(Closed) NWR: Job-related, how to approach FI?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

would he be able to get a job that pays the same or better than he makes now in your hometown?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I have the same question as kitzy.  Does he not want to go just because he would prefer to stay in HIS town.  Or is he concerned about his career path in your hometown?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

This is hard – it sounds like FI is unwilling to move, but you want to move.  You guys need to talk through this and work out some sort of a compromise. 

You mentioned your Dad has offered FI jobs in your home town before.  Perhaps your Dad offering FI jobs isn’t the answer.  FI might not want to work with/for your Dad and would rather find his own path. 

Have you been looking for jobs in your current city?  Does FI realize how much you hate your job?  Have you talked to him about his lack of excitement about this opportunity for you? 

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t have much to say other than I feel your pain. I’m from Texas and want desperately to move back. The job market is better too! My family is there and DH’s is here… in VA… where it costs my business a min. of 3k more a year to operate not to mention more taxes and more expensive housing. The house we have now is great, but it would be 1/2 the price back home… and for the money we spent we could have a very nice large “custom” home with gourmet kitchen. 

I can completely relate to your struggles so I just want to say, hang in there. 

Who is the primary “breadwinner.” Is it you or him? What will happen if you take the job and he doesn’t get one? What are the financial repercussions of picking up and moving? The cost of the move, selling a home or breaking lease, etc… 

We’ve toyed with finding a “neutral” territory to move to… would he be up for that? Our problem is that my idea of “neutral” still involves texas… lol 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve been mulling over a response,  but I’m curious:  did you meet in FI’s hometown or move there after you had established the relationship? 

My husband and I met in my hometown as we both attended college there.  He opted to stay post college socially and I stayed for similar reasons but if he wanted me to move 3.5 hours away to live in his home town it would be a hard decision and difficult for me for many reasons.

Good luck with your talk tonight and the job situation in general!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Now that I paid attention to your location information there may be more to it than just him liking his town.  It looks like you guys live in Westchester and you want to move to Albany?  There is a big difference in moving that far away from the city.  Does he go into the city a lot?  If he is used to having one of the best cities in the world in his back yard it would be a really big adjustment to move upstate.  I would assume there must be tons of possibilities for you to find a better work situation if you commuted in.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@TinyTina: Well in that case what is his problem?  Tell him to stop being a stick in the mud.  Seriously though he needs to be willing to compromise because this would be a good opportunity for BOTH of you.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@TinyTina:he hates the city?? what are his reasons for not wanting to move then?

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