(Closed) NWR – would you offer to pay or would you expect your hosts to pick up the tab?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: If someone invited us to dinner for my DH/FI/SO's b'day, I would....
    Expect to pay my share : (50 votes)
    78 %
    Expect the hosts to pick up the tab for both of us : (10 votes)
    16 %
    Other.... : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    5655 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    If I invited a couple to take them out for one of their bdays I would assume that I was treating the lot and pick up the full tab.

    If I was the one being invited I’d offer to pitch in and go from there. lol

    ETA: actually… when the waiter/tress came to take orders I would probably say that mine was separate and then would now right there if I was paying or if they were paying. lol

    Since I never carry cash I usually immediately premise the check being split.

    Post # 4
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Expect to pay and be pleasantly surprised if they offer to.

    Post # 5
    5758 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’d wait to see what happened when the check came. If they grabbed it, I’d leave the tip.

    Post # 6
    3261 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would expect them to pay, since they invited you.

    Post # 7
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’d offer but I know that our friends would pay for me too.

    However, if it were MY bday and we were invited out, my Fiance would pay his share… and our friends would pick up my tab only.



    Post # 8
    2135 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would expect to pay, but hope that since they asked, they offer to pay instead

    Post # 9
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I always expect to pay, regardless of who does the inviting, and if the other couple insists upon paying, then that’s just an added bonus.  I find it weird when people just expect someone else to pick up the tab…. I think that tradition has sort of died away a bit now.

    Post # 10
    2496 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I would offer to pay, but I know that our friends would end up paying for us.

    Post # 11
    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I usually like to offer to pay- dont know what it is, but I feel good sometimes when I pay.. but a lot of the times me and my friends end up having a little argument on whose gonna pick the tab– sometimes they win 😉 lol

    Post # 12
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    They’re hosting so they pay.

    Post # 13
    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    If my friends were like “hey, let’s all go to dinner for your birthday”, then I would expect them to pay for theirs and my FH to pay for ours! I love celebrating my friends bdays with them but do not have the money to just pick up another couples tab plus drinks. 

    Post # 14
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    If Fiance and I were to invite another couple out to celebrate a birthday for one of them, we would definitely pick up the tab. That would just be insanely rude not to.

    Post # 15
    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would expect to pay unless otherwise stated when the bill arrived.

    A friend and I share a birthday month and our friends do a birthday dinner for us every year. I always expect to pay, and usually do. For me it’s more about just being with meh ladiezzzz. (but they usually come bearing gifts, mostly of the alcoholic variety…)



    Post # 16
    1365 posts
    Bumble bee

    I wouldn’t in a million years expect any of our friends to pay. Family, yes, maybe, as they are older than us and we don’t really have money so they sometimes offer to pay. Friends? Never. It’s never happened.

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