Obligated to invite someone because they got us a gift?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley


Post # 4
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

no. You don’t have to invite her.

Post # 5
10876 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

No. You are not obligated to invite this individual to your wedding. All that you will owe to her will be a note of thanks for her thoughtful and generous gift.

Post # 6
8844 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Nope, sometimes people just get or make you wedding gifts because they’re excited for you, even though they’re not invited.  There’s no expectation to invite just based on the gift.

However, I would make sure that your grandma knows who is invited.  You don’t want her going around insinuating that all her extended family is invited.  It’ll be way less awkward to talk to her asap about this, than to deal with a bunch of incorrect assumptions.  Have your FI’s mom or dad get on that asap.

Post # 7
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would give her a favour (if you are planning to give one at your wedding) 🙂 

Post # 8
11588 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You never have to invite anyone, but it seems like grandma hinted that they are being invited.  If that’s the case, the situation needs to be dealt with. 

Make sure you write a lovely, heartfelt thank you for the quilt, as they can be very tiring and time-consuming to make!

Post # 9
133 posts
Blushing bee

Nope, but you need to make sure Grandma stops spreading your information around!

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