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I am so HOT right now I could spit!! My husband came by my office while I was out and left a gift for me with the receptionist because my office door was closed and locked.
It was a two-pound box of chocolates with a note (in an unsealed envelope). I just came back and received the box and was all excited until... I opened the box and IT WAS HALF-EATEN!!!
I stormed out to the reception area and do you know what this chick said??? "Well the note said it was for you to share with the office so a few of us enjoyed a few pieces. It's not like it's a big deal, I mean—you couldn't have eaten the whole box yourself anyway."
WHAT??? So this b!*%$@ opened & read a card from my husband to me and then ate & offered to others my chocolates?? Oh HEEEEEEEEELLLLLL NO!! I told her I'm going to call Hubby and find out what it cost because she is paying me for it and if not in money, then I'll take it out of her hide.
And I'm not kidding!
The unmitigated gall!!
And here's what makes this a really stupid move on her part... It is not common knowledge because I don't want preferential treatment & because I use a different last name professionally but... I am the owner of the company's daughter. Big oops on her part, huh?
Wow, that's a new one. She obviouly lacks a little something in her social skills/common sense.
Oh wow. SO RUDE. I don't even know what else to say. I'm shocked someone would actually be that oblivious/rude/inconsiderate/i dunno!?!?!?!
I'd be so pissed!!!!!!!!!!!! What a stupid (*&$(*&!!!!!! wow.
Can your mom/dad fire her? ahaha
I can't *believe* that anyone would read a card not addressed to them! sealed or unsealed that is inappropriate! And the fact that she shared the chocolate around before it had even been given to you, thats just ....well i have no words!
Wow. Just wow. I don't read other people's cards unless they are passed to me to do so, (like a shower or birthday party, or "Oh my Gosh, look at this hilarious card Aunt Edna gave me!". And then to take eat the chocolate AND share it...wow. Just wow.
WTH? Why would ANYONE open a card/note written to someone else?
It could have been TERRIBLY personal and it could get you fired!
@Ryansgirl: YES! Heck, I could probably go out there and fire her right now if I wanted to as far as my position and my "familial tie" are concerned but she wouldn't take it very well.
But in all honesty, I wouldn't want anyone to lose their job in the current economy, but she needs to understand boundaries. Yeah, I'm extremely annoyed that she read my card & opened my chocolates, but moreso by the realization that she probably snoops regularly and might be reading sensitive documents that are absolutely none of her business (payroll information, tax info, client info, etc.).
The snooping is what needs to be addressed more than the eating of the chocolates, but I kid you not, that wench will be reimbursing me for the chocolates. It's the principal of the thing. If he dropped off a foot-long Subway would she have eaten half & said, "You couldn't have eaten the whole thing?"
OMG. I cannot believe someone would read a card NOT addressed to them, much less open a card not for them!! Umm.. note said it was for YOU to share (if you please), not for her to open up and give away!
Usually when people say that cant believe something someone did, I can see the other side of the story.
There is no other side of this story. How would anyone think its OK? I can kinda see sneaking a peek at the note, but to EAT the chocolate?!?!?
I'd be super pissed HOWEVER, I think you need to take a step back and breathe. Ok, so while your feelings are perfectly vaild! BUTTTTT, you need to calm down, I think making her pay is way, way over the top. Tomorrow (or after a day or 2) you ask to speak to that lady. You tell her that personal mail is PERSONAL, she is to never, ever open your mail unless specifc permisson is granted by the individual who's mail is in question. Ream her out nice and good for disrespecting your privacy (because that the real issue right? not that she ate some chocolate). I'm all for the good solid ream out, but I think making her fork up the money isn't the answer.
But, don't presume I wouldn't be just as pissed *oh, I would....* I think it matters what you do next though that counts.
Wow! I can't beleive she had the nerve to share them! I would take the difference out of her check.
Oh wait! No she did not just come into my office with some Werther's hard candy and offer me an apology like that is going to make up for it?? Bwahahaha! Either her common sense or her conscience just kicked in or someone in the know just told her who I really am...
I'll bet my coffeee will be piping hot & all of my phone messages and packages will be brought to me in a very timely manner for the next week or two...
i would say something to her about reading other's personal messages and how that is very unprofessional. don't even mention the chocolate.
@tootietoo2: Haha. This is incredible! How can someone be so dense!!
I'm also the owners daughter but no one knows and I can only imagine how my dad would freak if this happened to me.
Wow someone is getting a little too comfortable in their job....
I agree with you that if she is snooping at this she is probably snooping at everything. Hey, her job could go to someone who actually DESERVES to be trusted.
LOL- Take a day and chill out. Then speak to her in private about her "professionalism" in theroy lack there of.
@sdrury89: I know you understand totally. And I like the anonymnity and feeling like "just one of the gang" so I'm hoping no one told her because like I said before, I don't want to get her in trouble—I'm just amazed at the nerve and stupidity of it.
@vmec: I see your point and I also know I am very annoyed right now and it will pass so I will not take any action out of anger. But really?? I mean, clients send over gifts all of the time, everything from a bottle of wine to tickets to a show. Does that mean she would open those and decide how to distribute them as well?
Sheesh!
No, I totally get it. That's totally unacceptable! So do NOT let her get away with it. In fact HR (not sure about your company) but it could be so serious that this issue could be raised to HR. In all honesty I would consider it.
Can you smack her upside the head? Oh you can't? Well I can! I'll come smack her for you. That girl needs a serious manners check. WTF is wrong with people these days. You should pick something up off of her desk and read it aloud to the office because obviously she's not concerned about privacy.
@tootietoo2: I dont even know what to say?!!! I think my jaw dropped a little when i read that. Very awful, rude and disrespectful! I agree with vmec though, you have every right to b e upset and you should be, but take a day to cool down and then tan her hide when you see her next :)
That's halfway to illegal--if it was regular mail you could sue her.
How RUDE!
And you know probably makes me maddest of all....
They ate all of the "coconut cream" and "raspberry truffle" type stuff... Left me with some raggedy old fruit & nut caramel & orange cream B.S. BOOOOO!
(and I'm quite the germaphobe so you know I can't eat any of it now since it has been picked over) 
That is incosiderate but, i think you're taking it a little far asking her to pay you for the half that her and the other people in the office ate. Would you have actually ate them all? Yes i would be pissed off to but, in the end i would have shared anyways.
@tootietoo2: I hate that! I got some nice chocolates for christmas and I passed them around my *small* family. When they got back to me there were literally 3 left in the box (out of 15!!!) and they were the gross fruit&nut ones and this nasty mocha coconut diaster.
I'd smack this girl, legit. I don't think asking her to replace it is out of line at all, it's probably what I'd do!
@lefeymw: I'm usually like you see the other side of the story, theres always 2 sides/viewpoints. But i agree theres no other side to the story. Holy crap, I'm just amazed .... just WTF. i would want to beat the crap out of her with the remainder of the 2lbs of chocolat.
@roxy_angell13: But what if I did want to eat it all? Or what if I wanted to share it with a client rather than the staff? Or maybe give it to my nieces & nephews? My whole thing is that it was my chocolate to do with what I please.
If I wanted to cram it up my bum & try to toot it out, that was my right, was it not?
**Just gave myself an idea of how to greet her tomorrow!**
@Gingersnap: I'll actually leave that up yo Hubby since it was his money that was misappropriated, but I'm certainly not above it.
And it is NOT too much to ask her to pay for it she opened and dispersed stuff that didn't belong to her she needs to repay. The audacity to not only open the note read it but to disperse stuff that didn't belong to her. I am enraged for you, just OMG really
@tootietoo2: haha. I get you totally. I love that I can go in and do my thing and everyone is still relaxed and normal around me. The last office I was in my parents also worked there so everyone knew and you can definitely tell the difference. And I don't mess around with chocolate, I could eat it all day long every day, if someone opened MY chocolates, and then ate them and then shared them too I woulda lost it on them.
@Miss Tattoo: lol
Seriously? It would make me so upset! I'm shocked for you!
I wouldn't trust her anymore & I don't have people working for me I can't trust. I'm usually really forgiving & think most things can be worked out, but there are some things that are a big no-no. I would worry about it happening again. What if she's been going thru things the entire time she's been working there? I think you should wait a day or so until you're not as mad & then talk with her about it. Or go to HR.
At least you have some chocolate to enjoy the rest of your day!
I would be more upset about her reading the card then eating your chocolates. What if your husband had referenced some racy encounter the two of you had or pet names for *ahem* down there....that would be so akward!!
I had to laugh at that, because it's so incredibly ridiculous!
I do not think you are asking too much by asking her to repay. If it was me (and I chose to not share), I would have probably kept the chocolates to eat a couple everyday, and in fact WOULD have eaten them all by myself.
And reading the note!? That's just...argh. I'm furious for you!
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