- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Ok sorry bees this is going to be a bit long but i am totally at a loss and feeling so down and really dont know what to do.
There has been alot of changes in my immediate family this past year. My mom started dating again after my stepdad passed away almost 7 years ago. I know that it was time and i am totally ok with that. But she is acting like the 21 yr old here…we had a huge falling out a few months ago ( we were on vacation for my 21st bday and she swore to me that she was not seeing this guy that happens to be the owner of the building that her business is based out of) she had always tought me that this was not okay well long story short. the night we got home from vacation she txted me saying that i couldnt come home because this person was over. I was so mad and hurt that we didnt talk for almost a month.
Then while all of this was ging on my dad and step mom are going through a divorce.which took myself, my brother and sister by suprise.
which brings me to why i am feeling so crappy… my dads divorce was finalized about a week ago, and i got a call from him that he is bringing his new Girlfriend that none of us knew about on our family getaway the weekend after thanksgiving. I was suprised but really i knew it was coming because that is how my dad is. Now my sister refuses to go on this trip. I have tried calling her, txting her, emailing her but she wont respond because she knows that i am ok with the new Girlfriend coming. I have learned so much this past year about all of this. I have realized that all that matters is that my parents are happy and as long as they are being honest and including all of us and not hiding it, then i cant really be mad, i can be sad because it is not what we all thought would happen, but i cant be mad.
Anyways i am totally lost about how to talk to my sister, it is so important that she goes, this will be the first family getaway that we have taken in almost 10yrs.
sorry if this makes no sence at all lol, but any advice on how to get her to talk to me about this would be great.