Post # 1
is everyone satisfied with their dr appts? i feel like i’m sorta being jipped off. here’s my experience so far…
1st appointment – confirm the pregnancy. i have irregular periods so i had no idea how far along i was. she asked what symptoms i was having and then wrote out a form to get all my bloodwork done. and i had to schedule an u/s to find out how far along i was.
1st u/s – the u/s tech couldnt find anything externally so had to go internally and then she only found the gestational sac and yolk sac so she said i was too early to really see anything. Called my OB office and they said to just wait til my next appointment (4 wks) before scheduling another u/s.
2nd appointment – after having to reschedule due to my OB having to deliver a baby, I get seen only to find out she was called in yet again to deliver a baby but she didn’t want to leave me hanging since i was her last patient. so she was in a rush which of course i can’t fault her for that, she’s a midwife after all. she used the u/s they have there at her office and thought she saw bleeding and kept saying that i seemed to be still too early to really see anything. and being that she was in a rush, she wrote a form out for me to go to the hospital and get an u/s right away, she said to find out once and for all how far exactly i was. i’m starting to worry, but she was rushing so i didn’t really get to ask her any questions.
2nd u/s – so we head over to the hospital and get our 2nd u/s . the tech asked why my OB sent me there, thinking there was something wrong and i explained everything that happened. she starts the u/s externally and says she doesn’t see anything wrong (sounding rather annoyed at first). she proceeds to do the usual procedure they do i guess, and then after what seems like forever she finally shows us our baby (yay!) but she only points out how far along we are (10 wks) and that everything looks normal and healthy.
now i know i’m only 10 weeks so far, but i feel like i still haven’t gotten a great appointment where we talk about stuff…like i have a list of questions that are piling up (its really not that long but still) and i haven’t gotten to ask anything yet….and both my u/s experiences haven’t been that great so far either. i feel like so far, i’ve been just winging it with the internet and baby books as a guide to this whole pregnancy thing… am i just being silly or should i be having a more fulfilling patient/dr experience at this point?
Post # 3
It really sucks that you haven’t had time to really talk with your pracitioner. I’m sorry that your appointments have left you feel like this during such an exciting time.
Honestly, in the begining as long as everything is looking okay…not much happens at your appointments. Its just a series of general checks ups. However, you should be able to ask questions at each appointment just like you should be able to do with any doctor’s visit. And you should never felt rushed like you have been. I would suggest at your next visit, for you to voice your concern. Calmly but clearly state that you haven’t felt like you’ve been able to discuss anything with your practioner and that you have some questions and would like some information about your pregnancy and what to expect. I would also start keeping a written list of your questions. That’s extremely helpful for both you and your practioner! As a nurse, I encourage patients to do that all the time.
I’m in healthcare and had a lot of experience under my belt when I got pregnant. However, all rationale and comprehension went out the window and was replaced by overwhelming emotion when the tables were turned and this baby was in my belly. My former OB, whom I adore, had a wonderful system in place during my pregnancy. I was always encouraged to ask questions about any aspect of pregnancy, labor, delivery, etc but at the end of each of my appointments, she sat down and reviewed 3 things: 1. What happened during my appointment. 2. What would happen at my next appointment. and 3. What to expect/look out for in the time between this appointment and the next. It was just a simple review that took maybe 3-5 minutes most times but it was enough to reaffirm that she was listening and aware of what was going on and enough to keep me focused.
I think talking to your pracitioner is the first step, though. Good luck and keep us posted!
Post # 4
From everything you’ve said, it sounds like the particular practice is a bit disorganized and perhaps understaffed. You might be better off switching to an OB practice that has a more organized office, organized procedure for pregnancies, etc. At that first appointment, they should have given you tons of information, packets, etc. about having a healthy pregnancy, or at least by the 2nd (most offices won’t even see you until you’re 8 weeks simply because you can’t see anything right when you get that positive pregnancy test, it causes unnecessary worry). However, it sounds like maybe you got pushed off onto a midwife at your 2nd appointment and not your actual doctor? It was hard to tell from your post, but maybe that midwife is just not experienced enough to know what she was talking about??? From everything you said, it seems like she really didn’t know what she was doing, and that would terrrify me- I would definitely not want her anywhere near me or my pregnancy if she’s misdiagnosing bleeding that’s not there and couldn’t even tell you how far along you were accurately!
I would absolutely bring up your concerns at your next appointment regarding the fact that you didn’t feel like you got adequate information or time during your 2nd appointment, and ensure that you get the time to ask all of your questions. You are entitled to that time, and if your OB isn’t going to give it to you, you need to find one that will.
Post # 5
I would definitely bring up your concerns at your next appointment. It sounds as if your first appointment, you weren’t far enough along to be able to see much. The fact that your midwife was rushing at the second appointment is why you couldn’t ask any questions there, and an ultrasound tech can’t answer any questions that an OB or a midwife would be able to. The only thing the U/S tech can do is report back to the OB or midwife what they see.
I’d schedule a follow-up appointment with your midwife and ask all the questions you have. Either that or give her a call and see if she’ll answer your questions over the phone.
Post # 6
I think a big thing here is not really knowing how far along you were. Most people don’t even go in until they are 8-10 weeks, so having the US and determining the date is really all she would do at this point. I would go to your next appointment, which should be like a regular monthly appointment now and see how it goes. If at that point you still don’t feel like you were given enough time/information then I would start looking for a different provider.
Post # 7
Oh I totally get this! With our first my doctor didn’t even give me any do’s and don’t paperwork. I had to ask for any of that stuff. She was very medical and non-caring. Our second doctor was great. Answered my ridiculous questions, took time even when I knew she was busy. She really was exactly what I needed. It’s okay to change doctors in your practice if your’e not comfortable.
Post # 8
thanks everyone. i think this puts me a bit at ease. I was trying to just tell myself the same thing, that it’s early in the pregnancy and that no one even knew how far along i was so thats why its just been crazy. that coupled with the fact that my OB keeps getting called in to deliver a baby at the hospital (which is her job after all!)….i cant fault her but idk, i guess i felt it would be different…
@Dandelion D: “at the end of each of my appointments, she sat down and reviewed 3 things: 1. What happened during my appointment. 2. What would happen at my next appointment. and 3. What to expect/look out for in the time between this appointment and the next.” see, i like that…i what a doctor who will do this with me…
i may just start looking into my options for a different doctor.
Post # 9
Lol, it really must depend on your clinic/doctor. At my first appt, the nurse handed me a book to read and said if I had any questions beyond that book to ask her. The doctor is literally in and out in under 2 minutes each appt– enough time to ask: “Everything ok? No spotting, cramping, or unusual discharge? Still moving?” and to use the doppler to hear her heartbeat. I really prefer that it’s so short and to the point. (I’m 34 weeks now)
If you’re uncomfortable with how things are going, absolutely look into a new doctor. You’re going to be working with this person for a long time! Plus, you (or your insurance) is paying them a lot of money.
Post # 10
When I went to my first appointment, I was about 10 weeks too. I went to one appt. with an OB and one with a midwife. At the hospital, when I was supposed to see the OB, I was actually helped instead by a resident. He was nice enough, but the appointment lasted 15 minutes and he only answered a few questions, told me about some upcoming tests, and then said… see you next month!
At the midwife appointment, I was scheduled for 2 hours – they took me on a tour of the birth centre, addressed my huge list of questions, gave me tons of resources to take home (pamphlets, a book, handouts) and scheduled the next appointment with me.
Needless to say, my personal choice was to go with the birth centre. As this is my first pregnancy, I too have tons of questions and would really like good and attentive care. I would recommend seeing what your options are – if you can have a doula or midwife at your birth, try to get one early and then you can use them as a source of information throughout the pregnancy. I know that doulas are great that way and usually keep in good contact with you.