NWR: Memorial Service Attire?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It sounds absolutely fine to me. I’ve seen a wide variety of clothing at funerals/memorial services, and as long as you don’t look like you are about to go clubbing or wearing very cheery clothes, you are fine.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i think thats fine. i have been to way too many memorials and there are always people who wear dark blues,greys and blacks then there are the ones that wear flabouant colors too because thats their personalty…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Blue seersucker doesn’t sound right to me for a memorial service. If everyone there were to understand the connection between your grandfather wearing seersucker all the time, then it might be okay.  In any other situation I would say no to seersucker for anything like that.

I think anything dark and somber works.  It doesn’t just have to be black.  Grey, navy, burgundy, dark purple, anything in there.  It doesn’t have to be a dress.  A skirt and top or pants and top could work too.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m going to go with no for light blue.  I’ve only ever seen dark colors at a funernal and think that light blue would stand out.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

peachacid:  I think that since you are considering the seersucker to honor your grandfather, and likely everyone else would associate it with him, you should go ahead and wear it. Definitely a dark gray or black blazer or sweater to tone it down. 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

peachacid:  hm, i always thought both were pretty much the same.  I’m not sure what the difference is, but anytime there is a gathering for the death of a loved one, I go for the darker items in my closet.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

peachacid:  Some people still choose to wear black or another dark color for tradition’s sake to honor the departed.

I have also been to several funerals where the attendees were specifically asked to wear bright colors to celebrate the life of the deceased not mourn their passing.

I think your dress willl be fine. You could even include a reference to his wearing seersucker and therefore your choice of dress in his honor.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Funerals are less “traditional” now. I have seen people wear all white. The opposite of grieving. My cousin refuses to wear anything dark or somber, because she sees it as a “homegoing”. That person is going to a better place, has no more worries, is free of pain, etc. I am going to say that is doubly true for you since you are going to a memorial. You can totally wear the seersucker. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It sounds like it will be very difficult. I’m so sorry to hear you are having a hard time, but you know in your heart that he was ready. He knew he was loved and he was good with what he had done with with his life. Just remember that when you are speaking. A memorial is to remember the good times we had with the person. I’m sure you had a ton with your gpa. 

 

peachacid:  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

One of my Grandpa’s best friend showed up to his funeral in a bright red shirt because my grandpa’s favorite color was red.  He said “Jo wouldn’t want to see us in black and mourning his death he would want us in bright colors celebrating his life.”  It was the first thing that made me truly smile in days and one of the few things I remember from that day.  Wear what you feel is right and gives you a connection to the man you lost.  If anyone thinks wrong of you then that is their problem.  You should focus on what is best for you at this time.

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