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No! Definitely not! I can't imagine what a slap in the face that would be. Someone needs to tell the guy to grow up! You're married with a child now.
Not ok at all! My husband has a few (and by a few I mean maybe 5-10) picstures of old girlfriends but they are in a box with all his other pictures. I have pictures of a couple of ex's too. But both his and my pictures are put away with the rest of the memories. Not on Facebook for the whole world to see.
I wouldn't be ok with it at all! My FI isn't a big FB user and definitely never posts photos, but he did "un-tag" himself from any photos posted by other people of him and his ex! I didn't ask him to do it, he didn't want to be associated with her anymore!
I agree with Tessa, no pics on Facebook for either of us with exs. But that might be because we haven't had exs since we joined Facebook?? still weird tho.
Umm no, that would be totally vile!! When hubs moved out of his apartment back to his dads, he kept one picture of his ex (granted, they had only been broken up for a couple months, and we weren't officially "official" yet) and it stayed in a frame in the bottom of a box. Fast forward 2 or 3 years, and we were cleaning out a closet one day and there it was in the bottom of the box. He picked it up, looked at me and said "guess i won't be needing this anymore" and ripped it up and threw it away! He saw how happy it made me, and made sure I wasn't upset that he had kept it to begin with. i honestly had forgotten all about it by that point, but was so glad he did it without a second thought. He never even looked at it the whole time it was in that box, and had forgotten about it as well.
Now, if he had pics up on his facebook, you best believe I would be having a cow!! Especially married with a child??? It woudl be one thing if it was just pictures of the place they went together, but with his ex. Totally wrong in my book!
I always think it's interesting when people take down pictures of them with their ex's. You can't pretend the relationship never happened, because it did. Mr. KM's ex-gf left up all the pictures of them together and I honestly don't mind. I know how messed up the relationship was and how much he regrets it, and it's fun to see him when he was younger and, not going to lie, fun to see his ex since I've never met her in real life. Well, that's not entirely true, I've seen her from about 6 feet away, but never talked to her.
However, I think out of respect for his wife he should take them down. People get judgmental when they see stuff like that, even if it doesn't bother the wife at all. Which is probably doesn't, since they're still up.
I think some people forget which pictures they have in older folders. I know I've gone on several friends' profiles where they have pictures with ex boyfriends or girlfriends posted. I think a lot of people don't go through all of their old pictures to check it out.
That being said, I would probably feel a bit weird if there was a folder of myself and an ex on my facebook and would delete it if it was there!
I 2nd arizonabride! I personally wouldn't have any pictures like that up. I wouldn't expect FI too either...
There are pics of me and my ex on FB.... in other friends albums. I might still have some scattered in college albums but none are tagged to either of us anymore so it's all kinda in the past and I have over 100 albums on FB.... lol.... I can't go through them all :-) We're still friends anyways.... And my FI is friends with him too, so he wouldn't care.
My husband has a few (6-7) pictures still up on facebook from his undergrad days that have a couple of ex-gfs in them. Most are group shots that have these girls in them, but they're hugging in the picture and obviously a couple.
It doesn't bother me because a) they're only posted because they're pictures of groups, not just the two of them canoodling or something, and b) it's the past. It happened, they dated, and taking the pictures down wouldn't change that.
In my case, it's just not a battle worth fighting.
I honeslty think people just forget about the pics they previously uploaded, also many people (esp boys) don't care what pics are tagged of them, in fact most boys I know never untag a picture; many just don't care :)
I would be PISSED!!!! I'm a really jelous person though, but that would not go over well with me! I get upset when I see pictures on his ex's profile (we are KINDA friends) of them, even of them when they weren't together!
wow, I don't have any pics with exes on FB...there is even one of me that is a really good pic, so I cropped him out!
my boyfriend doesn't have any pictures of his ex on his Facebook and/or Myspace, but even if he did I wouldn't care. He is still friends with most of his ex-girlfriends so it wouldn't be strange if he did have pictures of ex's up there. He's with me now and we are secure enough with our relationship that we wouldn't & don't care what pictures we put up. They are pictures and part of his past.
When I go to his parents house, they still have up old prom pictures and family pictures taken at weddings & etc of when he was with his ex-girlfriend. I don't expect his parents to take down pictures just because an old girlfriend is in it. Actually I believe his ex does have a few pictures of them together on her Facebook-their prom pictures and something else. But she is married and has a baby. My BF is the last thing on her mind. And she is the last thing on his mind.
It doesn't bother me at all. My bf has a bunch of pics with his ex that he dated for over 3 years posted on fb (hugging, sitting on laps, etc). Most of them were posted by his ex, but he has a few posted too. I didn't expect him to untag or take any of them down. He was in a relationship for 3 years, and I know about it (obviously) and taking the pictures down doesn't change the fact that he was in a serious relationship with someone before me. I have a few pictures of me with exes on fb too, and I would definitely not untag any of them. I wouldn't want to get rid of pieces of my past. Luckily this isn't a problem with my bf and I, neither one of us are the jealous type.
is not a matter of being jealous or not - it's a matter of respect and consideration for the other person. So what else do you allow in your relationship in the name of "I'm not a jealous person." Respect happens to be a prime ingredient in a relationship and the lack of it only tells me there's big time trouble down the road. What's next? celebrating your exe's relationship anniversaries? because "your'e not the jealous type?" I don't think I'd give my mate a second chance if he ever did that to me. Thank goodness him and i agree on this issue :-)
I was actually surprised, ex2 and I broke up before either of us joined Facebook, but when we did join he posted a picture of us as a couple in an “old photos” album. I have untagged myself from any pictures of me and any of my exs. The only way one could exist now is for community band events as ex2, his girlfriend and I are all in the same band (she and I are stand-partners and now decent friends.) As far as I know the last guy I dated is still tagged in all the pictures on his and others’ albums.
My guy untagged himself from any pictures with the ex. When he wanted to show me what she looked like (he thought she had moved back into town and I was curious) he had to go hunting for her profile.
I think it all depends on how you two feel about (I mean- the couple themselves). Some people are understanding about past relationships and comfortable with it. I would hate it, personally, to have any old pictures around. It would weird me out. I would think "why are you holding on to this?" I am surprised people don't care about them being posted to the world online. Different strokes, I guess. In a way, it is cool that some people are that comfortable with it, but I sure wouldn't be!
My FI has pictures of he and his ex both before break up and years after the break up (after we were together). They were posted by her. He is the DJ at the local pub and she took her 18yr old daughter there for her birthday. Said Hi and Happy Snaps were taken. At first I was alittle cionfused over the recent photos as to when they were taken. I asked him. He was honest. And I really don't care past that.
I don't feel at all threatened by her. Although I do find it ammusing that she only stops in here for a coffee when Im not home, and when I get home she takes off pretty quick. lol, its quite funny. But seriously, they have been broken up nearly 7 years. So I don't have anything to worry about!!
I've never asked him to cut her out completely. He doesn't believe in grudges, nor does he believe in turning his back on someone, even if he only barely tolerates them. And I wouldnt ask him to change, its one of the things I love about him.
No, that would not be ok with me. And it has nothing to do with jealousy, but respect for your partner. Especially since this guy is married and has a kid.
i don't know, i don't even know what pictures i have on facebook. i'm rarely looking at my own pictures, so i wouldn't be surprised if he just didn't know.
Nope, that's totally disrespectful IMO. It's one thing to "acknowledge" the fact that my FI and I have had prior relationships... it's another to have those relationships displayed publically online via photos. I wouldn't stand for it, no way, no how.
I have 2 or 3 photos on my FB of me and my ex right before FI. They're group shots from a fun Cape Cod vacation. I don't know if FI's just never noticed them or doesn't care, but I never thought about taking them down. He doesn't have any photos of exes on his FB but he has TONS on his hard drive and in storage as do I of my former flames. As others have said, it's not like you can pretend it didn't happen. I wouldn't want them displayed in my home or as his main FB photo, but I don't care if they exist. He was recently tagged in an old photo with a girl he went to some high school formal with. I laughed my ass off at what appears to me to be a velvet suit jacket=)
that is so WEIRD! i would kill my FI if he had pics with an ex on his lol
I agree that would be totally disresepectful. I don't have any pictures on my FB profiles with any ex and neither does my FI.
There are a few pictures of me and an ex-bf in some other people's folders, but they are all group shots that we just both happened to be in. We aren't even close to each other in all of them. I have untagged myself, but they still exist. There are, however, NONE of us with arms around each other, holding hands, etc. If there were, I would ask the owner to remove them.
I don't think it's a big deal... I mean, if he has a whole shrine to this girl, that's one thing, but a handful of pictures? I'd be over it.
I don't think it does anyone any good by making a fuss over it. You just end up looking insecure. Plus, you're with him now... she's not.
My fiance has pictures up that were tagged by his ex-girlfriend... she even posted them six months AFTER we got together. I think it's funny... I know she still has feelings for him, but he's not going anywhere, so it doesn't bother me. I'm sure it gets to her more that I didn't react to it — just seems like unnecessary drama.
Out of curiosity, I just checked my photos, and I only have 5 pictures up with my ex, and in none of them can you tell that we're actually a couple, hah. My FI doesn't have any pictures with his ex either, but I don't think it'd bother me if he did. Of course, I probably would get jealous if he had an entire album still up being super touchy feely and obviously a couple. I can see how it'd be easy to let a few pictures slip by here and there, but an album with lots of them would be kind of hard to miss. At least I think so!
I honestly don't see what the issue is. Basically you are treating the relationship and the past as though it never existed if you ask/demand to have them taken down or you get upset because they were on display. Unless one partner was abusive in some way, it comes across as though the new partner is not able to maturely acknowledge the past and accept it for what it is. Not to mention, if the individual is your ex, it is out of line for you to contact them to remove said pictures because they are no longer a part of your life, and the same applies if you are the new partner who happens upon them. It wouldn't be fair of them to ask/demand the same of you and respect is a two way street.
Yeah, I don't see a problem with it either. I'm not going to ask my DH to burn and make his past disappear because I'm with him. And facebook has been around since I was in college which was about 6 years ago. So I don't see why I should have to take down photos from 6 years ago. I mean if it a picture of them in bed together partially naked... yeah, that's getting taken down. But then again, I have 356 tagged photos of me and DH has 315. I honestly don't know what the first few photos are of me. Now, if he is uploading photos of his ex from a few years ago, in hopes to bring up memories with the ex... then yeah thats problem.
I've been with my DH long enough that I know who he has been with.
Also, if the wife has a bad history with this ex... then yeah she might want them down. But I think that's her decision.
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Hey ladies!
Yesterday I was on facebook looking through the profile of a former classmate. He is married and he & his wife just had a baby so I was looking at their baby pics. Well he had a couple other folders of pictures and I found myself looking through them. One of them was a vacation abroad with what was obviously his (totally hot by the way) girlfriend at the time. There aren't many pictures of the "sights" or buildings or whatever, most of the pictures are of them hugging, at parties, etc basically being a couple! I have to say if I were his wife, I would be pretty offended and would have probably asked him to take those down. Kind of disrespectful, IMHO.
Would you guys be ok with your SO having pictures with his ex, hugging and stuff and being lovey-dovey on his facebook?