(Closed) NWR: MIL driving me crazy!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
46159 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Only you can make the decision to stop letting her push your buttons. If she chooses not to celebrate holidays because of her religion, she has no right to expect the two of to also not make plans.

Her- “why can’t you and ____ come to _____”

You “Sorry, Mom we are going to my mother’s for Thanksgiving”

her “But, ______”

You ” Sorry, Mom we are going to my mother’s for Thanksgiving”

Her “But,

You- repeat ad infinitum

 

Post # 4
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@julies1949:  Yep. 

Don’t confront her about it, leave that to your husband.

Post # 5
Member
8324 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Playing devils advocate here- you say she likes to be involved and have get togethers even though she doesn’t actively celebrate the holidays. Where have you and your DH spent the last 5 thanksgivings?

Post # 7
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2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

@Blondee:  I think all you can do is just keep on as you are, making your boundaries clear.

Maybe your DH could just explain to her that as she isn’t invested in the holidays, you will spend the holidays with your parents – to whom the actual holiday means a lot – but that you’re more than happy to have get-togethers with her at other times around that. Possibly get him to emphasise the difference in cultures – she doesn’t celebrate the holidays, but holidays are very important to your family, if that makes sense?

Post # 8
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8324 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Blondee:  Not sure then! Is it their actual anniversay date?

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