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I agree that people should be seeing a doctor! Most of us on here are just ordinary women with no medical experience and the few DR bees should not be subjected to endless questioning in their time off. Please take your health seriously ladies and go to the doctor if you think things are wrong!
I know I'm guilty of this, but, if it WERE that serious, then yes, I'd be at the doctor in a heart beat. I do know that there are many women here and lots of people to share their experiences, which is generally what I'm looking for if I post looking for advice. But yes, it's concerning for anyone to rely on ANY information they get from the internet if they have a real medical problem, though I can understand how scary it must be to feel something is wrong and not have insurance to pay for the doctor visit.
i agree! you should always consult a physician. i posted a question because i had already spoke to my doctor and she said it was normal and not to worry. so i was curious if anyone else has had the same problem and what they did/were told.
While we are at it, could people stop posting thread about whether or not something is tacky?
@ILikePink: Yeah, I really think that tacky is way way overused.
Hahaha ILikePink - true! And "Is my engagement ring too small?" as well? Those are at least wedding-related, so I guess they can stay..
Seriously, I'm totally for the whole "post what you want, if I don't care to read it, I will just skip it," but this medical trend is insane!
I 100% agree with the OP. I just finished medical school so I'm technically a physician, but I REFUSE to give out any medical advice on an internet forum (besides the advice of "go see your doctor"), lol!
ddubzz - I can totally related. I alluded to it earlier but I just finished school for athletic training and am fully qualified to evaluate and diagnose injuries, and I'll admit to responding to a few posts about injuries but only after I saw so many responses with wrong and potentially harmful advice. But each of those times, I felt super icky about advising these people and made sure to say that they should absolutely visit their doctor. It's just scary that the people who might actually be qualified to provide advice in these cases are pretty much ethically bound not to, and everyone else is free to say whatever they want!
I agree with the medical question stuff... but the "tacky" and ring size questions are totally legit in my opinion since this is a wedding website.
I usually avoid most medically related questions, unless it's to point people to their doctor or appropriate internet resources. I think, though, that if people are comfortable with the advice that they are going to get, I'm not going to say anything about their asking.
When I see posts like that I just figure that the ladies asking the questions are asking because they want to know if any of their fellow "friends" have had something similar happen to them. Many people develop friendships here, so I think the ladies are asking their girlfriends here like they would ask their real life girlfriends. I think many of the times people just want to gauge how common their problem is before they walk into their doctor's office sounding like a hypochondriac. So, I guess those posts don't bother me much...
Also, the large number of the same types of posts come in waves. Not long ago there were issues with so many of the Waiting board questions popping up. Then is was all the Baby board questions. Usually when I don't want to answer certain questions I just don't . I just figure that this, too, shall pass...
Lillindy - I recognize that many of these posts are women looking for support for their issues or maybe to preliminarily find out if their symptoms are normal, but many of them are clearly true medical issues that the original posters have not sought any sort of medical treatment for. I hope that this post comes across as less of a rant and more of a blanket response to all of these posts (because I am more concerned for these ladies than annoyed by their posts):
"Yes, you are right to be concerned about your health. If you think something is wrong, please see your doctor."
right on Lillindy. I understand your concern kirabee and i agree with you but i truly and honestly doubt that anyone takes advice from a board as medical advice. most girls just want to talk to their friends about these kinds of things and see what they have to say.
if you dont like the title of a post then dont open it and dont read it...thats what i do :)
lets all remember why we joined wedding bee....to get advice and give advice on things that are important to us.
:)
This reminds me of a friend of mine. She works at a health food store and she told me how people have been coming in a lot lately asking medical advice and so she would tell them it sounds like they should go to the doctor. Or, she will offer them an alternative medicine, and they would ask if they sell it at walmart!
I think part of it though is because of the economy, people just don't have the money to go to the doctor for any reason, especially if they find out it's something that is actually minor.
Bahahaha the OP just makes me laugh!! Thank you for saying what a lot of us are thinking!!
I agree for serious things but in my experience for anything short of agony doctors have been useless 90% of the time. If I'm in agony for days - yup go to doctor, kidney issue! If I have a pain here or there or a problem with this or that the doctor takes a five minute look and tells me to come back if it gets worse.
It took me four years to have a torn miniscus diagnosed even though I kept going to doctors. I didn't do any research online so I had no idea that the xrays they kept making had no way of showing what was wrong with my knee. Then I had the surgery that didn't work. The surgent and referral doctor never followed up so they don't even know that the surgery was useless. (Okay, I obviously have a grudge here.) :)
So the advice "go see a doctor" while well meant rings a little flat to me. If it's not an acute problem the doctor will probably not do a d*mn thing. Of course, doctors are great for big things and it doesn't hurt to go except for the waste of time and money but often it doesn't help much either.
I would hope that most people posting these types of questions understand that most of us are not medical professionals and can't accurately diagnose them or help them from a couple of paragraphs that they have written.
I think most people with common sense know this, and will see a doctor in certain situations, but are just looking for someone that may have had a similar experience or may need someone to give them a reality check about whether something sounds serious or not.
Maybe that's too large of an assumption, but I like to think that most Bees are smart enough to understand that. :)
Hopefully people aren't avoiding going to the doctor's if something is serious because of a message board. But I think the case is usually just more people's experience. Usually doctors visits are fairly short and sometimes can be a little intimidating so I think it's good to prepare a bit and think of some questions.
In college I had a mole that started hurting and bleeding, so I thought it was good to get it checked out. I'm a blond who's been burt before so I would rather be safe than sorry. The doctor must have been in quite a mood because she gave me a big scolding for coming in - turns out the mole was just falling off and I was wasting her time, except she spent quite a lot of time telling me how I was wasting her time so I think she was just in a really bad mood. But when I left I wasn't sure how much I could trust her advice given the horrid way she carried herself. Sometimes it's just nice to hear from other people to see how other people with other doctors have treated something.
I mean, you can beg to differ, but when post titles and/or content specifically say things like "Attention all doctor bees!" or "Is anyone a medical professional?" it seems as if they are asking for medical advice, not just the support of friends.
Seriously though, I don't mean to stir up trouble at all, and I honestly hope (like many of you suggested) that these posters are just looking to share their experiences.
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Has anyone else noticed the huge wave of posts asking for medical advice lately? I hope that this doesn't offend anyone, but seriously people, go to the doctor! If your problem is serious enough to ask random strangers on the internet about, it's probably serious enough to see an actual medical professional! I know people have troubles with insurance and things sometimes and they simply cannot get professional help, but in that case, there must be a better place to find help with your problems than a wedding message board. Also, having a pretty good understanding about musculoskeletal health and even a bit of training in general medical conditions myself, the amount of totally incorrect and ill informed advice I have seen provided here is truly scary.. Seriously ladies, it's your health, it should be your highest priority. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just worried about all of these posters!