Post # 1
I was invited to one of my bridesmaids birthday parties at her cabin. It’s 3 hours away from where I live and I’d be spending the night. I want to go SO badly because I miss & love seeing her!
My plan is to drive to work that day and leave right after work for her cabin. Although, I seem to be having a bit of anxiety about my poor FI! LOL.
It is our turn to have his kids this weekend, and if we didn’t have them he would be coming along with me. However, he has to (wants to!) stay and spend time with his boys. I feel TERRIBLE about leaving all the boys alone. I love being there and hanging out, and giving my Fiance a little break to chill every once in a while so I can get some one on one time with the boys. I feel like I’m not doing my duty! Like I’m a bad little wife for not being around to help with meals for the kids and help with PJ’s and bedtime stories and time outs!
I know it’s healthy to have my own friends and plans but I’m just feeling a little guilty. Can anyone relate? How do you go to something like this and have fun without wondering if your Fiance is going to make it without you? haha… so irrational… I know!
Post # 3
There his kids, he can handle it.
I understand, as when my son was 8 months old and I went back to work, I thought about them non stop, and couldn’t get home fast enough. But they will have, so will you. Stop worrying!!!
Post # 4
It’s a night. I would kill for a night to myself. Go and enjoy yourself, they will be fine that’s what pizza delivery and movie rentals are for.
Post # 5
@Cash000: oh yea, I know he can handle it. I just feel bad!! I don’t know where this worrying came from! It seriously is so irrational. I feel clingy and I HATE clingy! hehe…
Post # 6
Go have fun it is actually healthy to spend time away from each other. That and your Fiance can have time alone with his children.
Honestly I wouldn’t worry about it
Post # 7
haha thanks ladies. I know this is pathetic. I think part of it, is that he doesn’t do things like this (because he doesn’t want to) and so I feel like I shouldn’t either so we’re equal. Which is… just ridiculous.
Post # 8
Was he not doing it by himself before you? Don’t feel guilty! We all need our time away and honestly fathers and sons need their own bonding time alone too. Everyone will be fine.
Post # 9
@MissGreen: Nope, this is not new behaviour for him. He’s a very home-y kind of guy and I know this.
I know I shouldn’t feel this way, I’m just a worrier.