NWR just need something off my chest.

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Future.McGuffee:  “I can’t even afford to put food on the table, much less have the wedding of my dreams, and here you are with everything and you can’t even spare $xxx? You’re such a bad friend!!”

SOO RUDE. That would be it for me – f her.

Post # 4
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh wow, she’s a friend? Like, not family? I would be pretty flabbergasted if a friend asked me for money to feed herself…or for anything really, without me offering to help first…I mean, I guess I would help but you are not her mother. You are not responsible for her, so why on earth is she expecting this from you? 

Post # 5
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1823 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

 

I am totally with you, this drives me crazy. I have a very low tolerance for that crap. It makes me think “of course you’re broke because you waste money on stupid crap”! Obviously I can’t say anything like that to a friend though. One thing that helps me is that I’m kind of a cheapskate, I don’t talk about money and a lot of people think I’m worse off than than I am. So far that has been helpful in keeping people from asking for money lol

Post # 7
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1823 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Future.McGuffee:  lol maybe a little much. Of course even that probably wouldn’t be enough for someone as tactless as Nora

Post # 9
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293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No freaking way…that’s insane! If it were me and she bugged me again I’d tell her off (and I’m one of the most passive people I know!) how can she not see the irony?

Post # 10
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1823 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Future.McGuffee:  I was just replying to your comment about asking for alms downtown. It was mostly a joke because it sounds like your friend is so aggressive about asking for money that even if you you did that, she’d still expect you to give her money.

Post # 12
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3407 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes.

I agree with everything you have written. My peeve is normally around people that plead poor but are spending their income on cigarettes (expensive in Aus), alcohol or drugs.

You have to make choices, and if you choose to drink/ smoke/ whatever over feeding yourself, that is not my problem!

Post # 14
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I get this all the time, people think because im having an overseas honeymoon, a brand new dress etc and because we bought a car and house I must have money baths each night. I dont. FI and I save our cahoonies off and have absolutly no spare cash whatsoever untill after the honeymoon. Seriously each cent is accounted for.

For my birthday/housewarming FI bought me a puppy Keeya who is a purebred border collie, she was bought off of an aunt of his so only cost $250. We also got her as she is highly active to match our golden retreiver x lab so now that he has a friend Keeya is really saving us money on damage control!!

I have been repeatedly told from the same coworker that buying Keeya was a waste of money (she doesnt know the cost) and that I could of rescued a dog. Yet a month or so later she bought a cavalier x poodle who cost $995 plus she had to travel to pick him up, to do so she had to hire a car….

 

 

Post # 15
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919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Future.McGuffee:  She sounds like a terrible friend. My friends and I don’t ask each other for money like that, maybe if we’re out and short on money for lunch but nothing big. You don’t owe her anything.

Post # 16
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2429 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Future.McGuffee:  UGH, this sounds just like a friend of ours we recently reconnected with. She got so mad at us for not sending us money for her electric bill — mind you, this was in the first week of talking to her after not hearing a thing from her in two years.

Huge pet peeve of mine too! It’s called learn how to make a budget!

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