Post # 1
Every year my husband and I have an argument over Christmas gifts for my brother’s kids. DH wants to send them each a nice gift and I rather send them a card with a check for their college savings account or just a simple card. We live abroad and we’re a bit short on cash at the moment.
I don’t see the point in buying them a gift when they get so much already. My SIL posts pictures of their birthday parties or Christmas mornings and the kids get so much! I grew up poor and I’d only get gifts for my birthday and for Christmas. I don’t really think the kids need any more toys. I rather put small amounts of money toward their future.
Am I being a scrooge?
Post # 3
Send them each a book with a card.
Post # 4
@abricot_chat: Haha honestly I think you’re being a bit of a scrooge, but in the end he ended up being a good guy. Since they’re family, I think you should at least send them a card with a check for their college savings account, but whether you get them that or a gift depends on how you and your husband want the kids to think of you. Do you want to be the cool aunt & uncle who got them one of their favorite toys, or the perfectly nice aunt & uncle, whose gift towards their college savings they don’t appreciate until they’re 17 at youngest, or ever?
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
Can you send them a little gift/something to open & a check? Best of both worlds :]
Post # 6
How about a compromise, a small gift with a cheque for education?
Post # 7
For our nieces and nephews, we contribute to a college savings account that we have already set up for each of them and then we also give them a small (under $20) gift to open as well.
Post # 8
No kid wants a check for Christmas. I’d let the parents take care of the college and get them a nice gift. That’s what we do for our nephews.
Post # 9
@abricot_chat: I will give money and a book to my niece. The last thing she needs are more toys and I don’t care if that’s scroogy. Kids are way too spoiled nowadays.
Post # 10
@ladyamalthea: Haha, yeah, my husband makes that point too! Do you want to be the aunt who lives abroad and sends cool gifts or do you just want to be the aunt who sends cards for every event?
Thank you all for your replies. Everyone makes a good point. Actually, you’ve given me good reasonably priced gift ideas.
Post # 11
I would send them a small toy and a check for their college fund!
Post # 12
@abricot_chat: I’d do something small for each (kids love to open presents, no matter how small!) and a cheque. I don’t think you’re being a Scrooge- Scrooges give nothing at all!