- 7 years ago
Happy Friday Bees,
I know this may be a long post. However, I was just wondering if any of you have been in this sort of position before, or have any helpful insight or advice about this sensitive topic.
My 21 year old sister, who I happen to love more than anything, has absolutely nothing going for her right now. She just got her GED after being successfully kicked out of nearly every alternative high school program our town has to offer as a teenager. Why? Because she simply refused to attend. Same goes for employment. She has had one job in her life, and stayed for approximately 4 months. When she got sick of waking up early, she stopped showing up to work. My parents and I have tried to help her find job opportunities but she refuses to follow through and even fill out an application. It’s always “I’ll do it tomorrow”. She wakes up every day between 1-3pm, and basically just “hangs out” and smokes pot with her friends and boyfriend all day.
At this point, she pretty much lives with/mooches off her boyfriend for most of the week, and comes to my parents house on random days. My parents have kept a bedroom set up for her, but she has totally trashed it. At this point, we cannot rely on my sister for anything – if she says she is going to show up for a family function, if she offers to help with something – 9/10 times, she is nowhere to be found. Our father had a severe heartattack last year, and it took me 3 hours to track her down – she was hung over and sleeping at 2pm after a night of partying. Holidays come and go and there is never so much as one gift from her to any member of the family. She refuses to work, so she doesn’t have money – even a handmade card is often too much to ask. Mother’s Day Brunch? She was 2 hours late. My housewarming party? She “got the dates mixed up”. Our dad’s birthday dinner? She showed up in sweat pants and slept on the couch because she was tired.
The other night, she had the nerve to leave her boyfriend’s un-trained puppy at my parent’s house while she left to go to the movies with friends. The puppy barked all night, keeping my parents up. My mom finally got to bed at 4am, her alarm for work went off at 5:30.
My parents are miserable when it comes to my sister, and I know it breaks their hearts that she shows them such little respect and care. My sister and I are all they’ve got as far as kids go, and it pains me to feel like I’m an only child. Sometimes I even question if I’ll someday be able to count on her to be a part of my bridal party, or babysit my future children. It’s really that bad.
Any of you ever been in a similar boat? Thoughts? Thanks for listening, gals.