- Miss Chapstick
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
So in another recent post by moi, I explained how excited I am about our two friends getting engaged soon. Technically, they’re already engaged, set their date and booked their vendors. But the ring and the official proposal are coming soon. The groom-to-be is surprising the bride by asking all her friends and sister to fly in to go dress shopping with her one weekend. It’s really nice, and I know the bride will love it.
So, here’s my point. I LOVE helping the groom-to-be plan this. The bride totally deserves this lovely surprise and I’m happy to help her friends and sisters. But my husband and I are starting to feel put out. Because it’s a surprise, I’m housing four of the girls at our apartment so the bride doesn’t see them before the big “hurrah!” At first, we agreed to two because one is family, and one is a close friend of the bride who my husband went to HS with, so we know them. Then it somehow escalated to four girls total, possibly five, and it was just assumed we would house them for a weekend. We’re a little upset no one asked, but whatever, it’ll be a small party all weekend, right? Well, then we find out our guests will be arriving at 3 a.m. on Friday night. Yikes! My husband is really irritated because no one even asked if it was okay, or let alone apologized for the late hour. Over time, I’ve kind of gotten upset about it, too, especially since the first time I’ll be meeting these people are in my PJs, totally out of it in the middle of the night.
Also, we live in a two-bedroom apartment, but it’s in a city, so it’s small. Our second bedroom is the size of a closet, and we have one common area. So basically, our living room will have turned into a hostel for the weekend for four people, two of which we’ve never even met. The groom and bride to be will be hosting ONE guest after the reveal, which hardly seems right to me. I’ve hinted around to the girls that maybe they should stay with the bride to be because, well, they’re there to see her, but they think staying with us is a better idea to give the bride and her sister some alone time because they see each other the least and are the closest.
Do we have a right to be upset? I’ve hinted around to the groom-to-be that it’s too much for us with comments like, “Gosh, I’m not sure how they will all fit! at our place” but he doesn’t seem to pick up on the message. At this point, there’s nothing we can do, but yeah, I guess I just wanted to vent.