Oct '14 Bees! 11 months to go….Lets chat!

posted 3 years ago in October 2014
  • poll: Do you feel behind in planning??
    Yes- I am soo lost : (8 votes)
    25 %
    Yes-but I am catching up : (7 votes)
    22 %
    Nope soo far ahead of the game! : (15 votes)
    47 %
    Planning?!?! WHAT PLANING!?!?!?!? : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @kansas_nurse:  So far, I have my venue booked and my photographer booked.  The venue has its own caterer so I am all set there.  We just got our engagement pictures done, and I’m starting to look at save the dates that I like.  I have about 1/2 of my centerpieces.  

    Here’s what I want to do next:

    Send save the dates, and pick out attire for everyone (I want to pick out my dress in Jan).  I feel like my planning will be put on hold until the holidays are over! 


    Post # 4
    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House



    Let’s see…in order, I think of booking.


    Photographer (friend)…booked, contract, even though he’s a friend

    Planner (also florals)…booked 

    ETA: Bar Service…booked!



    Dress…purchased, should be here in February. Also bought and received custom veil, shoes, and half price headpiece and sash (woot!!)

    Caterer…deposit paid, still need to finalize contract for vendor meals (otherwise they bill us the pp rate, and frankly…no can do!)

    Hair and Makeup…FI is sending check this week

    Rentals…selected, waiting to hear from planner on deposits, also need to try to cut some costs here

    Cake…narrowed down to 3 bakers, tastings Monday after Thanksgiving

    Invitations…a friend is going to design them, we are pow-wowwing as soon as this semester is done, and hope to send to the two (maybe three) possible printers mid-late January, so save the dates can go out in February.

    As far as design/palette goes, I’m taking it as it comes! We picked out tan/ivory/seamist linens, boys are going to be in blue, and I’m working on a mismatched palette for bridesmaids. I’m still undecided on how bold I want floral colors to be, although I am LOVING greenery right now.

    Tiny bits of bridesmaid drama…lost one, but as a friend, not just as a bridesmaid. Sucks, but moving on. My other girls have been God-sends.

    Oh, and narrowing down places for a bachelorette!




    Post # 5
    298 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @kansas_nurse:  we have:

    venue – booked, deposit down

    photographer – booked, deposit down, epics taken

    foods – picked (thru venu)

    cake – cupcakes (also thru venu)

    invites, rsvp cards, envelopes, stamps



    All centerpiece items

    Burlap for table runners, just need to cut

    my dress – ordered!

    guestbook & ink (wet wipes for fingers!)

    bags for the favors (can’t get the rest til closer, till go bad!)

    hotel block – booked

    hair & makeup – booked

    Flowers – using friend as “florist” only having flowers for me and the girls.



    Still need: JOP, girls dresses, guys tuxes, gifts for everyone, rehersal dinner decided….


    What am I forgetting?



    Post # 6
    298 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @kansas_nurse:  i also need to make a bunch of things for decor… little signs and things like that. oh and we booked the dj!

    Post # 8
    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House

    @MrsConnolly2bee:  maybe super obvious, and I’m assuming yes, but all the tables and chairs are through the venue?

    Also, don’t forget accessories!

    Post # 9
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I have another thread where I listed what I’ve done/haven’t done, I’ll just copy pasta [its SUPER long]

    I’m a little over $3,000 into planning the wedding, and feeling great! I feel like we’ve already accomplished so much, and I’m running out of “little things” that can be purchased now.

    So here’s my list of what I’ve gotten accomplished [and what I still have to go!]

    And also, please let me know if you think anything is missing that should be on here!

    Oh, and I also tried to put in “order” to make it less confusing.



    Bridal Shower [not throwing my own party, but my aunt gave me the decor to put with the other wedding stuff] Colors are pink & teal

    4 bags cutlery

    4 pkgs napkins

    4 pkgs dessert plates

    4 pkgs dinner plates

    4 white table covers

    6 decor kits [streamers, centerpieces, balloons, ect

               Working On..








    Bachlorette Party


              Working On..


    Dinner, Entertainment



    Welcoming Party

             Working On..






    Guest Welcome Bags

             Working On..





    Save the dates

    Thank you cards

              Working On..






              Working On..

    Still haven’t even started



             Working On..

    Ceremony Space

    Reception Space


    Party Bus




              Working On..

    Getting bouquet package from Sam’s Club. Also getting bulk roses for centerpieces.


    Brides Attire

    Dress [and garment bag, had to pay for that as well]


    Jewelry [bracelet, necklace, earrings, tiara]

    Shoes [flats, wedges & flip flops]


              Working On..

    Bra or corset


    Hair Makeup



    Charm for bouquet

    Alterations [of course]



    Bridesmaids Attire

    2 bracelets

    2 earrings

    2 clutches

    2 “will you be my bridesmaid” boxes

              Working On..







    Grooms Attire

             Working On..

    Suit or Tux







    Thor shirt [he wants to do one of those pictures with the super hero shirts!]



    Groomsmen Attire

             Working On..

    Pretty much the same as grooms!




    60 fuschia chair ties

    6 pomanders

    12 shepards hooks

              Working On..

    Flower girl basket



    Love letter ceremony



    Cocktail Hour

    150 black napkins

    50 fuschia napkins

    6 packages cocktail forks

    6 packages cocktail spoons

    40 mini bowls [veggies & dips]

    40 mini pedestal cups [yogurts & mousse]

    40 mini square containers [fruits]

    100 bamboo sticks [angel food cake & strawberry kabobs]

    5 round plastic trays [finger sandwiches]

    6 rectangle trays [mixed fruit in waffle cones]

              Working On..

    All the actual food




    Guest Books

    2 pink paint pens

    2 white paint pens

    84 wishing tree tags

              Working On..

    The actual tree of the wishing tree

    Sign-in guest book

    Large mirror

    decal for mirror [every love story is beautiful but ours is my favorite]



    Gift Table

    Card holder cage


              Working On..


    Possible swag?




    44 black satin chair covers

    1 black satin rosette runner

    8 white satin tableclothes

              Working On..

    More chair covers

    More tablecloths

    Not sure what I’m going to do for chair ties?



    Buffet Tables

    2 salad bowls

    12 salad topping bowls

    6 dressing squeeze bottles

    2 gravy pourers [not sure what to use them for]

    2 salad tongs

    3 crock pots

    4 serving forks

    4 serving spoons

    44 coffee mugs

              Working On..

    All dressings, condiments, butters & salt & pepper

    Catered food [fazoli’s]

    2 drink dispensers

    coffee urn

    creamers, sugars, stirrers



    Table Decor

    bride & groom toasting flutes

    80 dinner plates

    64 salad plates

    48 soup bowls

    64 forks, spoons, knives

    10 breadstick bowls

    10 water pitchers

    10 wine buckets

    100 “thank you” coasters

    11 pink under table lights

    12 chalkboard table # sign

    12 11″ cylinder vases

    12 9″ cylinder vases

    12 wine “thank you” wine bottle tags

    18 “i-spy” holders

    24 sauce cups [to go with breadstick baskets]

    24 submersible pink leds

    30 pkgs water beads [for centerpieces]

    36 taper candle holders

    44 picture frame escort cards

    44 pink champagne glasses

    48 kissing bells w/ tags

    48 place setting “thank you” tags [for bridal party]

    48 6, 7, and 8″ tealight candle holders

    12 heart shaped butter bowls

    60 led tealight candles

    60 water glasses

    1 dozen fuschia napkins [poly]

    8 salt & pepper shaker sets

              Working On..

    More salt & pepper shakers

    More plates & bowls

    More cutlery



    Ceiling Decor

    4 30ft organza rolls

    4 30ft bright white lights

              Working On..

    8 30 ft organza rolls

    8 30 ft bright white lights

    3 4 ft chandeliers

    exension cords

    cord ramp [for safety]




    Cake Table

    7 tier cake stand

    1 chocolate fountain

    2 punch fountains

    100 personalized napkins

    200 bamboo sticks [for chocolate fountain]

    3 plates for chocolate fountain [fruits, marshmallows, pretzels]

    70 punch cups

    cutter & server

              Working On…


    All food items


    Chocolate for fountain



    Self-Serve Bar

    11 bottles assorted alcohol

    111 champagne glasses

    4 signature drink chalkboard signs

    40 martini glasses

    40 square contains & cocktail spoons [for jello shots]

    48 toe tags [to mark drinks]

    Assorted cups

              Working On

    Drapery for the bar

    6 bar stools

    More Alcohol

    More cups



    Cigar Bar

    12 cylinder containers

              Working On..


    Small table for cigar bar

    Tablecloth for table


    Cute basket to put matches in




    Dessert/Candy Buffet

    100 shot glasses [nuts, mints]

    12 mini plates [for displaying chocolates]

    12 small plates [for displaying brownies]

    2 brownie servers

    2 cheesecake servers

    2 glass cylinder containers [candy]

    2 large martini glasses [candy]

    2 large pedestal bowls [candy]

    2 square containers [candy]

    2 small cylinder bowls [candy]

    4 round containers [candy]

    6 candy scoops

    7 tongs

    6 round platters

    2 eiffel tower feather decorations

    love is sweet banner

    clear mini bags [for cake pops for other small goodies]

    2 mini cupcake stands

    100 kraft paper bags

              Working On…








    Photo Booth

    2 circle backdrops

    2 damask backdrops

    dry erase conversation bubble

    photo sign props

    photo stick props

              Working On..

    Poloroid cameras


    Dry erase marker

    Cute basket for guests to add pictures



    Outside Smoking Area

              Working On..

    Patio table set

    Drapery for doors leading to smoking area

    tabletop heater



    Firepit Area


              Working On..

    Hay bales

    Fabric to cover tops of bales




    Late Night Snack

              Working On..

    2 Crock pots



    Condiment bowls

    Nacho containers






    Car decor Kit

    Just married flip flops

              Working On..

    3 night stay at casino

    3 night stay at Sybaris

    3 night stay at Chicago

    3 night stay at Raddison

    Spending $$$

    Rental Car



    Post # 10
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I feel like we are right where we need to be at the current moment, as there is alot of things we CAN’T do yet [order the food, can’t book the ceremony space until Jan 1st, ect ect].

    Our wedding budget is around $21,000 with the honeymoon, but I hope to keep it much, much lower than that!

    Post # 11
    26 posts
    • Wedding: October 2014


    Wow! Reading yours and the comments of previous posters makes my stomach feel a bit queasy! I’ve only just now booked my ceremony and reception venue yestday. The minister of the church is doing the ceremony, so there’s no need to book an officiant. My reception venue includes the cake through a third party, catering,  bar service, and standard linens (with the option to rent specialty linens). We have not finalized a color scheme or the wedding party.  I did go try on dresses a few weeks back, but at the time I didn’t have a venue, so now I need to find a dress that is fitting. A second-cousin of mine DJ’s, and I asked him if he could be our DJ and said yes but that was months ago and we haven’t spoken since then. Not to mention, I feel a bit awkward about it because we aren’t close, and he probably would not be attending otherwise. I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed with everything that has to be done, and I’m the type to stress out over the smallest of details. I fear this may overshadow the joys of being engaged and planning a wedding.

    Post # 12
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @FutureMrsMonit:  Don’t feel overwhelmed! This is why I made a super long, organized list. Every few days I pick off a few things from my list I want to accomplish, whether it be something small or large.

    So far I haven’t had really any stress at all [well, a bit of stress because I thought we were inviting around 70.. but our list is current 100+].

    Post # 13
    2581 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    @kansas_nurse:  Wow, you’re doing well!


    We have…


    – Booked the church and reception venue (reception venue provides catering too)


    – Booked Photographer


    – Booked florist, and church florist


    – Bought my dress


    – Bought my ring


    – Asked all the bridal party people to be in the party.




    Wow, that looks like less than I thought I’d done. I’m chasing my parents to get the number for the DJ, since they know a guy who knows a guy, and I’ve got the number for the lady who runs the church choir, so I need to call them too. My FH has an idea of what he’d like for a wedding ring, but he’s cool with not getting that til next year. He’s hoping to look in the sales for a suit.




    I’ve basically selected the bridesmaid dress, and the girls all seem to like it, but we won’t order that until a bit closer to the time; same with the flower girls, we found a gorgeous dress for them at the store that I got my dress from.




    I’ve been swimming a lot recently! Whilst part of my motivation is the wedding, I’ve been a bit antsy about my weight for a while, so it’s really about building good habits for the future and maintaining my body to be the way it should be, and the way I want it. I spent ages trying to get myself into running, and that just made me cross and unmotivated because I hate it, but I remembered that swimming is an exercise, and one I love, so I’ve been trying to go between two or three times a week (although only managed once the last couple of weeks because we’ve been busy), and swimming at least 1km a time. I’d like to swim further, I managed 1.4km in my session last week, but the problem with the location of the swimming pool is that when I go it’s hit or miss whether there’s loads of people there or not. I’m looking forward to the Christmas holidays when all the students go home and it quietens down! I reckon I could easily get up to 2km a time if it’s not busy.


    Post # 14
    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley

     Well I thought I was ahead of schedule… That is until I read the thread comments! (I’m looking at you @MrsConnolly2bee:  & @jenilynevette:  … Wow good job ladies!  You are so on it I feel like a lagger!). So far I have the following:

    Wedding coordinator – booked, paid, & strategy meeting done

    Venue (ceremony, reception, after party, guest lodging) – booked, deposit

    Food & beverage – tasting done, menu 99% sure we’ve decided on everything

    Dj – (ceremony/cocktail hour: live music, transition to dj for reception) booked, received contract, mailing deposit tomorrow

    Photographer & cinematographer – booked, deposit, engagement pics done

    Photo booth booked

    My dress – bought, it should be ready in may. Veil, shoes & my jewelry done too

    Guest list done, about 50% of addresses (did I mention we have a 330 person guest list!)

    Bridesmaid gifts purchased 

    Cake topper, 100 pashminas, 200 mini flashlights ordered

    Meeting with rentals company on saturday

    Need to:

    decide on florist – I have floral inspiration picked out

    Finalize where we’ll get the cake (first tasting in Jan)

    Get mr’s custom ring made

    Invitations & paper 

    Book hair & makeup

    Coordinate Friday golf tournament for the guys

    Decide on rehearsal dinner location

    Oh & about 10,000 other things!

    Yep… Officially back in panic mode now!





    Post # 15
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m currently working on getting my bridesmaids boxes out, though. Picking out everything was super fast but man, shipping takes forever!

    I got some super cute cigar boxes, ordered matching rhinestone shirts for my girls [non-wedding related], lip gloss, eye shadows, perfume, keychain, photo frame, cell phone dust plugs [cute ones], and mini coin purses.

    Once I get everything in the box, I’ll close it, and on top put their bridal clutch, earrings & bracelet for the big day – and wrap everything all up in lace, with a tag that says, “will you be my bridesmaid?”.

    Can’t wait to finish them!

    Post # 16
    2087 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014


    The wedding planning process has definitely been a learning curve for me when it comes to meddling relatives. At the beginning I used to get really upset every time my sister criticised my wedding choices- venue, date, flowers, cost etc. Now I don’t talk things through with her. I think she’s noticed and is now going out of her way to be helpful rather than critical 🙂

    So! The things I have done so far:

    Booked venue
    Booked caterers
    Booked photographer
    I have my dress 🙂
    Ordered wedding bands
    Bought FG dress
    Chosen other BM dresses
    Booked florist & ordered flowers
    Booked DJ
    Booked musician for ceremony/wedding breakfast
    Bought supplies to make invitations
    Booked hotel for night of

    I think I’ve done pretty well so far. This is a list of things I still need to do:

    Book Cars
    Make invites
    Order jewellery
    Hair trial
    Makeup trial
    Pick veil/shoes
    Order suits for the men
    Buy thank you presents
    Book honeymoon- we will be doing this last minute

    I like that this list is much shorter!! Because I’m waiting for my ring to be made I’ve kinda stopped planning anything else.

    Over the Christmas break I will be making the invitations. I will be ordering my jewellery and the other BM dresses in February. I’m quite enjoying the down time at the moment!


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