Post # 1
So I read this article from the guardian newspaper and I found it very interesting.
I do understand that there has been an increase in obesity related illnesses and that is dangerous. HOWEVER, I think it is to also undertsand that people can be overweight or “fat” and be healthy.
The wedding industry puts a lot of pressure on brides to lose weight. So many bees post on this website with questions like “help how do I drop 50 pounds in 3 months?” You CANNOT do that and be healthy. Diets should concentrate on health not a number on a scale. The question should not be how do I lose weight, it should be how do I get healthy!
Ok rant over 🙂
Post # 3
I am actually trying to write a blog post about this! I’m so tired of seeing the posts about wanting to lose weight and doing it with crap supplements or cleanses. That’s DANGEROUS. Those supplements are not approved by the FDA and you have NO IDEA what is really in them.
Post # 4
I do think it’s important to avoid unsafe weight loss methods. But it’s also important to make people aware of the real and serious health risks of obesity. It’s hard because culturally weight is such a sensitive subject and a lot of people get very offended at being labeled obese or being told they need to lose weight. I do understand that, I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life, but I think it’s important for us as a culture to accept that obesity really is a major health risk. I know some people will not like this analogy and I’m not trying to offend, but not all smokers get lung cancer and not all obese people suffer related illness. That doesn’t make either condition less risky, it means that some people are lucky despite the risk.
Post # 5
@Mrs.babycat: I really do feel for “bigger” brides. I get sad when I see them post their photos on here in their gown for advice and they feel they need to add “be nice.” It’s like there’s this whole other set of pressures on full-figured brides other than the ones we all are dealing with: “is this flattering?” “should I lose more weight?” “can I wear the style I want?” I watch STTYD and when a bride cannot fit into her dream gown and starts to cry, I find myself crying right along with her.
A few years ago, I was bigger proponent of being uber concerned about picking something “flattering”, but now that I picked a dress *I* wanted (that has been dubbed “tacky”), it’s like I’m on a mission for everyone to get the dress they want, no matter how they are built or what there style is.
My BFs sister is “full-figured” and that is an understatement. When she gets married, should she invite me to help pick a dress, you bet your ass I’m going to tell her to get what SHE wants, not what WIC or anyone else tells her she should choose since she’s overweight.
All-in-all, “big” brides, are quickly becoming my favorite kind of bride 🙂
Post # 6
@msfahrenheit: I think people are aware of the potential dangers of obesity, I think what people are sick of is strangers judging them on their outward apperance. it is possible to be obese and suffer illnesses because of it, it is also possible to be obese and metabolically fit and healthy, much in the same way as some can be thin and sick, or thin and fit. Unless you are a persons doctor you have no idea how healthy they are based on their body size.
Post # 7
@Mrs.babycat: Im really happy that doctor thinks in terms of health and not weight. Yes I want to lose weight but I mostly want to gain strength and be physically healthy. I know the obesity is a big problem but I have started to see more doctors changing their notions of healthy. If I ever got down to the “ideal” weight for my height I think I would look sickly since every person is so drastically different. They really need to rework everything that is telling people they are healthy. plenty of skinny people are less healthy than their overweight friends.
Post # 8
Beauty and health comes in ALL shapes and sizes. I am a size 12 now (lost another 7 pounds in last two weeks!) and could run and lift weights in circles around my thinner friends. I am very active and consider myself healthy. Just because you meet society’s criteria for beauty doesn’t make you healthy.
That being said obesity is an epidemic and it is growing. The sedintary lifestyle is taking hold like never before and while quick cleanses and immediate results guaranteed supplements are NOT the answer the real answer is often undesirable; healthy eating and exercise. We are a “want it now” society and hard work and dedication is asking too much sometimes.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - FMILs back yard
@msfahrenheit: You’re right, I don’t like that analogy. Smoking is a much bigger risk to your health than being overweight. The whole point the OP was trying to make is that the general public needs to realize moreso than they do that you can be fat AND healthy and that’s not luck… it’s health.
Post # 10
@Treejewel19: this is true, and a sedintary lifestyle is harmful no matter what your body looks like! The more important thing to worry about is promoting an active healthy lifestyle and to get people eating real foods, not processed garbage!
Post # 11
The point is that obesity on its own is a major health risk. I’m really not judging or talk about appearance, but I think it’s misleading to say that health and weight are completely unrelated, they’re not.
Post # 12
I’m just gonna say this. I’m 240 lbs, size 18. My arms wave long after my hands have stopped. I’m *gasp* fat. But know what? I’ve always come away from physicals with a clean bill of health, cholesterol where it should be, no diabetes whatsoever.
My best friends sister, on the other hand, is 105 lbs *soaking wet*, yet she takes more medications than I can count for her poor health. Her cholesterol is off the charts!
Fat =/= unhealthy
Thin =/= healthy.
Post # 13
@msfahrenheit: Agreed. Obesity is a huge health risk factor. To say otherwise is just inaccurate.
Post # 14
As focused as I am on my own appearance, I understand that society’s idea of beautiful and healthy does not measure up with medicine’s idea of beautiful and healthy. I too, have known stick skinny girls with cholesterol levels to rival anyone in the “obese” category.
I have been researching alot about nutrition and my body’s needs along with what the food companies have done to our diet. I am here to tell you that no one is safe.
Why do you think thin people get cancer? or have high cholesterol? It has nothing to do with your weight. It is the garbage you put in your body and your sedintary lifestyle. While a girl who is a 200 something pounds may have better lab results it is not always going to be that way. You cannot maintain an unhealthy lifestyle and it not catch up to you eventually.
Obviously, everyone is made differently and not all bodies are the same. People who are “fit” and “healthy” may not always actually look like a perfect model. However, “you cannot categorize an “obese” person as being “fit” and “healthy.” It is physically impossible for someone to practice proper nutrition and exercise and to remain “obese”
I admit to struggling with body issues my whole life so it makes me extremely judgemental of the bodies of other’s but I do agree that I wish our society would stop making words like “fat” or “obese” the insults. After all, you wouldn’t call somebody you disliked a “diabetic (or insert any disease here) b****”
Post # 15
It’s always ticked me off.
When I was 197 pounds, I could run 5 miles no problem, had lower blood pressure than my 150 lb. brother (90/70) – he got the hypertension! – and my resting heart rate was of 45. No joke…45.
I was a size 12, which some consider fat, but I was healthy! I resent the thought that being overweight automatically means you’re unhealthy. I’m way bigger than 197 now and I miss being that fit…but I definitely was that fit and even then I was 40 lbs. overweight.
Post # 16
@Moonbear17: +1 That is something I’ve only recently started to realize about some of my friends: they care WAY too much about another persons weight. I actually had to look at one of them recently at the pool and say “it’s not your problem, let her wear what she wants. She could be fit as fiddle for all you know, you’re not a doctor.”
I think, for some people, chiding others about their weight in an unsolicited fashion is a socially acceptable form of putting them down. Rarely have I witnessed or experienced someone confronting someone about their weight that came from a place of love or genuine concern. There’s always some tone of superiority.