NWR – Too fat to work here

posted 3 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
2056 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

omg that is AWFUL! and SO unprofessional!!! im sorry this happened, but to be honest you woulnt want to work there with awful people like that anyway! u need to find inner peace with yourself and your body. it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks. you’ll land your dream job in a nice school with nice supportive people. and congrats on graduating! massive achievement!

Post # 4
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Honey, keep your head up…want me to internet punch her for you? <3

Post # 5
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

On the plus side, whatever job you do end up with, you can thank your lucky stars it won’t be with THAT woman. Ugh. That kind of negative energy sounds awful! I bet someone could be perfect and flawless and she would still be standing around picking them apart.

Post # 6
1167 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Katchin:  Awh sweetie, I feel you 🙁 Im at 102kg at the moment (started at 105 a month ago, I need to lose like 52 kg because being 5’1″ I should be tiny…

Ive been to inverviews where the exact same thing happened, except they took me and sat me in a small waiting area which was just another part of the same office, divided by a dividing wall. The other interviewee’s must have thought I was in another room, because I could hear them making fun of how big I was, which lead them to say things like how stupid I must be because, and I quote, “If she’s stupid enough to let herself get that big I don’t know how she got through highschool, let along the course!”

I felt the exact same way as you do right now, I think it was about 3-4 days before I could get over it. I was bawling when I got home, I take alot to heart and people being nasty to me always makes me cry, especially when they are nice to my face…

I almost didn’t want to lose weight for a long time because I felt like everyone was always judging me and it made me feel sick to think that they could pressure me into something like that, as well as the fear that if I slid backwards they would come at me twice as hard…

All Im doing now is eating a bit healthier with my FH, doing a little more exercising, and cutting a tiny bit of portions because if I crash dieted to lose the weight I would be forever fearful of it coming back and going through twice the hell I do now. I’m kinda happy that Im doing it really slow, because I don’t WANT people to really notice!

Onanother note, would you consider placing a formal complaint about her behaviour? It’s completely unacceptable and unprofessional, regardless of whether or not you could see or hear her. I’ve placed one anonymous-ish-ly before. I say ish, because I know they know who I am anyhow, but it doesn’t matter.

Sorry for the novel; TL/DR I feel your pain, you are not alone, and we all need to vent sometimes. I wish I could help more, but Im in the same position and I know thsoe crap lines people tell you really don’t help.

Post # 7
1383 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Katchin:  I’m so sorry that happened to you! Big hug!! I agree, you dodged a bullet at least because it sounds like it would not be good working with horrible people like that.


your size does not make you a bad person, you need to learn to love yourself for who you are.  I’ve personally recently come to this realization, and have gotten healthier recently losing almost 50 lbs this year on Weight Watchers. However, I can tell you first hand that you have to work on accepting yourself, and loving yourself, because even if you lose weight you will be the same person. TBH, I probably would have gotten up and left at that point.


it sounds like some therapy might be helpful to sort out your self-esteem issues.  Again, it’s more about loving yourself, that needs to happen regardless of your size :o)


 ETA: just took a look at your wedding pics and you are beautiful! 


Post # 8
251 posts
Helper bee

Oh my gosh that is so terrible.  I see you’re in Australia so I’m not sure what the laws are like there but here in the US I believe that you can take legal action for discrimination.

You do not deserve this at all and it is probably a GOOD thing anyway because you wouldn’t want to be around terrible people like that!!!


Post # 10
1926 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am so so sorry you had to go through that! I would withdraw my application immediately and let hr know. 

Sending lots of hugs to you!

Post # 11
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

=( Thats awful. I have to agree with PPs though, you’ll be better off not working there in the long run.

And for what its worth, I think you’re gorgeous! I love your wedding pictures.

Post # 12
2537 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am so very sorry.  Words cannot express how badly I feel.  I’m quite overweight, have PCOS, and am trying lose weight.  I know how difficult it is, and am trying to find peace with it.  Again, I’m so very sorry.

Post # 13
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Are you sure she was talking about you? Things aren’t always as they seem.

Post # 15
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@Katchin:  UMMM no not all of us are thinking why don’t you do something about it 🙁  Please don’t think this way 🙁

This sounds to me like it is one person who is crossing a line.  I’m sorry that you are dealing with this.



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