NWR (kind of) Problems with bio dad

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
1745 posts
Bumble bee

No, it sounds unhealthy. It is entirely up to you what degree of contact you want to have with him. Maybe set a day aside to call him if you want to have a relationship. You can say you aren’t interested if you want though.

People don’t get an automatic pass into !y life just because we share DNA. 

Post # 4
1745 posts
Bumble bee

letticiarose:  I think that’s fair! Do what’s healthy for you.

Post # 5
5079 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

letticiarose:  You officially have my permission to maintain distance from your dad. 🙂

Sadly though, his weird behaviour is probably a result of his mental illness. If so, it’s not completely his fault. That does not at all mean you have to put up with it, but maybe just keep it in mind and try to feel compassion instead of anger or resentment when he starts acting that way again. If you find yourself feeling guilty for limiting contact with him, remind yourself that his illness is not your fault and not your responsibility. You didn’t cause it and you can’t fix it, so take care of yourself and don’t feel guilty.

Post # 7
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Your biodad seems to be trying the only way he knows how to try. Unfortunately his behavior is alienating to you and he seems to be incapable of realizing that. You aren’t being insensitive, you’ve tried explaining things to him. I think you might end up having to deal with the hot-and-cold back and forth treatment from him for quite a while unless you change your numbers.

Post # 9
7531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

letticiarose:  I think the idea of having a specific day/time that you converse on the phone is possibly a great idea/solution.  I am sorry about your mom’s passing.  Good luck with your dad.  

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