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This is a bit long so my apologies...

My father is in town this weekend and I honestly dont want to see him. My sister asked me to come out tonight to dinner with her, her kids, and my father and I explained I had a prior engagement to go to and she got all pissy. I dont feel like I should spend time with a person I have no relationship with (meaning my father). Not to mention once he finds out about my SO (I refuse to hide him) he will freak. My family is 100% jewish and my SO is half syrian (greek orthodox) and half italian (catholic). I know if that conversation comes up I am going to say things and it will end up in a very very big confrontation. Why the heck is she being so pissy when she knows how things are.. uggggh!

A small back story.. my parents got divorced when I was 13 months old.. I have had nor do I have a relationship with my father except for a $200 check for my birthday and flowers for v-day. When I had my almost- fatal car accident he came to the hospital for about an hour.. stayed in my hotel room while I slept and he was on his laptop the entire time. Then he went out to dinner with my sister and left. 

Sorry ladies I just needed to vent. I am ready for the fall out once I get engaged from my extended family, but honestly I dont feel like I need my fathers approval or opinion. I have already told my mom I planned on asking my step dad if he and my mom would walk me down the aisle (once things are official) as he has been more of a dad figure to me since he married my mom in 2006 then my father has my entire life.

Does your sister have a closer relationship to him? Is there a reason he would treat her differently and she wouldn't have these same feelings towards him? Sounds like she's making an effort to maintain a relationship with him and upset why you are not doing the same. 

@girlwitharing- My dad disowned this sister when she got married to her Irish catholic husband back in 1999. When she started having kids in 2001 he sort of came back around but for that to continue she has to make 90% of the effort. I personally feel like I have NEVER had a relationship with him and I honestly dont want one.. he cheated on my mom with her best friend and treated my mom like crap. I dont want to surround myself with people like that.

@Misshelen Probably not.. but there isnt anything else I can do..

@Misshelen very very true.. :D Thanks!