- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I would go Anon but I”m too lazy to make another account LOL
DH and I have been married for two years. I love him but he did something royally stupid. He was invited to that website “linkin” or whatever and befriended another woman. It started off innocent. She would say things like “I’m so ugly I can’t get a man” and he would respond ‘You will find someone one day” and as you can guess their relationship grew to internet flirting. I cam across their FB messages and basically both admitted to being attraced to each other. I confronted BOTH of them. I was not mean but direct. She apologized to me and defriended my husband. He is trying to get back into my good graces.
However I’m having a hard time forgiving him. I know I’m not perfect. We have a 3 year old adopted family member and a 7 month old son. The apartment looks like a federal disaster area right now. Someones I’m too tired to cook. However my husband and I have alwasy talked to each other when there is an issue. It hurt me to my core knowing he was attracted to her. He wants to “talk” but I can’t bring myself to talk to him anymore. I spend free tim at work looking for recipes to please him, I say up late and washing his uniforms (he’s military), and I try to do good. He says his life has hit a “rut” of work, pay bills, sleep, raise kids and talking to her added “something new” I get that. But I have enough self control to find other outlets to find happiness.
How do I move pass this and forgive him? What makes this even worse is that he is leaving this weekend for a 12 month deployment.
Oh, and my 3 year old’s teacher said my niece has behavioral issues that the school psychologist wants to talk to us about.
My day sucks
EDIT: Besides this, my husband is wonderful. I’m a spoiled wife. He is very affectionate, loving, and concerned. This is why this is so shocking to me. Being married to him is like being married to Mr. Rogers.
What is hurting me too is the sobering thought that if we were dating or even engaged, if I found out he was attracted to someone else I would end it. Now, we are married and have children so I can’t just “walk away”. I also don’t want to.
I told him I had a male friend make a pass at me after we were married. I ended the relationship. Sure I feel like our marriage gets “boring” sometimes, but I dont’ go talk to another man.