Post # 1
And I am emotionally exhausted. My brothers and I sat with her in the hospital for over 24 hours so my Dad (and her other son) could get there to say their final goodbyes.
I’ve never felt so overwhelmed, or so young. Too young to have had to deal with this. But I wouldn’t change it for the world. I had some moments with her, bonding moments I’ve never had with her throughout my entire life.
Sadly, she hung around to long. We got numerous calls saying she was close, but then she’d surprise us. So happy she is at peace now, she went silently. I desperately didn’t want her to suffer.
Yes I want sympathy, and virtual cuddles. SO is away for work and I’m contemplating the meaning of life alone. Prayers and virtual cuddles would be much appreciated!
Post # 3
So sorry to hear that. Take comfort in the memories you have with her, and know she is at peace in a better place. Lots of prayers, hugs, and good thoughts going your way!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry, ladyartichoke. ((hugs))
Post # 5
Big hugs to you and lots of sympathy. Even when we know it is for the best, it is very hard to say goodbye.
I lost my grandmother (and last grandparent) 1 year ago in October. Unfortunately I was living in NY at the time while she was living in CA. She was in her 90s and had had a wonderful life. Two days before she died, my mom had me call her and just tell her how much I loved her and that my then Fiance and I were happy and doing well. It was a call to say goodbye and let her know it was OK to go.
Making that call was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I am so thankful that I had the opportunity to do it.
So big hugs and cuddles to you.
Post # 6
BIG HUGS to you today. I’ve sat with two people I loved very much, at the very end and while it’s so very painful to have lost them, they no longer are in pain. It sounds like your grandmother was a wonderful and caring person, after all three of her grandchildren made sure she wasn’t alone. How very kind and loving of the three of you. ((((HUGS))))
Post # 7
I am so sorry for your lost. Losing someone is never easy. Sending virtual hugs and cuddles your way!
Post # 8
I am so sorry to hear about your loss! Sending Big Hugs to you today!
Post # 9
I am so sorry. HUGE hugs to you, death is never easy to deal with no matter who it is.
Post # 10
Thank you all so much for your support. I agree that whilst I know it’s the right thing, and that I knew it was coming it doesn’t make the reality any easier.
She made it to 91! That’s pretty good going.
@HisIrishPrincess: Nice of you to say, but honestly, I wouldn’t have had it any other way 🙂
Post # 11
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I’m so sorry sweetie. My grandmother passed away 2 years ago, I know how tough it is. I still miss her. But I know she’s here with me, in my heart. My grandmother too was a tough lady, and I can’t tell you the number of “Come say your goodbye” phone calls I got, and she still hung on. Honestly, she was such an active, vibrant woman, I couldn’t stand to see her in that bed and like you, it was so hard to see her suffer. I’m glad she’s at peace now. I keep a photo of her in my kitchen since she was such a phenomenal baker and cook, and that’s where she was always happiest. I call her my kitchen angel 🙂 I always like to think that when I’m in the kitchen doing my thing she’s smiling and proud of me. It gets easier I promise. You’ll find your way to pay tribute to her, and you’ll always hold her close to you.
Post # 12
@KatNYC2011: Letting her know she could go was really important. The last time I saw her I told her to have a good sleep. She didn’t pass until my Dad left the room. It was like she didn’t want them to see her go.
Post # 13
I am so sorry for your loss! Grandmothers are very special people and we are lucky as grandaughters that we get to have such a special bond with them.
You did such a great thing by sitting with her yesterday and those are moments that you will never regret, you gave her peace, love and comfort. You sound like you were such a great grandaughter.
I lost my Grandma at 18, she was my last grandparent, 8 years ago and I still get emotional when I am doing something that reminds me of her. I also just lost my Mother-In-Law a month ago and we were by her side for the last six months and in the final hours. It’s so hard watching someone that you love knowing that they will not be around much longer but also we took great comfort in knowing that we did everyting that we could and got to tell her everything that we needed to.
Post # 14
@ladyartichoke: It really was. It was so hard not to say “I hope you feel better soon” and just say “Sleep well and I love you.”
My mom and her brother were both there, and they said after my grandmother had the phone calls from my sister and me she very peacefully slipped into unconsciousness and passed another day later.
As hard as it is to let a loved one go, there is some comfort in knowing they went in peace.
Post # 15
I’m sorry for your loss. Death is so hard to comprehend. At times liuke this, I know nothing I really say can be that comforting, so I’ll give you a BIG ol’ HUG, and let you know, it’s going to get better. Hang in there! XO
Post # 16
((hugs)) You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.