Post # 1
Who is comfortable with a male OB/GYN? Do you have one? Do you have a preference?
I always just think “Yeah… so why did you choose this specialty? Something drove you to this particular field, so what would that be? What drew you in?”
Unless he has no interest in women at all, there’s going to be something there in the back of his head somewhere, at least some of the time. Maybe only if the woman is attractive to him, but who would want to chance that? Is that creepy to anyone else? lol
I don’t really know why this wouldn’t bother more women, but the majority don’t seem to care much. They say “I want the best doctor”, which is understandable, but most of us have a pretty wide selection. So unless you have a very specific/particular/difficult problem that is best treated by some particular male specialist, I don’t see why anyone would choose a male over female OB/GYN?
So assuming you have one (or will have one), would you be okay with a male OB/GYN? Do you have a preference?
Post # 3
@yanamari: I prefer a female gyno for the comfort reason…but if there was a specific treatment where a male gyno is the best (say very complicated pregnancies or surgeries) then obviously I’d go to the best doc in town, irrespective of whether they are male or female. My health is more important than a few moments of discomfort.
Post # 4
i agree with everything @Aquababes just said. i really would prefer a female, but wouldn’t deny a male if it was absolutely needed.
Post # 5
I had a male before, in fact he was the Dr. that delivered me and that was more weird to me than that he was a man. My female OBGYN moved her office and I wanted to find someone close by so I went to my mom’s Dr. I thought I would be weireded out that he was a man but he was totally profesisonal and I would see a man again. However, I have a female now who is great and was recommended by 2 friends who are also patients. But I went to 2 female OBGYNs that I did not care for so I think it is less about gender and more about personality and ability to make me feel comfortable that they know what they are doing.
Post # 6
I have a male midwife who I’ve been seeing for regular gyno care for years, and he’ll be delivering my baby. I chose him specifically when looking for an ob/gyn because I heard such great things about him. It weirded me out at first, but he’s a great midwife and it’s clear he really loves delivering babies.
Post # 7
@slicey19: I’m quite sure the vast majority ACT completely professional, but you don’t wonder what goes through their mind? Clearly they’re not going to go “omg ur so hott” but you know… haha. Like you can’t tell what they’re thinking, and that’s what would bother me the most.
Like I said, unless I knew they had no attraction to women at all, I think many guys, at least when they started out and had to pick a specialty, had at least some perverted motives…
And what guy, if he’s attracted to women still, and thinks the woman he’s checking out is really attractive, isn’t at least mentally “nice!” about this? I’m sure some have become desensitized, but I’m guessing the majority haven’t, not entirely (like in the crotch of a particularly attractive woman).
Post # 8
@yanamari: I had (gallstone) surgery a few years ago, and the surgeon was male. After surgery they do a procedure where they yank out a bag from your body. I was in the hospital gown and he could see my arse and everything very clearly. My point is, doctors see their patients naked all the time, starting from med school. To them it is no longer a ‘person’, it is a ‘body’. That’s why they often become insensitive to the pain of a patient as well (then the nurses take care of you). When they are in med school, they choose their specialization on the basis of their interest, job prospects etc. I think ‘the joy of touching a pyt’ doesn’t figure prominently on that list. Having said that, it is undeniable that there are perverts in every profession, but I wouldn’t unnecessarily bash male gynos.
Post # 9
My OB/GYN is male – and he’s the one supervising my pregnancy and will be present at the birth. (No midwives here – it’s all down to the OB/GYN). I saw three doctors before him, 1 other male and 2 females – he was the one I clicked with. He is extremely blunt in explaining things, which is just how I like things to be told – there’s no sugar-coating, and everything is extremely factual – but he is also jokey which helps me relax. I am from a male-dominated family and often feel much more comfortable in the company of men than I do women anyway.
Post # 10
I have a female OBGYN! I love her, and I always feel a bit awkward if it’s a male…so I made the switch to the female and i love it!
Post # 11
I really could care less. I see both at the practice I go to and they are all very professional. It’s another day at the office for them. I highly doubt they are getting off on it.
Post # 12
I put I don’t and I never will, however some of the partners at my clinic are male, so it might be one of them delivering baby. I am totally fine with that, as long as it is a good doctor! As for my yearly visits… no. I definitely prefer and feel more comfortable with a female doctor. My mum took me to a male doctor when I was 14 and I cried. Been seeing women ever since!
However, I saw a male for a breast exam last year and he was amazing. He did a better job than many females I have had give me exams- and he brought in a female nurse so that I felt comfortable.
Post # 13
I’ve only had 2 and they were both men. I really didnt care.
Post # 14
my personal obgyn is a male. it just ended up that way due to scheduling. he is wonderful!
i also work with obgyns, a handful of which are male, and are also great. its an exciting field, especially for these guys who work with high risk patients. they really shouldn’t be judged by their sex.
Post # 15
I’ve had a male OBGYN examine me more than once and would be happy to in the future.
This is weird, but I’m actually overall more comfortable with male doctors.
It’s hard for me to admit as a progressive and staunch feminist, but the truth is I have an implicit bias toward men in roles of authority. Teachers, doctors, employers… I can’t explain it and it confuses and hurts me to be aware of it, the dissonance is astounding, but I can’t deny that I feel more comfortable and secure with a man in a role like that.
:-/ I wish I could change it, because it’s awful. Here I am fighting for women to be perceived equally in whatever job they choose and I prefer to submit to men. Even in an OBGYN’s office.
As for the pervert thing, doctors of all parts tell me that they mostly dissociate the body part with the person when they’re working on it and I generally assume that my ladyparts aren’t very interesting to look at. I trust to their professionalism.
Post # 16
I will never go back to a woman. I had two women doctors do an internal exam and neglect to close the speculum and rip it out of me! I ended up in the ER with stitches from bleeding and was bruised and sore for weeks. They actually said “oh I am a woman you cant tell me it hurt that bad.” Umm lady when I needto seek medical attention from your exam there is a problem. Luckily one did stop practicing medicine. I am not sure about the other. Anywhoo I will never see a woman again. Men tend to be more respectful of my female bits and if it is because they think I am hot orI become the object of their fantasy so be it. I would take that any day over the alternative. : (
I realize there are probably good lady gyn’s but last time I sucked up the courage I got bit again. No more! From now on I only will spread these legs for a man :p