- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I have this huge pet peeve. And when I say huge, I mean HUGE. It takes over my entire body until I actually want to strangle people.
I really, really, really, really, really hate people who complain about finances [IE “Please, I can’t afford food on my table, I’m so hungry, will you please buy me something?”] then go out and spend whatever money they do have on unnecessary items [IE, new dogs, the latest in cellphone technology, etc.] I have this one person, let’s call her Nora, who is doing this RIGHT FREAKING NOW to me. “Oh, you’re so lucky you get to have such a big and beautiful wedding next month, it’s amazing how much you’re doing, and I’m so jealous…I can’t afford anything with my wedding, my dress is even on layaway waiting on the last payments, I’m really envious of you…” and a few days after that “future.mcguffee, can you PLEASE help me out? Can you send me some cash for [xyz]? You know how short I am on money…” Well, I am too, and while it actually hurt me not to send her money…I literally cannot spare a nickel right now, and pennies are worthless anymore…I had to tell her no. Which pissed her off. “I can’t even afford to put food on the table, much less have the wedding of my dreams, and here you are with everything and you can’t even spare $xxx? You’re such a bad friend!!” I chose not to respond.
Today, Nora, darling Nora, went out and bought an AKC registered Yorkie. For $600. Plus, you know, the vet bills, food, toys, and damage repair (I have yet to meet a puppy that came out of the womb knowing how to do it’s business outside and that doesn’t like to chew on anything). I have heard no end of how crappy I am to not send her money (because she desperately needs it, can we not tell?) when she’s starving… So what business does she have asking me for money and/or buying a dog? She’s starving. I do not doubt this; she’s as skinny as a rail. So she’s going to make this puppy starve with her? And throw down 600 on it while telling me I’m horrid for not sending her anything?
It’s something that’s always bugged me. My non-data, dumb phone (as opposed to smart..get it?) serves me just well with the things I need when I need them. For a whopping $15 a month. My priorities are a roof over my head, my bills paid, food in my stomach, then the other stuff. There’s a difference between a need and a want. Need is what it takes to survive–food, shelter, water. Want are the modcons–cellphones, laptops, internet, tv, pets.