Post # 1
Yesterday I was on facebook looking through the profile of a former classmate. He is married and he & his wife just had a baby so I was looking at their baby pics. Well he had a couple other folders of pictures and I found myself looking through them. One of them was a vacation abroad with what was obviously his (totally hot by the way) girlfriend at the time. There aren’t many pictures of the “sights” or buildings or whatever, most of the pictures are of them hugging, at parties, etc basically being a couple! I have to say if I were his wife, I would be pretty offended and would have probably asked him to take those down. Kind of disrespectful, IMHO.
Would you guys be ok with your SO having pictures with his ex, hugging and stuff and being lovey-dovey on his facebook?
Post # 3
No! Definitely not! I can’t imagine what a slap in the face that would be. Someone needs to tell the guy to grow up! You’re married with a child now.
Post # 4
Not ok at all! My husband has a few (and by a few I mean maybe 5-10) picstures of old girlfriends but they are in a box with all his other pictures. I have pictures of a couple of ex’s too. But both his and my pictures are put away with the rest of the memories. Not on Facebook for the whole world to see.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t be ok with it at all! My FI isn’t a big FB user and definitely never posts photos, but he did “un-tag” himself from any photos posted by other people of him and his ex! I didn’t ask him to do it, he didn’t want to be associated with her anymore!
Post # 6
I agree with Tessa, no pics on Facebook for either of us with exs. But that might be because we haven’t had exs since we joined Facebook?? still weird tho.
Post # 7
Umm no, that would be totally vile!! When hubs moved out of his apartment back to his dads, he kept one picture of his ex (granted, they had only been broken up for a couple months, and we weren’t officially “official” yet) and it stayed in a frame in the bottom of a box. Fast forward 2 or 3 years, and we were cleaning out a closet one day and there it was in the bottom of the box. He picked it up, looked at me and said “guess i won’t be needing this anymore” and ripped it up and threw it away! He saw how happy it made me, and made sure I wasn’t upset that he had kept it to begin with. i honestly had forgotten all about it by that point, but was so glad he did it without a second thought. He never even looked at it the whole time it was in that box, and had forgotten about it as well.
Now, if he had pics up on his facebook, you best believe I would be having a cow!! Especially married with a child??? It woudl be one thing if it was just pictures of the place they went together, but with his ex. Totally wrong in my book!
Post # 8
I always think it’s interesting when people take down pictures of them with their ex’s. You can’t pretend the relationship never happened, because it did. Mr. KM’s ex-gf left up all the pictures of them together and I honestly don’t mind. I know how messed up the relationship was and how much he regrets it, and it’s fun to see him when he was younger and, not going to lie, fun to see his ex since I’ve never met her in real life. Well, that’s not entirely true, I’ve seen her from about 6 feet away, but never talked to her.
However, I think out of respect for his wife he should take them down. People get judgmental when they see stuff like that, even if it doesn’t bother the wife at all. Which is probably doesn’t, since they’re still up.
Post # 9
I think some people forget which pictures they have in older folders. I know I’ve gone on several friends’ profiles where they have pictures with ex boyfriends or girlfriends posted. I think a lot of people don’t go through all of their old pictures to check it out.
That being said, I would probably feel a bit weird if there was a folder of myself and an ex on my facebook and would delete it if it was there!
Post # 10
I 2nd arizonabride! I personally wouldn’t have any pictures like that up. I wouldn’t expect FI too either…
Post # 11
There are pics of me and my ex on FB…. in other friends albums. I might still have some scattered in college albums but none are tagged to either of us anymore so it’s all kinda in the past and I have over 100 albums on FB…. lol…. I can’t go through them all 🙂 We’re still friends anyways…. And my FI is friends with him too, so he wouldn’t care.
Post # 12
My husband has a few (6-7) pictures still up on facebook from his undergrad days that have a couple of ex-gfs in them. Most are group shots that have these girls in them, but they’re hugging in the picture and obviously a couple.
It doesn’t bother me because a) they’re only posted because they’re pictures of groups, not just the two of them canoodling or something, and b) it’s the past. It happened, they dated, and taking the pictures down wouldn’t change that.
In my case, it’s just not a battle worth fighting.
Post # 13
I honeslty think people just forget about the pics they previously uploaded, also many people (esp boys) don’t care what pics are tagged of them, in fact most boys I know never untag a picture; many just don’t care 🙂
Post # 14
I would be PISSED!!!! I’m a really jelous person though, but that would not go over well with me! I get upset when I see pictures on his ex’s profile (we are KINDA friends) of them, even of them when they weren’t together!
Post # 15
wow, I don’t have any pics with exes on FB…there is even one of me that is a really good pic, so I cropped him out!
Post # 16
my boyfriend doesn’t have any pictures of his ex on his Facebook and/or Myspace, but even if he did I wouldn’t care. He is still friends with most of his ex-girlfriends so it wouldn’t be strange if he did have pictures of ex’s up there. He’s with me now and we are secure enough with our relationship that we wouldn’t & don’t care what pictures we put up. They are pictures and part of his past.
When I go to his parents house, they still have up old prom pictures and family pictures taken at weddings & etc of when he was with his ex-girlfriend. I don’t expect his parents to take down pictures just because an old girlfriend is in it. Actually I believe his ex does have a few pictures of them together on her Facebook-their prom pictures and something else. But she is married and has a baby. My BF is the last thing on her mind. And she is the last thing on his mind.