- 7 years ago
This is just a vent. I’ll try to make this the shortened version.
My sister and I are close in age and for the most part have had a pretty good relationship growing up. We had a lot of family problems and I think going through those things together made us closer. However, we of course have had our share of fights over the years. We fought like most sisters do.
The problem started last January. The boy and I have been together 3 years. Him and my sister always got along and we went out as a group very often. However, last January everything fell apart. My sister asked my bf for a favor-she needed him to design something (he’s an artist). He agreed of course and said he would have it ready by X date. She texted him and said ok, thats fine. Well, a week before the agreed upon date, my sister texted me “Hey, I am coming over to get my design tonight”. I told her it wasn’t ready…because the BF thought he had another week to get it to her. And he texted her the date and she agreed. She said she must have mis-read the text but she needed it right that day. I said it wasn’t possible. The BF was working all day and theres no way he could get it to her within a few hours.
That’s when all hell broke loose. My sister and I went back and forth for days. She said horrible things about my boyfriend via text, email, and phone. Meanwhile, my bf felt horrible. He stayed at work late to get the design done because he didn’t want to cause any issues. She of course wouldn’t accept the design or his apology (he apologized…even though he didn’t actually do anything wrong).
So we stopped speaking. We had mutual friends who also stopped speaking to me because she told them horrible things about my bf (I know this because I am still friends with one of them, and she was telling me what was going on). I reached out to her a few times to try to make ammends, but every time it turned into a war and the insults started again. This past December I figured I would give it one more try. I invited her to lunch for her birthday. We met and although she did not mention my bf’s name..the lunch went fine. She asked if I wanted to hang out again and I said yes, and she said she’d call to set up something. Well, I never heard from her again. I reached out to her about a concert for a band we both love, but she wasn’t interested. I invited her to Christmas, but she couldn’t make it. I mentioned to my brother last night that I thought lunch had gone well, but she never called me. And an hour later I get a crazy text from her saying something along the lines of “stop talking about me to brother. if you have something to say, say it to me.”
I’m at a loss. I feel like I have tried several times to make ammends for something that was such a stupid fight. I hear from other family members that she misses me terribly, yet she makes no move to hang out with me. I have apologized, the boyfriend has apologized and nothing.
A part of me wants to just forget about it. My bf is an amazing man and I can’t have a relationship with her if she hates him. But another part of me misses her. She’s my sister and was my best friend for basically my whole life. But again, this whole fight started because she mis-read a text.
Sorry, this turned out way longer than expected 🙁