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I think I would. If I remarried, I'd get rid of the sperm though. Did you see when they addressed this on House?
This could be posted in Nesting/TTC section. I personally have never considered having my husbands sperm frozen in case something were to happen. Maybe because I'm already pregnant.
I'm going to move this to the Babies board.
For myself, I never thought about freezing my husband's sperm for future use, but I might consider it if we were in a position where his life might be threatened... I'm not sure I'd be up to single parenting, though, so it would really depend on the specifics.
@MrsNeutrino: Hm, I would ask him what he would want to do. If he was willing, then I'd go for it.
Sperm is viable for a certain amount of time after death. While we don't want kids, I'm not opposed to doing this if something happened to my husband. I think losing him would make me want to have his baby, just so I always had a piece of him with me forever.
I couldn't have a child that is his without him present. I can see why someone would, I am just not strong enough to raise a child that would most certainly have a resemblance in looks, mannerisms, etc. I am a weak person emotionally and I think it would stall the healing process if not negate it all together.
@BoiledPNut: no! I never saw that! I love house though.. lol
@bells: well, lol.. i guess it doesnt apply then
@Mrs. Spring: I am already a single parent.. I just think about all the convos we have had about having children (we already have names for them and all lol).. I just think it would be so so sad to loose my husband and all of our future... kills me a little inside
@MissPumpkinPie: I am sure he will be, I just didnt want to bring it up because i didnt want it to seem like I didn't have faith he wasnt coming home.. But yes, on the piece of him forever..
@MrsSl82be: after death? I am talking.. freezing his sperm before he deploys. I know they freeze for years and years.. normal babies frozen from 12years+.
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: :-( man this is such a downer subject.... I think I would at least want the option
@MrsNeutrino: yeah i know that. I was just saying, I wouldn't do it unless he died. From my understanding, its expensive to store, so you have to weigh the cost of it with the worth of doing it now and holding onto it for however long you plan. I know if he died in the line of duty, it probably wouldn't be an option for you.
@MrsNeutrino: I am actually crying a little. Just the thought of him being gone and having this baby that smiles like him and has his blue eyes... Couldn't handle it. Most women are much much stronger than I am though and I think it is a beautiful thing for those in such a situation.
I would want to do it, but I know it would be hard to deal with. I saw an episode of "Make Room For Multiples" where a woman had her husband's sperm extracted right after he was killed in a car accident.
I think something like 4 of the embryos took, so she had that many newborns to care for. On one salary. Social Security didn't pay anything because her husband was dead before the conception.
@MrsSl82be: Yea PSR wouldnt be an option at all since I am pretty sure it has to be done within 24 hours. But the cost isnt an issue..
@strawbabies: Holy crap! Man that sounds like a crappy situation...
I have a close friend whose husband is in the Army (infantry) and she said that (unfortunately) this is a fairly common thing for a lot of military couples to do, particularily those in high risk positions. She told me that the most common reason is that if the solider is injured in battle, he may survive, but he may loose the ability to have children.
I don't think that I could have my husband child if he passed away, but I would definitly consider using the sperm if he was injured and could no longer produce new sperm.
@strawbabies: Most docs will not transfer four. Most transfer a maximum of two. My doctor only transfers three embyros in certain cases. So the fact that her doctor transfered four and that she agreed to it makes both of them at fault for her having quintuplets.
I wouldn't do this. I would not want to raise my husband's baby without him, nor would I want to be a single mother. I think it is a great option for those who want to do this, though.
@NYC.BOS.CHI: "I don't think that I could have my husband child if he passed away, but I would definitly consider using the sperm if he was injured and could no longer produce new sperm."
That's kind of where I fall too. If DH was in a position where his chance of an injury that would make him infertile was higher, I'd consider freezing sperm so we could still have children. But I don't think I'd want to conceive his child after he'd already died.
I understand why people would initially want to do this, but I think it is actually really selfish. My father died when I was very young and growing up without your father is devastating for a child. I would never put my child through that.
I have a friend who had cancer and froze his sperm before he started chemo. I heard it is EXPENSIVE to store though. His parents are actually paying for the storage costs.
I would consider it if I could afford it.
ETA: Oh, I thought it was like $400 a month or something outrageous. This site says its only $40 a month or you can prepay for a year and it will cost you about $400 a year. Yeah, it doesn't sound too bad.
@septcabride: I think your response came off a little rude. I understand how growing up with only one parent is hard, but that its selfish? I know I would have tons of family support from both sides. Would you be able to say that to a woman whose husband died while she was pregnant?
When my husband deploys I have recurring nightmares about him being gone and me having these beautiful children that look exactly like him and it haunts me...much like @Mrs.ChubbyBunny said! So no, I don't think I could handle it!
@MrsSl82be: I am sorry that you think my response was rude, but I was expressing my opinion, and I stand by it. That said, it's none of my business what you or the OP would do in this situation.
@MrsSl82be: I do think there is a huge difference between a father who dies while the mother is already pregnant and a mother concieveing a child after the father has already died.
One is a tragic accident and one is done purposefully. I really don't think you can try to compare the two situations.
The situation is obviously not ideal, but I kind of look at it like making the best of the worst situation. IDK, I grew up without a father and honestly, I never really missed him. I never knew the difference I guess. This situation is kind of a 'to each their own' but I dont understand how bringing a child into this world when you can provide for them and love them would be selfish. just my opinion.
@MrsNeutrino: Yeah, it was when Cameron and Chase were together. She had sperm from her first husband frozen and Chase was NOT happy about it!
I would do it in a heartbeat. FI has consented and written this down for me. FI also has grown up without a father (died when he was 10). Call me selfish.
I think I would consider freezing DH's sperm, if he were in a dangerous profession, and before we had kids of our own. Now that I am pregnant, I don't think that I would do it anymore, because I know that we will have at least one child together.
I think I'd do it just in case of injury like NYC.BOS.CHI said. I don't think I'll be strong enough to bring a child into this world by myself, but there're a lot of women who are and can do it.
It's like those women buying sperm to get pregnant, it's something they want to do and if they have the means to do it then fine, it's their decision. Of course I think it has a deeper meaning when you use your late husband's sperm rather than a stranger's.
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ok, i had no clue where to post this.. so I thought I would just throw it out there and see where it ends up! well, FI is in the Air Force.. our original wedding date actually falls right in the middle of his deployment window which makes me sick to my stomach... It has me thinking about all the worst case senarios.. Well, my question is: Would you ever freeze your FI's sperm in case something were to happen to him.. you have the option of having his child still?