(Closed) OB/GYN… female or male?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Would/do you have a male OB/GYN?
    I don't, but I wouldn't mind : (47 votes)
    21 %
    I don't, and I never will! : (81 votes)
    36 %
    I don't, but I'd rather have a male gyno : (4 votes)
    2 %
    I do, but I'm not happy with it/don't have a choice : (7 votes)
    3 %
    I do, and I'm indifferent : (42 votes)
    18 %
    I do, and I prefer it : (25 votes)
    11 %
    No opinion whatsoever between female or male : (22 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    423 posts
    Helper bee

    @yanamari:  I prefer a female gyno for the comfort reason…but if there was a specific treatment where a male gyno is the best (say very complicated pregnancies or surgeries) then obviously I’d go to the best doc in town, irrespective of whether they are male or female. My health is more important than a few moments of discomfort.

    Post # 4
    Member
    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i agree with everything @Aquababes just said. i really would prefer a female, but wouldn’t deny a male if it was absolutely needed.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I had a male before, in fact he was the Dr. that delivered me and that was more weird to me than that he was a man. My female OBGYN moved her office and I wanted to find someone close by so I went to my mom’s Dr. I thought I would be weireded out that he was a man but he was totally profesisonal and I would see a man again. However, I have a female now who is great and was recommended by 2 friends who are also patients. But I went to 2 female OBGYNs that I did not care for so I think it is less about gender and more about personality and ability to make me feel comfortable that they know what they are doing. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    578 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I have a male midwife who I’ve been seeing for regular gyno care for years, and he’ll be delivering my baby.  I chose him specifically when looking for an ob/gyn because I heard such great things about him.  It weirded me out at first, but he’s a great midwife and it’s clear he really loves delivering babies.

    Post # 8
    Member
    423 posts
    Helper bee

    @yanamari:  I had (gallstone) surgery a few years ago, and the surgeon was male. After surgery they do a procedure where they yank out a bag from your body. I was in the hospital gown and he could see my arse and everything very clearly. My point is, doctors see their patients naked all the time, starting from med school. To them it is no longer a ‘person’, it is a ‘body’. That’s why they often become insensitive to the pain of a patient as well (then the nurses take care of you). When they are in med school, they choose their specialization on the basis of their interest, job prospects etc. I think ‘the joy of touching a pyt’ doesn’t figure prominently on that list. Having said that, it is undeniable that there are perverts in every profession, but I wouldn’t unnecessarily bash male gynos.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My OB/GYN is male – and he’s the one supervising my pregnancy and will be present at the birth. (No midwives here – it’s all down to the OB/GYN).  I saw three doctors before him, 1 other male and 2 females – he was the one I clicked with.  He is extremely blunt in explaining things, which is just how I like things to be told – there’s no sugar-coating, and everything is extremely factual – but he is also jokey which helps me relax.  I am from a male-dominated family and often feel much more comfortable in the company of men than I do women anyway.

    Post # 10
    Member
    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have a female OBGYN! I love her, and I always feel a bit awkward if it’s a male…so I made the switch to the female and i love it! 

    Post # 11
    Member
    2815 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I really could care less.  I see both at the practice I go to and they are all very professional.  It’s another day at the office for them.  I highly doubt they are getting off on it.  

    Post # 12
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I put I don’t and I never will, however some of the partners at my clinic are male, so it might be one of them delivering baby.  I am totally fine with that, as long as it is a good doctor!  As for my yearly visits… no.  I definitely prefer and feel more comfortable with a female doctor.  My mum took me to a male doctor when I was 14 and I cried.  Been seeing women ever since!

    However, I saw a male for a breast exam last year and he was amazing.  He did a better job than many females I have had give me exams- and he brought in a female nurse so that I felt comfortable.

    Post # 13
    Member
    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’ve only had 2 and they were both men.  I really didnt care.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1831 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Aquababes:  this!

    my personal obgyn is a male. it just ended up that way due to scheduling. he is wonderful!

    i also work with obgyns, a handful of which are male, and are also great. its an exciting field, especially for these guys who work with high risk patients. they really shouldn’t be judged by their sex.

    Post # 15
    Member
    4660 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’ve had a male OBGYN examine me more than once and would be happy to in the future.

    This is weird, but I’m actually overall more comfortable with male doctors.

    It’s hard for me to admit as a progressive and staunch feminist, but the truth is I have an implicit bias toward men in roles of authority. Teachers, doctors, employers… I can’t explain it and it confuses and hurts me to be aware of it, the dissonance is astounding, but I can’t deny that I feel more comfortable and secure with a man in a role like that. 

    :-/ I wish I could change it, because it’s awful. Here I am fighting for women to be perceived equally in whatever job they choose and I prefer to submit to men. Even in an OBGYN’s office.

    As for the pervert thing, doctors of all parts tell me that they mostly dissociate the body part with the person when they’re working on it and I generally assume that my ladyparts aren’t very interesting to look at. I trust to their professionalism. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I will never go back to a woman. I had two women doctors do an internal exam and neglect to close the speculum and rip it out of me! I ended up in the ER with stitches from bleeding and was bruised and sore for weeks. They actually said “oh I am a woman you cant tell me it hurt that bad.” Umm lady when I needto seek medical attention from your exam there is a problem. Luckily one did stop practicing medicine. I am not sure about the other. Anywhoo I will never see a woman again. Men tend to be more respectful of my female bits and if it is because they think I am hot orI become the object of their fantasy so be it. I would take that any day over the alternative. : (

    I realize there are probably good lady gyn’s but last time I sucked up the courage I got bit again. No more! From now on I only will spread these legs for a man :p

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