(Closed) NWR: Overtired and wondering what you would do…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Get a bigger bed? Or get a doggie bed next to your bed? FI and I share a queen and it’s barely enough for the two of us and we’re small people! When we dogsit our little 3 lb toy yorkie we don’t even let her sleep with us b/c there isn’t enough room.  If you aren’t willing to kick the dogs out, the two of you might have to separate unfortunately.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Definitely come up with a plan for the dogs to sleep elsewhere.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Difficult as it may be for all concerned, I think the dogs need to start sleeping somewhere other than the bed.

Post # 6
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

Just to clarify, are  you saying that not sleeping with your dog “isn’t an option”, but not sleeping with your FI is? I guess if dog is more important to you and FI isn’t offended, you could go sleep in the other room. I know some couples doing this but they are all much older and doing it for various health reasons. 

I would think getting a doggie bed is the best solution. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Agreed. My cat’s not even allowed in the bedroom. Cat hairs on the sheets make me gag & I have to change them. LOL We sleep with the door closed, if she starts complaining we just walk out the door & make a loud sound, clapping or something so she knows it’s not allowed. I say make the dogs sleep in the guest room before your guy.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Agree…I can’t imagine voluntarily sleeping apart from my FI every night. And I REALLY value my sleep, so if it was the doggies that were causing problems, I would move them out for sure.

Post # 11
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465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Move the dogs or get a california king sized bed! but they’re expensive, and from experience, it’s still not enough space with two sizeable dogs… I would say let him sleep in the guest room tonight just so you can get enough sleep to talk about different options tomorrow or later this week.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I had been a bit snarky before because I took your post to mean that you would rather sleep with your dogs than kick them out and sleep well with your FI. If you think your FI feels this way and you do not, I would have a talk with him about it. I think if these things are said outloud, one realizes the ridiculousness of it and he would be on board with either getting a much bigger bed (though I don’t think that will help with the spooning dog) or putting the dogs elsewhere.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I would have the dogs sleep elsewhere.  The only reason our cat is allowed to sleep with us in our queen bed, is because he sleeps on the pillow next to us and doesn’t take up much room.  Two humans and two dogs in a queen is not much room!  I think that moving the dogs will be best for both of you and your relationship.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hmm…if your FI would rather have the dogs in bed, and you out of it, then yeah that would be a problem. He would really rather you sleep elsewhere than move the dogs? Maybe if you talked to him about how that idea is hurtful to you, and makes you feel like he doesn’t care one way or the other if you’re there (that’s how it would make me feel anyway…)?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ll just chime in and say I agree with what most of the others are saying.  You have to kick the dogs out of the bed.  Express to your FI that it is more important that you two sleep together (comfortably) than for him to sleep somewhere else to accommodate the dogs. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Oh, I get it now. I misunderstood the first post as well. As a temporary solution, it’s definitely fine. Get some sleep and when you are both rested, figure something out. I doubt your FI can rationally argue for sleeping in separate rooms on a long-term basis. 

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