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I have a classmate at law school that recently posted this as her status:
just found out that I have been cheated on. Need support because I am now pregnant and going through a divorce! God help me through finals.
I would NEVER advertise that on Facebook. Thoughts?
I think that is TMI but some people post every time they go to the bathroom so I guess it's one of those things. I have friends who post all their relationship drama and woes and I just don't get it. To me that is not the place.
Nope. People tend to overshare on facebook and I prefer to keep things light.
I don't get it either. My FB posts are so non personal. I post pics of my daughter or I will just post about the pretty day LOL. I wouldn't want the whole world knowing my relationship was falling apart. I have the same friends though, that do this. I have hidden most of these streams.
Hell to the no. It's no one's business but mine and I wouldn't want to share that pain with others.
Posting something like that just kind of screams attention whore to me.
Nope, that would just make it worse and as MissPumpkinPie said, I would be too embarassed.
no way,I have people on my facebook that I am not close friends with,but maybe went to school with or something,and I would not want them to be privy to that sort of personal information. However, if close friends asked, I would tell them,partly because of the support and also because he did the deed,he should face up to the consequences,which may include friends no longer wanting contact with him.
I don't think I would and if I did it would not be a poor me style post. It would probably be some kind of roast outing what he did.
Anywho...what a sleeze...cheating on pregnant wife...
There is no way I would post things like that on facebook! I have some of my younger cousins that post EVERYTHING on there and everytime they have a fight with their bf/gf, it gets old and I really don't need to know all the little details.
I hope it never happens, but I voted no. Some things are just too personal to post.
I'm going to say "maybe" because I just don't know what I'd do in that situation. While I agree that some things are too personal, sometimes anger/hurt gets the best of a person.
Oh god, perfect example of an attention whore. There are some things that need to remain off of FB and infidelity is one of them. It’s one thing to share what’s happening with those close to you but it’s completely inappropriate to post it to the internet for all to see.
I voted no. And as I've been through a divorce, I guess I can say what I would do. The only reason to post something like that might be to just get the news out there. I can't tell you how painful it was to repeatedly have acquaintences come up to me for months afterward asking how my ex-husband was doing because they hand't heard the news yet. A facebook post would take care of that pretty quick. Still, I wouldn't do it.
AnneTossy -That is too funny.
It's one thing to say you're getting a divorce but to include all the details for everyone to see just seems unnecessary to me. I definitely wouldn't post that information on there, it's no one elses business.
I have a different take on this. I don't necessarily think she is being an attention whore. It sounds like she "just found out" and is in a lot of pain. Sometimes, when people are in a lot of pain, they will do things they would not normally do- they are screaming out for help. If this woman does not typically overshare on facebook, then I would take this recent overshare as evidence that she is in shock and that she is acting impetuously and inappropriately because she is not thinking straight due to the trauma of her husband cheating. In other words, give her some grace and maybe even reach out to her. She may be oversharing on facebook because she doesn't have a shoulder to cry on.
Just....ugh.
I hate those pooor-me posts. That is horrible, don't get me wrong, but is making it your facebook status really necessary?
No I would NEVER post that on Facebook! I agree with AnneTossy lmaoooo!! Be too busy seeking out how to make his life miserable. The worst part about that is...what happens if she eventually accepts his apologies and doesnt want her to kid to grow up without a Dad??? She will have to explain to everyone on her friends list why 6 months later she has family pics on her profile. You should never share the inner workings of your rltshp with anyone b/c if he offends you and you forgive him later. You now look like a fool in the eyes of your family and friends.
No, I really don't understand the purpose of over-sharing on facebook. That's a bit ridiculous.
I would never post anything like that. However, I see where the person mentioned is coming from. It sounds like she's looking for support when her world is turned upside down. I'd imagine she might not have the support she needs if she didn't mention and the friends rallied around her cheating husband. It would make her situation much worse and unbearable. I can only imagine what she's going through with the stress of law school, pregnancy, and now a divorce.
I would never post something that personal. I have a FB friend who posts about everything she does and she posted multiple posts when her husband cheated and they were getting divorced, and now they are back together. I ended up deleating her.
I will be honest and say I would most certainly think about it but I wouldn't actually do it. Revenge always seems like it would be so sweet in a situation like that but honestly you just end up lookig crazy. It may feel satisfying for her at the moment to tell everyone what a douche this guy is but it just isn't something all of your "Not so closest friends" need to see.
Personally, no I would not. But it might help her mentally if she tells everyone about it, who knows. The next time you see her, I would recommend saying something like "Hey I saw your status and I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, let me know if you need to talk"
No, I'd never post anything that personal. Nor would I post anything that in any way asks for pity. I just find that inappropriate.
If a friend of mine posted that and wasn't normally an oversharer, attention seeker, I'd understand...but still, I'd not do it myself (and yes, I was in that position once and I never discussed it on FB).
I do have a FB friend who posted something similar when her husband cheated on her while away on a business trip. They went to counseling and eventually worked things out. But due to her oversharing, now all of her 400+ FB friends know about the incident and what a "worthless lying cheating scumbag" (her words) she thought he was.
Gosh, NO! I'd be so embarrassed. I always find it so incredibly awkward when people air their dirty laundry on fb. Like the couple who's always set to "it's complicated". You think anyone needs to know that!? Grow up or break up.
OR, the married couple who just had a big long drawn-out fb argument in which the new woman was commenting on the thread and the (now ex) wife was calling the girl "your whore". AWKWARD. :/
@AnneTossy: Ahahaha!
I agree with most of the responses, especially those about embarrassment. I can also see the other side with the shock, etc.
After I posted this poll, she put up another status that has his picture, description, hometown and the story of how it happened and she found out. She then proceeds to say he has PTSD from being a war veteran. It seems like that could be dangerous for her and her children...
Even if I wanted to, which I don't, I couldn't because I work in social media and that would obviously be frowned upon. But that aside, that's not something I would feel comfortable sharing!
I would never. The people who need to know or should know, will find out, either through myself or my husband, but I'm not going to broadcast it on Facebook for everyone and their mom to know.
@MrsCoachBtoBee: OMG. Why would she do that?? That does sound dangerous!
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