(Closed) obsessed????

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My FI actually just thinks its cute. And he occasionally says "Hey, why don’t you ask "this question" on that wedding board you go to and see what they say! 

Just laugh and respond "You’ll thank me once you see how many great ideas I have for our wedding!"

Boys don’t have the same "wedding gene" that we do! If it gets to be too much, just gently remind him that you are doing all of the research for BOTH OF YOU. For YOUR wedding together! 

Post # 4
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469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I’d say I was doing "research" because you want to have a cost-effective wedding.  Let him know you’d be more than happy to stop your research and just purchase whatever you want, and that he better get out his checkbook 🙂  That’ll shut his mouth very quickly!

Post # 5
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

Is he saying it lightheartedly?  Or does he seemed aggravated?  He needs to give a little, I’d think.  Girls love this stuff.  Did you explain to him that you were dreaming of this since you were three?  (Maybe it’s just me.)

Maybe he’s feeling other things.  Are you giving up FI time to spend time doing wedding stuff?  Is he concerned that the budget will get out of hand?

Maybe it’s nothing.  Maybe he just doesn’t "get it" because he’s a boy.  But try to see if you can figure out if it’s something more.  If not, then explain to him this is like your Super Bowl or you Porsche 911.  He’ll be able to relate to that.

Post # 6
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My fiance thinks I’m spending too much time looking at the wrong things; he would rather I focus on the invitations and the food, but I’m more interested in the decor and logistics of it all right now.  He’s been a pretty good sport, so I just try to appease him and show him some stuff that he’ll be more interested in and then go back to my stuff!  We still have a few months, so I’m just enjoying not feeling pressured and considering all my options.

Post # 7
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220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My fiance thinks I am obsessed but he doesn’t understand that I really enjoy the planning.  He sees it as work; I think it is fun!

I do find that I tend to "obsess" over certain things.  Right now it is invitations. Two days ago it was china patterns.  But I love this!! 

Post # 8
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh lord, my fiance says the same thing. Early on in our planning he designated "no wedding wednesday" and I wasn’t allowed to talk about the wedding, ask him anything about the wedding, or be on my laptop AT ALL. "No wedding wednesday" has stopped as we get clsoer to the date but it’s totally normal! Think about how many times he discusses sports or something. It’s your new hobby and he should recognize that and deal with it. Besides, boys have no idea what goes into planning – it’s a process! Good luck!

Post # 9
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217 posts
Helper bee

Oh man.. I just read "no wedding Wednesday" to my fiance and he said yeah that’s a good idea and wants to implement it. DOH!!

Post # 10
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2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My husband had (and continues to have) NO IDEA what it takes to plan a wedding.  He also wasn’t invested in most of the planning.  He just wanted to be married.

So I think he didn’t understand all the research I did.

Your hubby is probably the same way.

I really doubt you’re obsessed.

Post # 11
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I am obsessed and proud!!

I think it’s like the SATC movie…men are only really interested in the purpose: you and him together.  They don’t care about the process: the wedding and planning.  Don’t get annoyed with him, he’s just more focused on the Ever After part than the wedding.

Post # 12
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152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Haha MightySapphire… me too! Obessed and Proud. I do try to contain myself, but how many times in your life are you going to really be able to be SOOO  obsessed about something that is actually for the benefit of BOTH of you!

Post # 13
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364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

OMG, my FH used to say stuff like that to me all the time.  He couldn’t get excited about it until he felt like he had a stake in it, so as it was his turn to find the wedding bands and help choose favors, he started to appreciate all the research I had basically done for him.  Just tell him it hurts your feelings and at the very least maybe you can trick him into to taking you for ice cream to say sorry 😉

Post # 14
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2022 posts
Buzzing bee

My FI sometimes will call me "bridezilla" but it is only in jest.  I know it is a joke and it doesn’t bother me.  He is interested in the big picture and likes to partake in decision making but gets overloaded with details easily.

Post # 15
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221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

My fiance is baffled that I will spend $10 on a wedding magazine only to rip the pages out.

Post # 16
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349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Rancho Bernardo Inn

Yes my fiance teases me all the time.  I have to buy my wedding magazines when he is not around.  Although he has to give credit for some of the good ideas I’ve found from magazines, blogs etc.  He also was the one who encouraged me to start my own wedding blog…so some of the obsession is from his own doing. 

@ angelastheboss: I wish I could rip the pages out, but I feel guilty ruining my favorite Martha magazine etc.  Instead I mark with post-its and now I have a pile of magazines in his room because I ran out of room…

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