Post # 1
So my mother in law is a two sided coin. Sometimes she’s very sweet and “oh, I love you sweetie, you two are so precious, blah blah blah” and then other times she’s nuts and trying to convince my husband it’s her he needs and not me and guilt tripping him for whatever she can possibly guilt trip him for. So something really ridiculous happened the other day and it frustrated me…I thought I’d vent.
So I quoted Danny as saying something silly on my facebook the other day (basically he told me to put away my craft stuff because I was too tired to craft and you could tell, and I called him a stage mom and laughed about it. So did the rest of our friends, one of which said “he’s not a stage mom, he’s a good wife!” and just silly stuff like that) We were all joking about his stage mommyness on FB including him.
Anyway, the next day my Mother-In-Law calls him while we’re at the vet with our cat and tells him he has to talk to her NOW. He’s like “we’re at the vet” but she’s going “it’s an emergency”. So he rushes out and leaves me with the vet and the cat. Here I am thinking someone got in an accident or something, but come to find out that she’s just super pissed at me for “airing our marital problems out on facebook” and that she can’t believe I would do such a thing. At first he had no clue what the hell she was talking about, but it turns out it was the joke we were all making about him saying I needed to put my craft stuff away. She was DISGUSTED with me and she thought we were a great couple but now she sees that she was wrong and we don’t love each other at all. OVER A JOKE ON FACEBOOK. This, obviously, upset me, so he called her back and kind of almost scolded her for hurting my feelings. Her response was “well, you’re my son.” to which he responded “she’s my wife, the whole thing was a joke, and you’re taking this too far. Goodbye.”
I mean, that’s just a little thing, I know, and I’m likely blowing it out of proportion but she ALWAYS DOES STUFF LIKE THIS!! Tries to downplay my role in his life, tries to make him question whether I truly love him or not, and tries to make it so that I look like the bad guy and she’s just everything he needs. He doesn’t fall for it, but still, it’s obnoxious.
Anyone else have a crazy MIL?
Post # 3
Ugh how annoying. I would try not to worry about her. She’s obviously dealing with some separation anxiety. As long as Darling Husband continues to put your foot down and you stay united in this you should be fine. There’s also facebook filters you can you to keep her out of your business, although I don’t know how they work. My Mother-In-Law in not on facebook. THANK GOD!
Post # 4
@emilygrace07: That’s my problem, I have no idea how they work either, lol!
The weird thing is, Danny hasn’t lived with his mom for 6 almost 7 years. In fact, he’s been living with me for almost 5 of those. I feel like she should’ve dealt with the separation already! Lol!
But this woman is crazy, she’s the same lady that dated a known violent crack head and allowed him to be around her 13 year old son alone, so I have to remember that.
Post # 5
I’m glad he put her in her place and stuck up for you. Obviously she has some emotional issues and sees (reads) things she wants to see not as they are. In stead of her asking “Hey, I saw what “imageeksowhat” wrote on FB. Was that a joke or was she serious”? I hate when people come to their own conclusion without asking that person first.
I don’t know if theres anything you can do with her outbursts other than you or your husband correcting her. Unfortunately I don’t have a Mother-In-Law so I can’t relate or contribute any crazy Mother-In-Law stories… poor me!! But I do LOVE reading them!!
Post # 6
She misunderstood because she wanted to – it gave her a reason to call him and feel close to him. Some people only feel important when they’re tattling and stirring up drama. Sigh.
On FB, find the little down arrow in the top right of the blue toolbar. Click on it and select Privacy Settings. In the category Control Your Default Privacy, click on Custom. You should get a popup box that has Make This Visible To and Hide This From. On the first one, click the box and select Friends (this protects you from your stuff showing up to people you’re not friends with). On the Hide This From, enter her name. Click Save Changes.
Then, from then on, nothing you post should show up for her. If you want her to see something, when you post, you can choose to post to all friends and not to your default setting. Otherwise, she just won’t see your posts (she’ll still be able to see pictures, though, I think, until you go though and do a separate privacy settings on pictures).
Post # 7
Wow I’m sorry you have to deal with her. She sounds insane. And it’s frustrating she thinks her manipulating will work.
Post # 8
@ProfessorGirl: Oh, thank you! That’ll be super helpful.
@Ill Be Mrs B: Yeah, the good thing about Danny is that he really doesn’t fall for her crap, in fact, if it has to do with me, he calls her out on it.
Post # 9
what a weirdo! I don’t even get how she could have turned that into something other than a joke! At least he sticks up for you! 😉
Post # 10
@MrsWBS: Hahaha, yeah, weirdo is an appropriate name for her. I like the fact that she feels like she’s entitled to give relationship advice when every single one of her relationships has failed…except her current marriage. But she just met him in May, so…yeah. We’ll see how that goes. It’s not that I want her marriage to fail, it’s that it’s almost inevitable because she is the way she is.