(Closed) NWR – Should we go to the funeral?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you go to the funeral?
    Yes--go and show your support. He may not be a close friend but still a friend : (32 votes)
    73 %
    No - let him mourn with his family and close friends : (8 votes)
    18 %
    I dont know : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Other -- explain below. : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    3526 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Go. Having been on the receiving end quite a few times any and all support is appreciated. If they did not want it they would have had a private service.

    Sometimes you go to support those left behind as much as those that have left.

    Post # 4
    1493 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    You could always send flowers to the church in support if you feel that it might not be right to attend.

    Post # 5
    2265 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m kinda with your Darling Husband on this one. I think it would be more thoughtful to send flowers and a nice card expressing your smypathy rather than going to the funeral itself. I think funerals are really overwhelming, especially when they are for your parents, so I think you would actually be doing him a favour by giving him the extra space.

    Post # 6
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Is there a viewing separate from the actual mass/memorial?  If so, I would just attend that and bring a sympathy card along with you.

    Post # 7
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Definitly go.  In this sort of situation any support is appreciated.  No one will think it’s weird or judge you.  I would go even if it was an acquintance.  Trust me, he’s thinking about other more important things than trying to figure out why you’re there.

    Post # 8
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t go to the actualy funeral. Is there a viewing? You can always go to that to show support.

    Post # 9
    1851 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think you should go. Funerals are sad and losing a parent is really difficult…I think it would probably mean a lot to your friend if he saw that you were both there to support him…even if you’re not that close. I don’t think anyone will think that y’all are there just because all your other friends are, and I really do think that this person will appreciate that you took time out of your schedule to show your support.

    Post # 10
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Definitely go.  When my Grandmother passed away a few years ago just before Thanksgiving, my parents pastor (of a huge church) and another couple in the church came to the funeral in support of my parents and they had never met my Grandmother.  I think they showed up just in time for the funeral and skipped the viewing part.  I thought it was so needed and I am forever grateful to them for taking time out around the holidays to go. 

    Post # 11
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    I would go to the viewing, but not the actual funeral/burial.  I know that I will always remember which friends were there for me when my G-ma passed 11 years ago!

    Post # 12
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    Go to the wake, that’s exactly what they are for. I know I would have appriciated the extra support at my grandma’s wake. 

    Post # 13
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    To the viewing or the Funeral itself?   I would say if it’s going to the viewing, I would go that’s no big deal.  The funerals I usualy think of mostly family and very close friends. 

    Post # 14
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would go to the viewing to show your support.

    Post # 15
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would go to the veiwing (if there is one) but not to the funeral.

    Post # 16
    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Definitly go if you can.  I am still touched by how many random friends of my family came to my father’s memorial 10 years ago.  Losing a parent is so horrible and I’m sure he’ll appreciate any extra support!

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