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    I'm seriously at the end of my rope with these friends. I don't know what more I can take from them.

    I have these two friends, they're another engaged couple. One of them is FI's roommate and the other is a former roommate of mine. I've posted on here before about how she and I got into a major fight late last year.

    During this friend-break-up, we have been hanging out with some friends with whom we weren't as close before. I really like spending time with Couple #2! They are sweet, honest and don't take advantage of our kindness like Couple #1 did before the big blow-out. Couple #1 is notorious for bringing like no food to parties, never contributing hardly anything to dinners together and generally being kind of selfish in our group of friends. Up until last year, we just kind of let it happen.

    So, here's the last straw. FI, my sis and I had planned on having some people over for the superbowl, but then Couple #1's good friend (and one of my BMs) invited everyone we know via Facebook over to her place (which she shares with girl from Couple #1) before we could ask anyone--it happened the same afternoon. She invited like 35 people to a living room that is literally 12x14, with little seating and a jumpy dog. We kind of left it hanging on facebook as to whether we were coming. Girl from Couple #2 was hanging out with me that same afternoon and I mentioned to her about how we had plans, and she was like "Oh, well let's just do it anyways, I like the sound of that!" She too had concerns about space and my sis ended up having to do a group project, so we stayed at my place to watch the superbowl.

    Now, Guy from Couple #2 was coming from out of town while his GF was hanging out with us tonight. He called and asked what the deal was with us being at my apt, not Couple #1s--apparently Guy from #1 called him and asked why they weren't there, Guy #2 said that he was on his way to my place, and Guy #1 was like "oh well she (ME) was supposed to be here, I guess she just changed up plans on us." I get a text asking where I am and respond with "Sis had project to do" or something like that.

    HOLD UP. I never said yes to this. In fact, FI never said yes. My sis said "maybe" and one of our guests said "maybe" and no one else said a word. So, um, WHAT? Then I get an angry text from them saying "I wasn't born yesterday, have fun" or something to that effect--um, excuse me?! I never RSVPed yes to your event, AND my sister DID have homework. So I text back "She is currently writing a paper on Piaget's theory of knowledge," to no response.

    Guy #2 shows up and tells us that he told them to quit being bitches and deal with it on the phone, and we all just let it go. But now I am pretty sure that BM and crazy couple #1 are furious at us... for a reason I'm not sure of!

    Sorry if you read this all, but I just really had to get it out. What is the deal?! Did I do something wrong? They didn't know about our plans beforehand, but we didn't "steal" any guests -- those guests would not have been going to their party anyways, and did not RSVP to do so; neither did we. 

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    They sound like immature jerks. Stick raisins up their noses... they deserve it. :p

     
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    Miss Root    07/04/10   Seattle

    The whole situation sounds like it kind of got blown out of proportion by Guy #1; I'm not sure how you having your own party was such a big deal.  You didn't do anything wrong- I think it may have something to do with the fact that Couple #2 picked you guys over them.  People get weird and jealous over stuff like that.

    I would just not respond to the text messages (because they are rude, and you didn't do anything wrong) and let it go.  Let them wallow in their own rudeness and move on. 

     
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    Thanks snips! - PS I love your blog about your cat sleeping on garlic salt. YES. Laughing

     
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    Thanks Miss Root. I just can't help feeling like I did something, and I especially don't want to hurt my BM's feelings, but I am pretty sure she's listening to the venom being spewed about me by couple #1. She tries to not listen but after months of hearing it, how could you not!?

     
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    Update: now BM is acting angry towards me, too! AHHHH what did I do? FI and I are perplexed...

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    Yikes...it sounds like they're a little jealous that you've replaced them with couple #2! Chalk it up to them being immature about the situation and ignore the fact that they're all mad at you for not coming to their party!

     

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