Post # 1
Maybe I should just mind my own business, but I am worried about a close friend. (My only non relative in my bridal party to give you some context.) At first I was wondering why she hasn’t paid me for her dress (which she got in October, and I paid for part of, even though I didn’t help anyone else), then I "got over it", bc we are too close to let it bother me.
Anywho, she emailed today saying all of her CC’s are maxed out. She was really responsible w/ $ when we met, but ever since she got married it is bad. I don’t know if it is just her hubby or what. I know I am lucky that my family advised me a lot on finances, and I am not sure she knows all the tips/tricks. Is there a subtle way I can offer to help? Or, less subtley, just let her know something like I’ve gotten some good ideas from Suze Orman, etc.? I’m worried about her, bc it just seems to be getting worse and worse, and they were trying to get pregnant again. I don’t want to seem preachy, since I make more $ than most of my friends, it could be annoying!
Post # 3
This is a tricky subject, especially these days! How to approach it depends on how close you two are — are you "no holds barred" best friends? It also depends how sensitive she is about this kind of stuff — some people like to talk about money, and other people don’t. You might find that she actually wants to talk about it, especially if it’s something that’s stressing her out. Since you both know that she hasn’t paid for her BM dress, is it hanging around like the elephant in the room?
I’m sorry I’m not being more helpful! I guess it all boils down to what you think she’d be comfortable with. Perhaps you could bring up your own financial situation and see how she responds?
Post # 4
IF she mentioned the CC thing to you, she must be pretty stressed out and somewhat open to talking about it. You can just kindly offer to talk about it if she wants – open the door and see if she is interested! "I noticed you mentioned your CCs are maxed out. I am sure that is really stressful – do you want to talk about it? Maybe I can help you think of some good solutions?"
Post # 5
I would definitely approach with a non-judgemental "Here’s what I’ve learned" attitude. Make her feel like you’re in it together.
Maybe you can even start a smart chicks club a la Miss Meatball!
Post # 6
I agree with Janna19… If she weren’t willing to talk about it, I do not believe that she would have mentioned it. I would definitely open the door to the conversation and depending on her reaction, I would decide how to share the information.
Also, if you do not mind share a few of your tips and tricks on here. I am sure that there are several bees that will find it useful!