Post # 1
….but I kept my hands to myself, because I don’t just start attacking people.
Sorry, can I rant for a second? I’m really fuming.
My co-worker makes my blood boil. I apparently had rage burning in my eyes obvious enough for FI to pull me aside and tell me to “breath”. My co-worker reminds me of a punk. I’m just trying to do my job when my loud-mouthed co-worker starts off on a rant about women. How it’s IMPOSSIBLE for a woman to have a man for a friend because she secretly wants to screw him. How women only play mind games, blah blah…I was ignoring it just fine, because I’m used to his big mouth by now.
What set me off was he spoke to a passing co-worker in a loud voice. “Hey x, fuck bitches, right?”
I really, REALLY wanted to hurt him. He’s a fellow human being so I’m civil but I’m far from cordial. I can’t even pretend to be friendly towards him because I just see all this ugliness coming out of his mouth.
This isn’t highschool, why do grown adults still act like this?
I can’t even report his numerous sexist comments because my boss just makes everyone play nice by apologizing to eachother instead of actually punishing anyone.
Sorry, just one of those days. I normally have a “water off your back” mindset but for some reason this just really angered me and I’m still stewing, wasting away my hard earned weekend feeling disgusted over having to come back to work on Monday. How this pig is even married is beyond me. Maybe she finds his sexist remarks charming.
Post # 2
I would report his comments. He is misogynistic and ignorant. I don’t care about playing ‘nice’ does your boss have a boss?? Go to THEM!
I am glad you managed to control your rage, because there is never an excuse for clocking someone, no matter how stupid they are.
Post # 3
Floofy: Ugh what a douche!
I am usually one to avoid confrontation and play the nice card, but that would make me mad too and I am not sure if i could have held my tongue.
Sad thing is his wife probably DOESNT find it charming.
Post # 4
I don’t suggest you get into a fight, but I would also not stand back and say nothing. Until you make it clear to this person that it is not OK to talk like that he will continue to do so, and your co-workers will also be afraid to speak up.
Post # 5
I would report his comments. Tell your boss that you would like to make a report against this coworker and his comments because he made you feel threatened, denigrated, and harrassed for being a woman in your workplace. Also let your boss know that you are going to start keeping a personal record of your coworker’s comments.
Using language like this should give your complaint an “official” air that your boss will find harder to sweep under the rug. Hopefully he takes action against this asshole.
I hope you do something about this, because this asshole sounds like a relative of the douche who shot all those people in Santa Barbara last week. We have to stop letting shit like this go.
Post # 6
(Sorry, never learned how to reply to multiple people at once)
The boss owns the company, so no. I’m going to speak to my supervisor on monday about it and see if that will shut him up for good. Right now I’m just so incredibly sick of his very existance and I’m dreading having to speak to him if the boss has his way with the whole “now kiss and make up” method he uses. I’m trying my hardest NOT to alert the boss because I don’t want someone’s fake apology. I want them to shut up, as rude as that is.
I wouldn’t put my hands on another human being(or animal!) in anger. No matter how angry I felt, but Lord, I have to be honest…I really, really felt like hitting him. I walked away and literally cooled down in the bathroom with cold water, because I was seething. It’s not just today, it’s just day after day of his constant nastiness.
Sadly, FI and I are in the minority on this. Everyone else laughs at his mean jokes, everyone else loves the guy because he’s oh-so-charismatic. No one ever looks upset by what he says, maybe I’m too sensitive…
I feel like I’m back in the 90s with the “bitches and hoes” music videos, only this is real life at work. I put things into perspective that this isn’t the end of the world, but I still feel angry.
Post # 7
Floofy: Tell the boss that his “make nice” solution doesn’t work for you. Insist that this person be sent for sensitivity training. You have a right to a “safe” workplace. Do you live where there is Occupational Healthand Safety legislation? Contact them.
Do you have Human Rights legislation where you live? If you do, tell the Boss that if he doesn’t take some serious action you wil be filing a complaint with the Human Rights Tribunal (or equivalent where you live.).
Post # 8
I don’t get why you don’t call him out on his shit…. you’re a grown up why are you waiting for other people to take care of you? I would verbally eviserate him, why not? kiss and make up is just going to make you sick to your stomach and it’s not going to work. Maybe he’ll back the eff up on his comments if he’s put in his place.
Post # 9
I’m going to see if my supervisor can warn him first, because we only have twelve people and losing a co-worker hurts the whole team. If he has an “ah hah” moment and keeps his ugliness to himself, then all is peachy. If I hear something like this again, then I’ll have to write a formal complaint. Honestly, as much as I detest hearing him, I don’t get the impression that he’s a malicious person. He’s just…an idiot who makes really bad and offensive jokes to get attention. People laugh at it so he must be funny….right? I’ll be the only one(and maybe FI) to inform him that he’s not funny.
As much as I wanted to go off on him, what would that change? If I’m forced to report him, then he can report me as well because I acted just as badly. I don’t want to risk my job over putting some jerk in his place.
Post # 10
Going for a jog. I don’t drink when I’m unhappy so I’m turning my stress into something positive. 🙁