- 7 years ago
After FCIL and her husband returned from their honeymoon, she suggested that she, her husband, their daughter, Fiance, me, Future Father-In-Law, and Future Mother-In-Law take a family beach vacation this summer. I immediately found a condo and we booked it. It really seemed exciting, at the time. Since then, for whatever reason, relations between FCIL and I have soured. We were really close there for about six/seven months. We spent every Monday together, having lunch and shopping. We talked on the phone and texted all the time. I planned her wedding and helped her do EVERYTHING for it.
Well, recently, FCIL hasn’t had much to do with me (since her wedding ended and she hasn’t needed help with anything, go figure!). She’s acted like she is mad at me, although nothing ever happened to cause her to be. I’ve grown increasingly more annoyed with her because she won’t just come out and say what her deal is, and as I’ve realized that she is the type of person who refuses to anything for anyone if it doesn’t benefit her (ie: Going dress shopping with me). Yet, she and her husband constantly come to Fiance and I for things they need.
When we all decided to go to the beach together, FCIL suggested Fiance and I ride with her and her husband, and that their daughter could ride with Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law since they have a DVD player in their car. I agreed. Now, I have decided I don’t want to ride with FCIL. I told Future Mother-In-Law and she said it’d be no problem for me to ride with her. But, I know this is going to offend/piss off FCIL. She is a verrry sensitive person. She’s going to take my not riding in her car personally. I have other reasons for not riding with FCIL (she doesn’t run the air conditioning/I get carsick easily, they all smoke and I don’t, and they blast rap music the whole ride). So, I’m prepared to deal with her passive aggressive silent treatment for at least the first day of the trip for that.
I was hoping that Fiance and I could get the bedroom on the top floor of our condo, since we don’t have children and would like to be able to sleep a little later without hearing FCIL’s daughter and our nephew screaming and running around outside of our door at 7 AM. But, I knew that would just end up being an argument, so I let it go and let FCIL have first pick. Of course, FCIL picked the top floor for herself. So, I’ll be dealing with her kid waking me up at the crack of dawn every morning. She is expecting us to stay home one night of the vacation and babysit her daughter while she and her husband go out to bars and get trashed. Ughh! I do not have a kid, I don’t want to be weighed down with one on my damn trip!
As I’ve mentioned before, FCIL can’t be bothered to do anyone a favor. Although she expects us to watch her little “gem” of a brat on our vacation, she can’t be bothered to let us use her tripod to take pictures for our Save-The-Date Cards. She has a camera tripod, we don’t. I asked if we could use it, she said we should get our own. Wtf? She’d be right there with us. It’s not like we’d be taking it down to the beach without her. She hardly uses the thing, anyway.
I hate that I am feeling this way about FCIL because Fiance really enjoys spending time with her husband. They are very good friends, and have been since they were preschoolers. FCIL and I used to be good friends, and I miss that! I just hope she and I can make up before the trip and get on good terms. I’m not sure if that will happen, though, because I cannot stand to feel like someone is only interested in using me to their advantage. She has nothing to do with me when there is nothing in it for her. It angers me to be done like that. I am a very giving and generous person. If it is at all in my power, I will do anything for anybody. But, I expect the same in return. To top everything off, it seems like FCIL is pissed off at me, and I have no idea why! We never fought, I never did anything to make her mad. I don’t know what I should do. Kill her with kindness, or avoid her at all costs (which will be very hard)?
I guess this was more of a vent, than anything. So, I don’t need any comments about how long it is. I wrote it. I know how long it is.