Post # 1
Why is it that being a relative seems to give people the right to assume that you are invited to their house? If I was not related would they give me some kind of satisfaction by ASKING to stay here or wondering if coming here uninvited would be a oh-i-don’t-know bad idea?
I get that staying here would save some people some money but guess what…my house is not included in your plans if you don’t have the &^%$ing good manners to talk to ME first.
Post # 3
So rude! How did you respond?
Post # 4
I had to edit because I was just so ticked off I needed to calm down and go about this rationally.
All I said was “Uh-huh”. Like an idiot. “Uh-huh”.
Post # 5
No one can invite themselves to your house even if they are family. A firm I love to have you over for dinner or meetup but I don’t have the time or the space ot host you sorry.
Post # 6
I hate when family members do that. And usually I just meekly respond without thinking.. um okay and then I kick myself later!
Post # 7
@pecanpie: That is how I am. The thing is I can say no and give my reasons but then suddenly I am the bad guy and everyone is throwing guilt trips at me. I have a problem saying no to people and because I live really far away it’s not like people just “dropping in” but is rather a planned thing and I feel like people expect me to be ok with them not even asking to stay here. If I was not a relative, would they have asked to stay here?
I have already been taken advantage of before and by a cousin who went on about how she wanted to stay with me and be around family during a “hard part in her life” well…only to find out that I was a plan B if her hotel was not available. I am still so pissed about that.