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First of all, pull out your biggest smile, and go see if you can find a part time job now (perhaps you could start training on weekends) at a local pharmacy. My friend tried that after explaining that she's going to school to try to get into pharmacy school, and after a few tries, found an understanding pharmacist and manager. It just takes a little time! Especially if you're working only on weekends at first, it helps them out a little "cost-wise," and you'll save money faster to quit your job. Also, all the retail places help you get your license, so no worries there. (I know CVS helps you, definitely.)
Second, don't feel bad about your education, because you're doing something about it. And studying is hard! I never had to study before college, so it kills me now. Try having other people explain it to you as you go along--I've found that helps. Make notes to yourself on the margins of each page, asking yourself questions. None of us is so smart to always know the answers, or else we wouldn't have been in school so long!
Third, you're making your life better! Of course Mr. Tacos will still want to date you--it's sexy when a girl takes good risks, does well, and has confidence! And when more of this stuff settles, you'll feel better and better about it.
Good luck tacos, and lots of hugs!!!!
Ok, it seems like you have a lot on your plate. I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this right now. It's a heavy burden.
That being said, this is so do-able. I think once you start to make the moves you're scared to take, you'll feel more at peace with the decisions.
It's obvious that you're an intelligent, driven person so you can't limit yourself to a job where you're not appreciated. You'll get into your associates program, it will be a big adjustment but eventually you'll get a stride going and you'll feel so empowered and that will motivate you to keep going. Once you're done with your associates I encourage you to move forward, it seems the 2 year degree's don't get you much farther than a HS degree anymore.
Having less of an income will also be an adjustment but it'll work. You will just have to be mindful of how much you have, how much your bills are and what you have after that. Spending time with friends should be considered in the budget because its not realistic to nix that out, you'll go crazy.
And I'm confident that Mr. Taco will be there to support you along the way. What man wouldn't want his significant other to better themselves? You'll have to communicate with him your fears and your stressors though. Otherwise there could be some tension within the relationship and you don't want that!
Finding a part-time job may be difficult but you just have to make that a job in and of itself. If you devote most of your days to it, if you have an understanding that it may not be the most glamourous job (at least right away), you'll find something. Because remember, its just a stepping stone, you just need some money while you're improving your quality of life.
Hope this helps a little :)
I think it's great that you are planning to take some risks to get a degree and take your career to the next level. It's not going to be fun to reduce spending, but definitely doable. You can cook instead of eating out and have friends over or meet up for coffee instead of going out to eat. You can buy fewer new items of clothing each quarter and take more time to look for sales and good deals. I think it's going to be very very worth it.
As for Mr. Tacos, I actually think you should talk to him about how you're feeling. If you are both on the same page about your plans and how they will affect the relationship and you've talked about the bumps in the road that may come up as a result, he will know what to expect. I think the right guy for you will never stop dating you because you're starting to follow your dreams =)
... aaaaaand breath. Tacos. Breath. You have so much on your plate, and frankly anyone with that kind of responsibility paired with your drive would be overwhelmed. You can do this. I'm not good with the long pieces of advice, because I'm in the same situation you are- minus what is going to be a helpful degree as opposed to my "what the heck am I going to do with this?" English degree. We love you!
First of all, thank you ladies. From the bottom of my heart. This is such a huge life change for me, and I've been hesitant to beat a dead horse with my social circle. I've never been in a position where I've had to depend on anyone for any period of time financially, and that scares me!
Mr. Tacos and I have had very blunt conversations about this and he's taking care of everything. He currently pays for groceries, and he will lend me money for clothing and to socialize with my friends. I hate debt, so I believe that is the most difficult part. Anytime Mr. Tacos lends me something, I pay him back within the same week.
But my living expenses will amount to roughly $650/month, not including food, medical, or school costs. Plus, I won't get much of a loan because of last year's salary. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.
I'm sorry you're so stressed. I used to work in a pharmacy (front cash - supervisor type job)when I was in high school, and I would suggest going this route. I saw so many people go from cashier/supervisor to pharmacy tech. And the store paid for training and sometimes even a pharmacy degree. This is definitely a way to get in, if you can't immediately start back in the pharmacy :) Good luck!
You're so brave for doing this. It's really amazing, and I hope you're able to be proud of yourself right now, even in the midst of all the scary.
You're clearly intelligent, driven and capable of making sacrifices in the short term to ensure future security - all the ingredients for lasting success.
I know what you mean about the hair and the nails and such. It's unpleasant to have to give those up, but it's interesting how little you miss them after a few months. And don't worry about Mr. Tacos. I think women tend to overestimate the degree to which men notice or care about some elements of personal appearance that we think are essential. He clearly sees who you are and what you're capable of, and I'd bet those qualities are what he finds most attractive about you.
Take the leap of faith, thats what life is all about! Good luck with everything, xoxoxo
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I think it is better I share this, somewhat anonymously, here... rather than to my friends, Mr. Taco, or family. There have to be some Bees in my situation, or some that have been...
*sigh* Well, here goes.
I am 26, and because I came from a family who didn't believe college was necessary, I began working immediately out of highschool (I had to drop out my senior year because said family did not bother to see if records would transfer in our state to state move. I was demoted to freshman.)
Luckily, I got into a field that pays relatively well, considering I don't have an education. It is a field that dwindles, though, and I have now found not only do I not have job options other than where I am working (other companies has gone out of business), but I have no leverage to move up. I would need to get an MBA to stay here and make the money I want. I also work for a company who has continually lied about their intentions with me, and I am frustrated and burned out. They then took away a great deal of the extra responsibilities I enjoyed, which I believe happened because my manager felt threatened.
I am going to college next fall, to begin my Associate's degree so that I can completely pre-pharmacy courses and hopefully get into pharmacy school. I am trying to save enough money so that I can quit ASAP, but it doesn't appear that will happen until the end of June. I hope to hang on as long as I can.
I'm frustrated that as a "gifted" student, I have forgotten the most basic mathematic operations. I am taking a placement test this Saturday. I've been studying, which also frustrates me, because I have never had to study before.
On top of that, once I leave my current job, I have no idea how it will be not to have money. I like to look nice and take care of myself, which costs something. I would like to wear newer clothing every quarter. Not expensive, just a few things from Old Navy or H&M that are appropriate for the season. Transportation to see my friends will cost money. Having lunch will cost money.
A part time job would work, but I have friends who can't even find that. A part time job as a pharmacy technician would be nice - I'll need to get a license, but there is no way to get "in". Most companies hire from within their retail platform and pay the techs to get a license.
And what of Mr. Tacos? He is the most wonderful person for encouraging this. But what happens if he doesn't want to date me?
I know I have to do this. That I can say for certain. But I'm in a total funk now and again because it is a huge sacrifice to leave everything that kept me stable and trust someone else to be there.