Post # 1
Lately there have been several posts about how a pet is a lifetime commitment and it’s not right to give them up blah blah blah. And I agree. To a point.
My fiance had a pitbull, Jynx. The sweetest, funniest, goofiest dog I have ever met. He loves kisses and cuddles and making messes.
One day, FH walked outside to find a foreclosure notice on his front door. Imagine our surprise considering FH was renting the house. To make a long story short, the landlord said he was taking care of everything but it turns out he didn’t. FH had to move.
At that time, work was very slow (FH is a tattoo artist who works solely on commission. No one getting tattooed means $0 paychecks). FH didn’t have any money saved for a security deposit or a down payment. We decided he would move in with me and my parents.
Our city has BSL. Because, clearly, all pitbulls are vicious, evil, dangerous creatures who will rip your face off for breathing in their direction. Jynx could not come with FH. He had to go live with our friend who gave him to us. This was the understanding from the beginning.. If for any reason we couldn’t keep him, he would go to Jay. Jay and his wife always dog-sat for us when we were out of town.
I sobbed when I dropped Jynx off in the beginning of December. I still cry thinking about it. I’m crying as I write this. I haven’t been over to visit him at all because I know I won’t be able to leave him again. I miss my buddy. If we move to a place where bullies are welcome, he still won’t be able to come live with us because by now he’s gotten used to being with the other doggies and I would never want him to be lonely.
Sometimes, there really are extinuating circumstances and sometimes, the furbabies really can’t come with you. Those circumstances are truly heartbreaking. So please, stop automatically crucifying someone just because they can’t take a pet with them. It hurts my heart to read things like that.
ETA: Pictures of my handsome man
Post # 3
@s2bmrscook: +1000 Thank you for writing this.. im one of the posters and feeling so guilty..
Post # 4
@s2bmrscook: There are most certainly circumstances where pets can’t come with. My dog was 11 years old and couldn’t live with us because we moved into a split level home where he wouldn’t be able to climb the steps. That was a circumstance that I think it appropriate. He with my parents where he gets wya more outdoor time, another dog, and lots of treats. He is happy.
Post # 5
@Kandiss16: Absolutely. I would NEVER give him up if there was any way possible I could keep him!
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Pit bulls really are great dogs. We had one and he got along well with our sheltie and our cat. The cat would actually chase the pit bull through the house!! They get a bad rep because they are so loyal and protective and will kill an intruder to protect their family. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t loving, sweet companions. 🙁 My heart breaks for you.
Post # 7
Thank you! Completely agree. While I have never had to give up a pet (thankfully!), I adopted my cat from a family that couldn’t keep her because of allergies.
There’s a big difference between dropping your pet off at a shelter like you don’t care and placing your pet with people you trust and know will give her a great, happy home. Sometimes, unfortunatey, it’s what needs to be done after you’ve tried everything.
Post # 8
Agreed. I don’t think most people get a pet thinking there might be a circumstance they encounter where they couldn’t keep the pet. But, things happen and circumstances change.
Post # 9
@s2bmrscook: I am so glad he went to a friend! you are not a bad person for leaving a dog you couldnt keep with someone who will take care of them.
I have 4 dogs. 2 I got before I was 18. The other 2 I got with my FI. FI and I moved out and could not take 4 dogs with us, nor would the oldest 2 do well in the place we moved in (several flights of stairs). When we move into our own home one day we will have all 4 with us. Right now my older 2 are living with my parents (as they always have). There is not a day I dont think about them and miss them.
Post # 10
@s2bmrscook: Adorable dog. I am wondering if this is a spin off from the thread where the gal couldn’t decide between her cats and living with her FI? I would never place a pet’s importance higher than my FI’s, but I can’t think of any reasonable situation where I personally would have to give up my baby. I can understand your situation though, and it must have been heartbreaking. It’s not like you sent him to the pound or abandoned him in the street. You found a great home for him where it sounds like he has a pack of dogs to play with. I’m sure he’s having a ball 😀
Post # 11
Ugh, BSL is such bullshit. I’m sorry this happened to you. The little fenced in area for dogs at my apartment has a sign that says “No aggressive breeds allowed” So… no dogs allowed? Because any breed can be aggressive…
I think it is great that you have a friend who could take Jynx, hopefully one day you will be able to live somewhere where he can be with you again. I do think there are special circumstances, I hope I never find myself in one of them. I know my parents would take my cats if I ended up in one of them, I could not imagine dropping them off at a shelter. I have no plans to give my cats up, but I have no idea what the future holds. It would have to be absolute dire straights and someone would have to pry them from my arms.
Post # 12
@s2bmrscook: Awww, he’s beautiful. How sad that you had to give him up, but you did the best you could under the circumstances. Nobody should ever judge you for that.
Post # 13
Agreed… I’m sorry you had to give up your pup 🙁
Post # 14
@MrsPanda99: I guess it’s a spin-off of every thread I’ve read this week about giving up pets. Today I just had it lol
@pixiecat: Get this: The woman who petitioned for BSL (in 1988) says that, and I quote, “Two pitbulls broke in through her front door and attacked her in her living room.” Really? Because pitbulls have opposable thumbs to operate front doors? And no one has questioned this. And the BSL is still in place.
Post # 15
I think the issue, well, my issue, is when people give their pets to shelters because they are too lazy to find a way to make things work. Obviously your guy went to a loving home that you had previously arranged should unforeseen circumstances arise. It’s the people who think of their pets as disposable that make me want to cry.
Post # 16
There are no bad breeds -just people who either fail to train them properly or abuse them.
At least you found him a good home. I DESPISE people who put their animals on craigslist or dump them at shelters or leave them behind when they move. Actually despise is way too mellow a word.