NWR: Strange Facebook Friend Request From Ex's Wife

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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906 posts
Busy bee

I would just igrore the request and if she messages you and keeps messaging you then I would tell her if she knows your chris’s ex that due to being Chris’s ex girlfriend that you can’t be her friend on Facebook out of respect for your husband. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MrsMaverick13:  i would ignore it personally.  i find it odd when basically strangers friend someone just because.  i noticed that my brother’s 2 ex wives are friends on fb.  now that’s weird.  they never knew each other irl.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 There’s only one reason she wants to add you, it’s because (justified or not), she thinks he’s up to no good. Not necessarily with you, but she’s suspicious of something.  Ignore the request. If she persists, just send her a message that as a married woman, you don’t feel this is appropriate, given your previous relationship.

Post # 8
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2162 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think it’s weird. FI’s ex gf tried to add me as a friend…we live in different states, FI doesn’t like her and none of his friends like her, so it was weird and I ignored it. Later on I noticed the request was gone (I don’t know how that works?) but I guess it didn’t really matter if I offended her. So…if I were you I’d just ignore it, whatevs!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsMaverick13:  If I’m not friends, I quietly ignore the request. After I’ve seen the first notification, I don’t get any more notifications (so long as I don’t click “friend requests”), so it’s easy to “forget”. I don’t reject the request though, I just ignore it. The request seems to expire eventually.

She’s unlikely to be offended. But even if she is offended, what’s the big deal? You never see her or your ex anymore, so who cares if they take offense?

Post # 10
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41 posts
Newbee

I would say that he’s not over you, and maybes shes doing the whole ‘keep your enemies closer’ thing. Even though you haven’t done anything wrong or had any contact she might be morbidly curious about the girl her husband is still in love with. 

Just my two cents lol 😉 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsMaverick13:  

I think it is best to cut ties with exes and exes’ exes, etc., when you get married. I think you did a great thing there. It’s also one of the reasons I hate Facebook. I feel like I am socially forced together with people and it can be hard to disconnect.

I believe your ex’s wife feels your ex is still somehow enamored with you and is curious to find out what you are about. I had people try to friend me from the past after I was engaged and married. People I want to leave in the dusty dumpster of time.

I didn’t accept their requests and in my opinion, you shouldn’t either. I don’t think you can ever truly move on if these people stay in your life. Ignore it or deny as you wish. People need to get used to the fact that not everyone is meant to be friends with them.

 

Post # 12
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679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Maybe she just wants to poke through your pics because she’s heard about you from your ex or his friends.

Post # 14
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460 posts
Helper bee

@LuluInLove:  I was thinking along similar lines … maybe she was being nosy or curious about her man’s ex and was browsing your FB, but accidentally clicked the friend request button (memory serves me it is close to some other button).

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