Post # 1
Had an abdominal hysterectomy on March 19th, on Thursday, I managed to strain my back trying to be careful of my stomach (and yes, that made my stomach sore, just can’t win). Managed to take 3 whole days off after surgery then worked 30 hours a week from home so my healing might have been a little slower. <br />Okay, on the the vent – my husband ditched me at the grocery store today, (3.5km from home) because I got mad that he keeps referring to his ex-wife as his wife… we’ve been married for less than a year. Good thing I got a hold of friend who insisted on picking me up, I don’t think my back or stomach could have handled that.
Post # 2
If my husband *ever* left me somewhere where I couldn’t get home without having to call a friend to pick me up, that would be the end of him. goes double if I was recovering from surgery! Honestly I don’t care what the fight was about. It wasn’t handled like grown-ups. I think you guys need some coaching in conflict resolution ASAP. I’m not usually one to jump on the “red flag” bandwagon, but I think in this situation, it’s warranted!
Post # 3
Oh my… I’m so sorry this happened to you. Have you guys talked about it?
Post # 4
A) I’d be fucking LIVID if my husband referred to his ex wife as his wife when he has a wife that is actually his wife standing right beside him.
B) Who the hell leaves a woman fresh out of surgery anywhere?
He needs to get his shit straight, and grow up.
Post # 5
What the actual fuck? That would be the end of that relationship for me.
Post # 6
This is just awful. A hysterectomy is major surgery that needs plenty of recovery time (don’t work too hard!) so for your husband to just up and leave you there is reprehensible. I’d still say it was terrible even if you hadn’t had surgery to just be ditched at the shops because of a fight.
Also, I am my DH’s second wife and if he ever referred to his ex as his wife, let alone constantly, I would be pissed.
Post # 7
That son of a bitch is lucky he’s not married to me. I’d set his nutsack on fire if he pulled that stunt with me.
Post # 9
Miss-Petunia: I completely agree with all the PPs. You should print a copy of this out and leave it on his pillow.
I really really hope you have a much brighter week and take good care of yourself. Sending you my gentlest virtual hugs!
Post # 10
Oh. My. Gosh. I’d have been furious with him with just the talk of the ex-wife deal. Seriously, what the hell? And to ditch you…that man needs to sort out his priorities pronto!
Virtual hugs and cookies for you…and a swift kick in the butt for him to remember his vows to you and to never ditching his wife someplace again.
Post # 11
Say what?!? My mom had a hysterectomy and they’re no joke! I’d have assumed your husband would be doing all the grocery shopping while you recover. And then to leave you at the store because he got pissed? How incredibly childish! And he’s being a douche if he can’t remember that she’s not his wife anymore. And occasional slip up is one thing, but constantly? Come on dude!
Post # 12
Miss-Petunia: I…just don’t even know what to say.
There would be no excuse, and I mean none, if you were in good health but it’s down right abusive that he left you knowing you are recovering from a MAJOR abdominal surgery.
Let his ex-wife have him. You should shed this asswipe with the quickness.
Im sorry for what you’re going through and hope you are better soon.
Post # 13
What in the what? Oh hellllllllll no.
Post # 14
Miss-Petunia: omg, you poor thing…thank goodness your friend could pick you up. I don’t even know if I could ever again respect my husband for doing that. That is beyond cruel.
I hope the rest of your recovery goes smoothly and hope upon hope that your husband has an awakening, begs you for forgiveness and treats you like GOLD from now on. You deserve nothing less.
Post # 15
Ditching you anytime is a douche move but right after surgery???? Pfff he’s an ass and I hope you go somehwere to get the rest and recovery you need. I just don’t get it….