NWR: To Go or Not To Go

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ShabbyChicBee:  Why should this birth be a big deal for you? What purpose would your being there serve?  This isn’t the second coming. Visit Later.

Post # 4
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would be mad as hell if someone with the flu came to visit my newborn. Don’t go yet.

Post # 5
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Send him with a card for FSIL saying that you don’t want to risk bringing harmful germs to her and her new baby but you would love to be able to visit her when she gets home and you are in the clear. There is nothing wrong with this. It sounds like she will be busy with plenty of visitors, anyway.

Post # 6
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You are just getting over the flu. I would wait until you felt better to visit the FSIL and new baby. I’m sure she will understand that you don’t want to risk the chance of getting either one of them sick.

Post # 8
7220 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would probably call her (if you’re comfortable with that) and just tell her you’ve been sick and would love to visit the following week or something. I wouldn’t want someone who had the flu or even a cold near my newborn anyway!

Post # 9
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

You’re sick. Do everyone a favor and explain that sick people don’t go visiting newborns in hospitals.

Post # 10
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@ShabbyChicBee:  TBH, his sister would probably prefer to NOT have someone in the hospital visiting that she isn’t that close to. Most new parents want some privacy and alone time right after the birth.

Post # 11
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Also, just because you won’t be in the room with her or the newborn (if you spend your time waiting in the family area) doesn’t mean you aren’t putting her child a risk. You can easily spread germs to your FI and FILs while waiting and they can go back and spread them to the not-yet-immunized baby.

Post # 12
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ShabbyChicBee:  Call the new Mommy yourself so she hears from you. Tell her congrats but right now you are still too sick to visit the baby. She will totally understand. Newborns have NO immunity.

Post # 14
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ShabbyChicBee:  I say call her once the baby is born and say congrats, but I know if it were me I would be furious if someone that had the flu/cold came to see my baby. No way. You are being responsible.

Let FI go be with his family.

Post # 15
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ShabbyChicBee:  I’m pretty sure your SIL will be THRILLED that you’re waiting until you’re not sick to visit! I’m 2 weeks from giving birth, and I wouldn’t want someone getting over the flu visiting me and baby in the hospital!

I’m sure she’d rather see you at home once she’s settled in–and bonus points if you bring them something for dinner!

Post # 16
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@ShabbyChicBee:  I wouldn’t go. For all the things PP have said. You’ve been sick, you and your FSIL aren’t that close, and you have plans that will be difficult to rearrange. Send a card with FI, and give her a call after the baby is born.

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