NWR: Overthinking this and need reassurances that it's going to be ok…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
526 posts
Busy bee

@futuremrste:  I’m sorry you are worried!

I too tend to become anxious in situations like this and have learned to deal with it by admiting what I am most afraid the outcome will be, but immediately deciding how I will handle that situation.  My DH helps to remind me that worrying is like praying for what you don’t want to happen.  I know its very hard to do in the moment, but all the best!

Post # 4
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@futuremrste:  ugh! I HATE when someone does this to me. My only advice is trying to keep your mind off it. Do other stuff and when if comes to your mind just shake it off. It might not be worth the stress! I hope everything goes right!

Post # 5
milkcowBee
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton

@futuremrste:  I’d be obsessing about this all week if I were you, but I think you’re assuming the worst and getting stuck on that! Is this the type of thing that your mom would really want to tell you and your husband at the same time instead of just telling you first? (Our families would tell each of us individually, but every relationship is different!) Just stay calm – if it’s something bad, worrying about it now won’t do anything except ruin more days for you. And if it’s something good, you just wasted all that time worrying about it! Try to stay busy and focus on work. The busier you are, the harder it’ll be to think about it.

Post # 6
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630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@futuremrste:  I’ve been there, heard that, and I hope to God that everything is ok. Please let us know that everything is ok. I’ll be thinking about you and your family and praying for you.

Post # 7
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1349 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@futuremrste:  That is so frustrating!!  How are you NOT supposed to get freaked out????  I hope she’s at least coming over soon.  I hate it when people are vague like that.  

Post # 9
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@futuremrste:  oh gosh this would be driving me mad! sorry you’ve got to wait on this new, fingers crossed for good news

Post # 10
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4410 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@futuremrste:  This would really bug me, too, because I also tend to worry and assume the worst. I would probably tell my mom that I’m going crazy imagining terrible scenarios and can she please just let me know in general what she needs to tell us — or at least assure me that it’s not something horrible.

Post # 11
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2368 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 Realistically, I doubt it’s health related. When it’s something that serious, you don’t wait a week, and I’d bet that she would tell you first since you’re her daughter. If they’re divorcing, there’s nothing you can do about it, and there’s nothing you could have changed. It’s their relationship and their choices. Regardless, she probably wants you both together so that she doesn’t get as bunch of questions later, it’s easier to tell you both at the same time. I’m assuming she’s not coming into work looking like she’s crying her eyes out throughout the night, so that would make me think it’s probably something personal, but she’s not devastated.

Post # 12
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3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Hopefully it’s something simple that was not worth any stress. 

Post # 13
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889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Ugh, I’d hate to have to wait that long! 

But I agree – if it was sth horrible like cancer, I don’t think she’d tell you now and have you worry yourself sick for a whole week. 

I’d talk to her in your lunch break tomorrow and try to at least get sth out of her, like that you’re seriously worried and could she just let you know you don’t need to?

it does somewhat sound like your parents are having issues though. 

Post # 14
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7195 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

futuremrste:  Kind of weird that your mother felt the need to tell you and DH together, in person. In our family my mother might send a text or email, and leave it to me to contact my sister. It sounds like your mother was being a bit dramatic.

p.s. It sounds like the school was rather inflexible and I hope they let her make it up and graduate eventually. (Though it does sound like she might have missed some days earlier which *were* her fault. And if I was on the verge of being kicked out of a course for non-attendance, I wouldn’t travel at all). Anyway I hope something gets worked out for her.

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