(Closed) NWR- urgent replies needed (kinda)

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Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

It sounds like you already did the right thing, you invited her over for something that she would enjoy.  Friends don’t always enjoy doing the same thing I like.  If I go dancing for my birthday (actual dancing, not club dancing) I know there are certain people who will not come.  Same thing if it’s something very drinking based, like a martini bar.

Have fun with her on your own when she has the chance.  Don’t bother going out if you’re already dreading it!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You should go to your friends party, you don’t have to stay all night.  Make an appearance, your good wishes, and have a quick drink with her.  DH and I know alot of people who like the drama, especially after cocktails, and we always make an appearance, drop off a gift, have a cocktail, then we are off.  I really don’t want to get wrapped up in all the inner mess of some of these people so we keep out outings with them to a minimum.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If you think it would hurt her feelings if you don’t show up, I would say you should stop by for a drink and wish her a happy birthday and then head out.  She should understand your desire not to spend time with certain people who will be there.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Drama is usually something that follows a lot of drinking and towards the end of the night. I would go early and for a very short drink and escape before anything begins. Maybe your son and husband can wait for you someplace nearby? To ensure you stick to your plan.

I think since you already backed out you showing up wil mean just that much mroe to her.

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