(Closed) NWR – Omi (grandma) leaving Opa (grandma) … long

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh my goodness. I don’t know what to say except:

It’s unfortunate that your Omi has had to live in such a troublesome situtation for so many years. How wonderfully kind of you to offer to have her live with you! That does sound like that is the best and safest situation for her. I have no advice, unfortunately, but I wish you and your family the best.

Post # 5
Member
355 posts
Helper bee

I am not sure how it works in Canada but in some cities in the US, you can request a police escort to retrieve your property in such situations.  We did this with a friend that was leaving her live-in boyfriend when we were in grad school.  It’s very kind of you and your FI to have her live with you.  From what I understand, having a solid support system is the single biggest factor in women not returning to abusive situations. 

Post # 6
Member
11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Wow what a hard situation! Not to state the obvious… but if you go through with this you’re going to need to keep your address secret from EVERYONE in your family. It is clear your aunts/uncles don’t understand what your grandpa is capable of, and your parents are the only ones you can really trust. Maybe you should open a P.O. Box too, and stop getting mail sent to your house. Additionally, I would talk to your grandma and make sure that she is serious about not going back to him this time. 45 years is a long time to be with someone, but if your grandpa is that big a threat, and she tells him where she is, she could be putting your lives in danger too.

I’m so sorry that all of this is happening in your family 🙁 I’m sure your grandma really appreciates you and your FH opening your home to her!!

Post # 7
Member
2280 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

What an awful situation! And your grandmother put up with it for that long?! If you feel that you could protect her the best of all your family members, then absolutely yes, take her in! This isn’t about you or anyone else in your family, it’s about making sure your grandmother is as safe as she possibly can be. It would be selfish of your family members to squabble…just do what you have to do.

It’s so generous of you to open your home to her like that, even though it could be potentionally difficult or dangerous. That is so awesome! I pray everything will work out for you and your Omi!

Post # 8
Member
7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

!! You are an amazing granddaughter, and Omi is blessed to have you !! Way to stand up for her and prioritize family in this way ! 🙂

You seem aware of the significance of having her move in with you. She’s been in Germany for a month, I’m wondering how much of her stuff at the house is stuff she ‘needs’ immediately, and how much she can wait on (if Opa gets hospitalized in the coming months).

Otherwise, I would say requesting a police escort would be a great idea, or else see if your mom can call the hospital and schedule a routine visit or something for him around the time she gets back so she can get it all quickly at least (you and FI and dad can help, and whomever else is supportive of her living with you).

Post # 10
Member
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow, such a difficult situation. I can’t believe your relatives would want you Omi to stay, knowing that your Opa is abusive to her. I think taking your Omi in is a wonderful thing to do because she needs support and a place to be safe. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the better.

 

The topic ‘NWR – Omi (grandma) leaving Opa (grandma) … long’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors