly people or something!
Post # 8
wow, that guy sounds a bit dangerous! geesh.
Post # 9
I’ll save it for a time where I am not already on the verge of tears, but I hate hate hate hate some of my neighbors.
Never buy into an Owners Association.
Post # 10
Aww, I’m sorry to hear you have to be exposed to all that drama. We’re actually lucky to have very nice neighbours. They’re all quiet, keep to themselves, courteous when I pass them in the hallways. I did once live in a sorority house and that was extremely crazy, it was drama every day with the girls and their boyfriends, with the fighting, screaming, etc. I know how that can take a toll on your mental health. It’s good you’re moving soon. Just hang in there!
Post # 11
Oh jeesh, that is horrible! I can’t imagine, I’d be flipping out regularly. If anyone messes with my sleep I’m a lunatic lol. I really hope they break up for good or at least for these next 4-5. When you leave you should leave a mean note! Ok, don’t do that but it’d be waranteed!
Post # 12
@gabrielleelise yikes their DECK/HOUSE was on fire?!!! and they SLAMMED THE DOOR IN YOUR FACE? I must say I snorted with laughter at ‘captain underpants’ but I know in real life that would not be enjoyable.
@greenleafmountain…I’d be terrified of the ramifications if he ever found out it was me who called the police…and anyway, since we’re both foreigners the police don’t want to deal with us. They would probably laugh at me if I wanted to complain about noise. There are some people who get in trouble for ‘minor’ offenses, but there’s still a very strong culture of paying money instead of getting charged here. So if there is an accident/brawl….and yes, rape….the police actively encourage ‘blood money’ instead of persuing a charge/trial.
thanks for all your stories and support!!!! sometimes you just need someone to tell you ‘this is NOT normal!’
Post # 13
Wow, that’s terrible!! We actually had to call the police about our neighbors last night. They were fighting very loudly and it sounded extremely dangerous. When my husband called the police, they said they already had an officer on the way. Someone else must have called. This is the 2nd time the police have been there since they moved in early this month. Ugh!
Post # 14
I have some really awful neighbors, too…loud, messy, really trashy, etc. I’ve had to call the authorities several times to report illegal firework use, excess noise long after midnight, petty theft in broad daylight, and severe animal neglect. Thank goodness I’m getting out soon!
Post # 15
I have absolutely horrible neighbors. We live in the three story word framed condo, and our unit is on the second floor. I have obnoxious neighbors who liver directly below me. The woman who lives below me is late 30’s going on 18. She constantly plays loud music and smokes pot and cigarettes right below my window (Since she lives on the bottom floor, she has decided the whole common area in the front of our building is her “yard”). She doesn’t work and is always home, so I never get some peace and quiet. Two summers ago she bought an outdoor fireplace (for an apartment, yup) and I came back from camping to have my unit filled with woodsmoke! We asked her politely once to stop using it – she didn’t- then we asked not so nicely. She finally did. I could ramble on about this woman for hours, but that is enough for now. I can’t wait to move out of this building – we are only here for the cheap rent while we are saving up to buy a place!
Post # 16
Girl – I hear ya!
I have been in the same apartment for 5 years. When I first moved in it was waaay above what I could afford (great neighborhood, excellent accomodations, etc.) and my parents actually had to help me out. The building was all filled with older people or couples in their late 30’s. NOW the building is filled with college age kids (the rents have gone way down due to the economy) who party all the time and never seem to hang out anywhere besides their apartments! The guy above me always has friends over and it sounds like he is taking dance lessons or moving furniture 24/7. Also, people put up walls to fit more in and save money which means so many people slamming in and out of the building 24/7. I am sooo ready to move, but we just signed a 2-year lease b/c the rent is so good!