(Closed) NWR: Quarter life crisis! Advice needed

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

First, how great that you’re being proactive and not settling for something that doesn’t excite you. These aren’t really guides for figuring out what you really love, but I think you should be realistic by thinking about the kind of lifestyle you’d have with the different options. My suggestions fall mostly in this category:

What do you envision your life looking like in 10 years? Do you want kids? Do you want to travel? Do you envision both parents working? Do you want a career that’s flexible or that you can do from home? Do you want to own your own business?

How much time/money/energy would you need to invest in the education/training? Would you have to take on debt? How much? What’s your expected salary once you start working in this field? How long would it take you to pay off the debt? Are you comfortable with that?

Finally, do your research. Talk to people working in those fields to get a realistic sense of what it’s like. Read Above the Law. Good luck!

Post # 4
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1820 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

PP has a GREAT list of questions.  The most important I think is this:  what do you want your day to look like?  You can find a good “day” in any of the professions you are interested in (i.e. if you want to be constantly busy, running around meeting people and having a million things to, there are tons of lawyer jobs that meet that, plus anything involved with weddings is).

I was in your EXACT spot 6-7 years ago… I was working as a wedding planner and that is what I thought I wanted to do, but then I went to law school.  I love my lawyer life, but I still fantasize about running my own wedding planning business some day.  So there are no perfect answers, but please feel free to PM me if you want to chat.

Post # 5
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2867 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that for the two wedding related jobs you could ask to help someone locally (like an internship) that way you can get a perspective on the business before completely jumping into it, plus you could get some experience as well.

Both would require a lot of networking and a ton of experience to really be able to replace a full time job (stylist in particular would also require a decent amount of training). With either of these options it seems like you would need 5 years before being able to branch out on your own.

As for going into law it’s a sizeable time commitment for education (also financially) so I think you need to make sure that you can commit the next 10 years to education and working your way up from the bottom.

I think if you’re just looking to “shake things up” then consider the jobs in the wedding industry – since you’re able to really test them out before having to commit (in case you end up NOT liking either).

Post # 6
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2867 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Double post…

Post # 7
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I can’t comment on life in general or how to decide what direction to go in… but I want to caution you to think long and hard before you seriously consider becoming a lawyer. I am one and it is not what it is cracked up to be (imo). If I could walk away from the debt I incurred becoming a lawyer, I wouldn’t feel badly at all about walking away from the time spent become one. Law school itself isn’t bad I don’t think– I actually had a lot of fun. But the job… meh. I do know people who are very happy being lawyers… but I know just as many who have completely abandoned the field to pursue other things. It is such a HUGE investment of time and money that before you really decided to go for it I’d suggest getting a job as a secretary or something in a law firm just so you could spend a year or two understanding what the job is. 

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